sanne Posted October 22, 2005 Posted October 22, 2005 I was browsing through a friend of mine's pictures today and I found some pics of my ex and her at some party together. A month ago, I prob. would have felt sad seeing her face again, but to be honest I was actually happy. I smiled, because I saw that wonderful smile on her face, and it made me happy to remember all of the good times we had. My life is good now, I have finally let go of my ex, and I can honestly say that completely cutting off contact is the only thing that is keeping me sane. I've realized that relationships end sometimes, and the absolute worst thing you can do is to attempt to recapture a period of your life that was never meant to be. I can honestly say that the community here at LS has helped me so much in dealing with my first big breakup. I wasn't ready for the relationship I had with my ex, nor with the fallout that occurred. Without the wisdom and guidance from everyone here, I know I would have been a wallowing mess right now. But now I am a confident and happy person. My life is good, I have great friends, I'm enjoying school, and loving life. I just wish that everyone who is serious about moving on consider implementing complete NC. You just will never be able to move on until you do so. BTW, anyone looking for some good music to listen to when they are down, listen to some Eric Clapton. That man has a way of making sad times just a whole lot better.
smile95 Posted October 22, 2005 Posted October 22, 2005 so glad that you are better? How long of NC til you felt better?
Author sanne Posted October 22, 2005 Author Posted October 22, 2005 Well I've relapsed quite a bit, but I've been trying to implement NC for about 2-3 months now.
smile95 Posted October 22, 2005 Posted October 22, 2005 I think we all fall, but the point is that you are doing so well. I want to be there! FOr me, sometimes the relapses help me see that I want out anyway. GOod job! You have given me hope!
Author sanne Posted October 22, 2005 Author Posted October 22, 2005 well i kind of felt that each time i relapsed, it brought me closer and closer to my goal. but this time i won't allow myself to relapse again, i've decided to put one foot in front of the other and just walk down the long and hard road that I know lies ahead.
allaboutchoices Posted October 23, 2005 Posted October 23, 2005 Sounds like Dr. Phil:lmao: Seriously, that's good news. Glad to hear people are getting over this.
J dub Posted October 24, 2005 Posted October 24, 2005 *\o/* <--thats a cheerleader esp for you and your efforts Awesome job. I too found sanity and peace by coming to LS and opening my head and heart to those who have already experienced what I had been going thru and had I not come here....well, I'd definitely be in a different place right now, and definitely not as happy
Author sanne Posted October 24, 2005 Author Posted October 24, 2005 Trust me guys, if I can do this anybody can.
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