Sexual attraction to a narcissistic friend

[ShyViolet]

I mean, this girl is supposedly your friend, right?  I think it would be nice if you at least text her "Hey, how are you?  Is everything ok?"

It would be pretty cruel to have sex with her and then just never talk to her again.  She'll think she was just used for sex.

But if she doesn't respond positively to your attempt to reach out, then just leave her alone after that.

[dramafreezone]

7 hours ago, nme said:

Later that day, after walking for a bit in a park next to her house, I tried kissing her as I dropped her off, but she pushed me away and said she only kissed me the night before as she was loaded on drugs that she was taking...? It was so awkward, and yeah, I’m left confused, and it’s been a few days and she hasn’t texted me at all. What gives? Should I initiate contact?

If she in fact uses drugs, maybe take this as a reprieve and move on, this probably would just be headed down a path of pain and destruction.

[stillafool]

5 hours ago, nme said:

So what do you think is going on here? Should I reach out? Is she feeling hurt; did I do something wrong? Since there’s no communication, I don’t know if I should reach out? Continue to help her move out?

I think she regrets having sex with you because she sees you as a friend and is not sexually attracted to you.  Being high on drugs (and probably not sleeping pills), she's ashamed of her bad decision to have sex with you.  This probably wasn't her first bad decision.  I know she's 18 but not innocent and this is why she doesn't even have a key to her parents home and they locked her out.

[smackie9]

She had a bad night...had some low self esteem going on there/emotional turmoil and was just looking to be needed/feel wanted...it was a one and done sexual healing, as a friend of mine would have put it. hey at a young age lots of people make those kind of mistakes. I'm sure she's processing what happened, and wants to let it be.

As for you, send her a text asking if she's doing ok and if she needs someone to talk to you are just a text away.

[Yosemite]

The optics on this situation are really awful. She called you crying and high and you took her to a motel and had sex with her. Sorry, but that sounds creepy and predatory. If she's still in high school, it sounds even more scummy. I'm finding it hard to believe that you had no idea that she was high. Why did you take her to a motel, why didn't you take her to your place and give her your bed while you slept on the couch? Or you could've left her at the motel and slept at home and then picked her up and taken her home the next day.

If you had been more focused on being a stand-up guy instead of your physical desires, this situation would've had a better end result. She's 18, her mom locked her out, she had nowhere to go, she probably had no money, and she was crying and high...it would've been ideal if you had exhibited some self-restraint.

She was in distress; she wasn't flirting with you. She needed help and made the mistake of turning to you. She was too young and naive to know that many men would react exactly like you did to a woman in need of help. She's probably learned some life lessons about "friendship" with men from this situation.

I think that you should leave her alone and I think that she's too young for you especially if she's still in high-school.

[nonme90]

Recently, a random girl from my home country starts following me on Instagram. (Pretty certain she’s a real girl based on her posts, tagged photos, and overall account activity.) At first, I ask who she is and why she followed me, and she politely apologized and said she followed me on accident. Understandable, so I leave it at that and just ignored it, thinking she’ll probably just disappear, like most random followers do. Couple days later, however, she starts initiating conversations, saying stuff like “good morning” and “what’s up”. After exchanging a few messages and brief self-introductions, says she’s interested in what I sound like in real life and asked me to send her voice messages. Kinda confused by that request, since this is the first time a random girl has asked me that. Most of my friends say it’s a genuine request, but I don’t know, should I continue playing along or am I being played?

[basil67]

I don't trust internet strangers who get in contact.  If I were you, I'd assume she's a scammer and will soon ask if she can visit you, but need money to do it.  Or she'll have other financial problems and need your money to sort it out.

All in all, I'd block her.

[Wiseman2]

1 hour ago, nonme90 said:

 asked me to send her voice messages. Kinda confused by that request, since this is the first time a random girl has asked me that. 

How far away is she? Is this worth pursuing for you?  It's interesting she won't speak on the phone but wants voice notes from you.

It may be best, since she solicited you, to assume this might be a scammer or catfish unless proven otherwise.

Don't give out any personal information because she seems to be setting the table for that as the next move.