Author Lewis321 Posted February 11, 2022 Author Posted February 11, 2022 48 minutes ago, dramafreezone said: Well if you're going to make a decision to end it do it because that's what you feel is best. But what I will say is that many people will take your good nature for granted. You have to understand that a lot of people don't feel good about themselves, they don't have a lot of self-esteem. So if they already don't feel great about themselves, they view someone that's treating them like royalty as even lower than they are. Does that makes sense? It's like the saying, "treat her like a celebrity and she'll treat you like a fan." If you treat her as she's above you in some way, then a lot of people will behave accordingly. You should not treat her any better than she's treating you. You deserve nice things done for you too (and not sex, that should be a mutually enjoyable experience, not something she's doing for you). Never thought of it this way yes makes total sense. I'm also stating to think she is jealous of my level of confidence and self esteem.
Alpacalia Posted February 11, 2022 Posted February 11, 2022 16 hours ago, mark clemson said: Sounds like it could be some form of disordered thinking to me. You do something nice, but she finds a problem with it. Not sure what drives this, but possibly her past experiences. Another possibility is that she uses the negative reactions to manipulate you - keeping you emotionally off balance so you are always looking to please her/correct your "mistakes". This gives her more "power" in the relationship so long as it's not taken too far and you get fed up with her. These things could actually be combined (she has the distorted thinking AND finds ways to benefit from it manipulatively). This would be a characteristic of e.g. narcissistic personality disorder (narcissistic rage). This does NOT mean she's actually has full blown NPD: in fact many people have some traits of a personality disorder. That might explain this, particularly if there's a pattern of similar behavior. Agree... 1
mark clemson Posted February 11, 2022 Posted February 11, 2022 9 hours ago, Lewis321 said: I was never needy or unsure of myself, my thinking is maybe she wanted to be more in control as none of her previous bfs were acted like I do. Could well be...
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