Lookingforlove98 Posted February 15, 2022 Posted February 15, 2022 We had a good date. I said “I think you seem really cool and I like kissing you, but I totally get if you’re not feeling it” He said “you seem really smart and sweet and I like kissing you and my cats love you — which is a big deal” ??? Does he seem like he might still be interested ???? He didn’t address the last part
Wiseman2 Posted February 15, 2022 Posted February 15, 2022 46 minutes ago, Lookingforlove98 said: We had a good date. He said “you seem really smart and sweet and I like kissing you and my cats love you — which is a big deal” Where was the first date? It seems to have gone quite well. Did he mention going out again?
stillafool Posted February 15, 2022 Posted February 15, 2022 4 hours ago, Lookingforlove98 said: I said “I think you seem really cool and I like kissing you, but I totally get if you’re not feeling it” Why did you tell him this^? 1
glows Posted February 15, 2022 Posted February 15, 2022 4 hours ago, Lookingforlove98 said: We had a good date. I said “I think you seem really cool and I like kissing you, but I totally get if you’re not feeling it” He said “you seem really smart and sweet and I like kissing you and my cats love you — which is a big deal” ??? Does he seem like he might still be interested ???? He didn’t address the last part The interest seems lukewarm. He actually did indirectly address your last part. He told you you seem “really smart” indicating you’ve deduced correctly. This seems like a casual hook up or fwb. If you have to question or aren’t certain about a man’s intentions he likely isn’t very interested in dating you. Someone who is very interested will be treating you as gold and attuned to all you say and do. Raise the bar if you’re stuck in something mediocre.
Author Lookingforlove98 Posted February 15, 2022 Author Posted February 15, 2022 (edited) 50 minutes ago, glows said: The interest seems lukewarm. He actually did indirectly address your last part. He told you you seem “really smart” indicating you’ve deduced correctly. This seems like a casual hook up or fwb. If you have to question or aren’t certain about a man’s intentions he likely isn’t very interested in dating you. Someone who is very interested will be treating you as gold and attuned to all you say and do. Raise the bar if you’re stuck in something mediocre. Hi why reallly smart means hookup /fwb just for future knowledge? We had a good date , but we made out. But his response actually made me feel like sexually attraction wasn’t strong enough because he talked about how nice and sweet and his cats? Not really physically when we were together he said I’m very pretty and an hour after the date he said he missed me already. Because I always just doubt guys interest in me, always haha Edited February 15, 2022 by Lookingforlove98
smackie9 Posted February 15, 2022 Posted February 15, 2022 (edited) That quote says debbie downer. Try not do the passive/aggressive approach. men like women that are confident. Confident in your self enough not to question it. Edited February 15, 2022 by smackie9 2 1
glows Posted February 15, 2022 Posted February 15, 2022 1 hour ago, Lookingforlove98 said: Hi why reallly smart means hookup /fwb just for future knowledge? We had a good date , but we made out. But his response actually made me feel like sexually attraction wasn’t strong enough because he talked about how nice and sweet and his cats? Not really physically when we were together he said I’m very pretty and an hour after the date he said he missed me already. Because I always just doubt guys interest in me, always haha Don't doubt yourself so much. I know that is difficult to say and it's like telling a person predisposed to anxiety not to be anxious. Change the way you think about dating or potential partners. Start looking at what you want ideally in a partner instead of questioning whether someone likes you. The focus is on whether they should be in your life at all. It sounds like he was flirting with you and making small talk.
princessaurora Posted February 15, 2022 Posted February 15, 2022 7 hours ago, Lookingforlove98 said: We had a good date. I said “I think you seem really cool and I like kissing you, but I totally get if you’re not feeling it” This is such an insecure statement and wreaks of low self esteem. You want to project positivity, not negativity. You should have left that whole second part off. Flip the script, what would you think of a guy that said that to you?
aloneagain63 Posted February 18, 2022 Posted February 18, 2022 self depracating jokes are fine and great. self put down comments really aren't. They put the other person in a bad spot. Is she/he fishing for compliments? Are they trying to guilt trip me? Do they have low self esteem? That sounds needy. CLINGER ALERT!!!!!!! ABORT ABORT ABORT!!!!! Just be you. If the other person likes what they see, they'll be back for more 1 1
running4life Posted February 20, 2022 Posted February 20, 2022 If its hard to tell, gather more research by spending time together. More moments to help determine that. Take things slow. Dont rush
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