How long is too long to have not recovered from a breakup?

[Kelpy]

On 2/14/2022 at 2:48 PM, BaileyB said:

It should be getting better with time, not worse. 

I always viewed it as an up and down thing that isn't linear.

This seems like a very good decision. 

Very true when you are younger. It becomes more challenging when you are older. I tend to agree with others that the social isolation and loneliness you are experiencing (which is becoming a growing concern for so many) is negatively affecting your ability to move on.

I didn't think about this. I'm in my early twenties so university is coming to an end for many people so I guess it's plausible that lots of people aren't looking to make any new friends

In life, relationships come and relationships go. Not every relationship is meant to last - some are meant to teach you more about yourself and relationships as you grow and mature. So, take what you can from this relationship and learn from the experience.

This is probably one of those relationships that was disguised as a life lesson. I've learnt loads since the breakup- I've learnt more about relationships out of one than I did when I was in one

As it relates to “getting over” the relationship - if you continue to focus on it, it will be hard to move on. At a certain point, it is really just a decision to let go - park it and move forward.

Yeah, I agree. I think one of the previous comments helped put me in the right frame of mind. I really just need to change my thinking from 'he did this' to 'what can I do'. That way I'm not really thinking of him of him as much and I can progress as an individual.

Good luck! 

Sorry, I'm still not sure how to use loveshack  so my comments are in the quote box (I've bolded them) 

 

Edited February 15, 2022 by Kelpy

[stillafool]

22 minutes ago, Kelpy said:

Sorry, I'm still not sure how to use loveshack  so my comments are in the quote box (I've bolded them) 

 

Just highlight the text you want quoted and hit the  "  key.