arsenalfc9 Posted October 22, 2005 Posted October 22, 2005 Hey all, I sorta have some questions in mind I need some clarification on... Basically there's this girl in one of my Coll classes that I have an interest in. The thing is this girl is quite shy with ppl outside of her social circle. Other than talking to her in a couple of group discussions and making her laugh in class, she often refuses to look at me or smile back when I try to smile or say hi to her in the Coll hallways and stuff (I'm pretty sure she doesn't have a BF either), but there are other times when she actually does says hi or smile back. I'm quite the extrovert at Coll and always greet my friends in the halls, so strangely enough she's the only one that acts this way with me in the Coll hallways. My question to all is, by the limited info that I've displayed here, is the interest only flowing one way (from me to her, not her to me), and how do shy girls often show signs of interest or act when they are interested in a guy? Also, I usually find shy girls boring because conversations with them often become end up being a "one-sided" conversation. So, I'm actually in a bind here because I don't know if this issue is worth pursuing... Thanks in advance for the help...
impuls3 Posted October 22, 2005 Posted October 22, 2005 if u want her, go get her... right away when i started to read this i instantly noticed and normally would have replied... "she has no interest in you, go find someone else" but if she really is a shy girl, you really have to make her feel comfortable around you and get in her little social circle... so next time instead of a simple 'hello and smile' start talking to her, but take control of the whole conversation so she doesnt feel awkward. ask her how her day is but ur probably going to expect a one word answer such as "good" so then hit her with another question and she'll probably open up a little... cheers
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted October 22, 2005 Posted October 22, 2005 this girl is quite shy with ppl outside of her social circle. Sounds like you need to become a part of her social circle then! As one who doesn't like to talk in class either, I can sympathize with her. My boyfriend likes to tell the story of how he and I met (with some exaggerations!). We were both beginning grad school, and he and I were the first two people there at our first class. Ten or so chairs were set up, and when I arrived, I chose to sit on the other side of the room from where he was already seated. He had wanted me to sit down next to him and strike up a conversation. Over the weeks (and months) we got to know each other because we had class after class together, despite my initial shyness. He became very much a part of my social circle. It took us a year of getting to know each other, but now we're dating. It can be done- good luck!
westernxer Posted October 22, 2005 Posted October 22, 2005 Ask her if she's happy about Arsenal's victory in Europe this past week. Just kidding.
Author arsenalfc9 Posted October 22, 2005 Author Posted October 22, 2005 westernxer... I would if I knew she was at all into football/soccer or anything... but man, I don't know diddly-squat bout her likes & dislikes... but I'm no doubt happy bout the Arsenal win over the past week, Go Gunners... HEHE oh_what_am_i_doing... it took u and ur guy about a whole year before u guys started going out eh? Wow, that requires a lot of patience and effort on the guy's part that's for sure... I on other hand am still contemplating if its worth me trying to win this girl over... Still, if you don't mind me asking, with your initial shyness, how did u show ur interest in your BF in the beginning???
oh_what_am_I_doing Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 Hmmm... How'd we break the ice? The first quarter he and I met we didn't sit by each other, but our class sizes were so small (only about ten-twelve people per class) you couldn't help but get to know each other. We had two classes together, back to back, so we saw each other for four straight hours. Also, the classes were very interactive and discussion-oriented. By the second quarter, he and I were sitting beside each other in each class, and that continued throughout the third and fourth quarters also. (Class was only once a week, so we didn't see each other very often, though). He and I were always in groups together when the class broke up into groups for discussions. Also, he and I were on the same team for a debate project, and so we exchanged email addresses and phone numbers and got together at the library one day to work on the project. I think the one thing that brought us closer together, though, was knowing he walked across campus to his apartment, when everyone else in the class commuted and had cars parked in the garage nearby. One day the weather was absolutely cruddy, and so I asked him if he'd like me to take him home so he didn't have to walk. He agreed, and then it just became a regular thing. One night he said I should come in sometime and see his place. That didn't happen for awhile though. The following quarter I finally did go in to his place, and we played a board game. Then Monday night became "board game night" for that whole quarter. By then, you could have cut the sexual tension between us with a knife. The rest is history.
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