Uptown182 Posted February 12, 2022 Posted February 12, 2022 Just curious here….met a guy off a dating app Tuesday evening, the date went ok but I wasn’t really into him. After the date he walked me home, I thanked him for the drink and told him to get home safe. The next evening he texts me and says it was really nice meeting me the other night and that he had a nice time with smiley face. I responded a few hours later since I didn’t want to be rude and ignore him saying I had a nice time too. Never heard from him again, so I’m curious did he get the picture that I wasn’t interested or was he just being polite? I ask because typically when a guy is being polite you get the text right after the date not the next evening. I’m really just curious for future reference since I just got back into the dating app world after taking a long break, so would like to up to date on etiquette lol.
smackie9 Posted February 12, 2022 Posted February 12, 2022 (edited) You never followed up with, "hey I had fun too! lets do it again sometime..." So he got the hint you were not receptive to another date. BUT when you are dealing with strangers, you never know what you will get. This guy got it, and left it, and no rude butt hurt repercussions having to explain yourself etc. Edited February 12, 2022 by smackie9 1
Ami1uwant Posted February 12, 2022 Posted February 12, 2022 49 minutes ago, Uptown182 said: Just curious here….met a guy off a dating app Tuesday evening, the date went ok but I wasn’t really into him. After the date he walked me home, I thanked him for the drink and told him to get home safe. The next evening he texts me and says it was really nice meeting me the other night and that he had a nice time with smiley face. I responded a few hours later since I didn’t want to be rude and ignore him saying I had a nice time too. Never heard from him again, so I’m curious did he get the picture that I wasn’t interested or was he just being polite? I ask because typically when a guy is being polite you get the text right after the date not the next evening. I’m really just curious for future reference since I just got back into the dating app world after taking a long break, so would like to up to date on etiquette lol. As you stated here how you felt. he could have felt the same. His text was the polite thing to do. He might have chalked this up as she was ok and I’ll have a second date with her and see how it goes but I’m not chasing her. your response said I’m not interested. Delay in simple reply and delay in not suggesting getting together again.
dramafreezone Posted February 12, 2022 Posted February 12, 2022 (edited) I think he was interested, but if he hasn't contacted you again he got the picture that you weren't interested. I would have wanted to hear something like "I had so much fun, I look forward to the next date." To me that statement is clearly above and beyond just being courteous and making it clear that you want to go out again. Edited February 12, 2022 by dramafreezone
glows Posted February 12, 2022 Posted February 12, 2022 1 hour ago, Uptown182 said: Just curious here….met a guy off a dating app Tuesday evening, the date went ok but I wasn’t really into him. After the date he walked me home, I thanked him for the drink and told him to get home safe. The next evening he texts me and says it was really nice meeting me the other night and that he had a nice time with smiley face. I responded a few hours later since I didn’t want to be rude and ignore him saying I had a nice time too. Never heard from him again, so I’m curious did he get the picture that I wasn’t interested or was he just being polite? I ask because typically when a guy is being polite you get the text right after the date not the next evening. I’m really just curious for future reference since I just got back into the dating app world after taking a long break, so would like to up to date on etiquette lol. It doesn’t matter. You’re not into him. He may not have been wanting to see you again either and, equally, he didn’t suggest meeting again or seeing you again in his first message. It wasn’t a match and seems mutually so to me. 4
Wiseman2 Posted February 12, 2022 Posted February 12, 2022 1 hour ago, Uptown182 said: The next evening he texts me and says it was really nice meeting me the other night and that he had a nice time with smiley face. Never heard from him again, so I’m curious did he get the picture that I wasn’t interested or was he just being polite? If they are not suggesting seeing each other again it generally means not interested . He may have picked up on your lack of interest as well. Yes a nice to meet you/thank you text is fine whether or not you wish to go further.
Author Uptown182 Posted February 12, 2022 Author Posted February 12, 2022 29 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said: As you stated here how you felt. he could have felt the same. His text was the polite thing to do. He might have chalked this up as she was ok and I’ll have a second date with her and see how it goes but I’m not chasing her. your response said I’m not interested. Delay in simple reply and delay in not suggesting getting together again. In all fairness prior to us meeting it typically took a few hours for us both to reply to messages, so I don’t think the delayed reply had anything to do with it, but being the reply itself was lackluster I can see how he would get the hint.
stillafool Posted February 12, 2022 Posted February 12, 2022 (edited) I agree that neither of you were really interested and as said if he wanted to go out again he would have asked and your lack of reply confirmed to him it was fine not to. Since you weren't interested in him his mutual lack of interest must have been a relief. Edited February 12, 2022 by stillafool 1
Ami1uwant Posted February 12, 2022 Posted February 12, 2022 9 minutes ago, Uptown182 said: In all fairness prior to us meeting it typically took a few hours for us both to reply to messages, so I don’t think the delayed reply had anything to do with it, but being the reply itself was lackluster I can see how he would get the hint. it does after a first date/ meet. It clearly states your up interest level. other than if this text was sent during times people sleep…you shoukd be able to respond within an hr of getting thus message.
chillii Posted February 12, 2022 Posted February 12, 2022 (edited) Don't think he was feeling much after meeting ea other so eventually he text you next night just being polite. You were alright believe me if was interested he would've tried to talk more from there. But then again people seem to play so many games these days, he waits till the next night you wait a few hrs- which l don't blame you since he left it so long anyway , but you see, it's such bs. Even him waiting that long might've just been more of it. At any rate though if he was keen you would've heard from him. Edited February 12, 2022 by chillii
ccas93 Posted February 12, 2022 Posted February 12, 2022 (edited) did this not go exactly how you wanted? I mean you weren't into him, but he said he had a nice time, you did too, then that was it. There's really nothing to analyze here IMO. Edited February 12, 2022 by ccas93 1
ShyViolet Posted February 13, 2022 Posted February 13, 2022 Maybe he picked up on your lack of interest and got the hint, or maybe he wasn't that interested in you either and was just being polite. Either way it doesn't matter and there's no point in analyzing this. You don't still have a guy bothering you who you're not interested in, problem solved.
ExpatInItaly Posted February 13, 2022 Posted February 13, 2022 I don't think either of you were that into each other, really. His message was fairly lackluster and so was yours. No harm, no foul. Just wasn't a match for you two.
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