NONtoxic Posted February 5, 2022 Posted February 5, 2022 Not trying to be rude. But she looked way different than in her pictures. And I am just not attracted to her in anyway. It was a short meet.. And she wants to meet again on Monday.. Just, nope. I have also noticed that she is really cingy, even though we have only been texting up until this point. And I don't find her trustworthy in some of the statements she has said. So both, looks and personality are out.. I feel bad just to ghost her. I want to let her down easily.. And to block her right after.. Because she may be a looney.. she keeps messaging me every hour.. She knows im at work.. We JUST met up like 5 hours ago this morning.. I don't normally do the rejecting.. But..
ExpatInItaly Posted February 6, 2022 Posted February 6, 2022 Be kind but firm and tell her you don't feel it's a match. You don't need to get into more details. She's someone you have met once. After you have told her that, block if you wish. 1
glows Posted February 6, 2022 Posted February 6, 2022 9 hours ago, NONtoxic said: Not trying to be rude. But she looked way different than in her pictures. And I am just not attracted to her in anyway. It was a short meet.. And she wants to meet again on Monday.. Just, nope. I have also noticed that she is really cingy, even though we have only been texting up until this point. And I don't find her trustworthy in some of the statements she has said. So both, looks and personality are out.. I feel bad just to ghost her. I want to let her down easily.. And to block her right after.. Because she may be a looney.. she keeps messaging me every hour.. She knows im at work.. We JUST met up like 5 hours ago this morning.. I don't normally do the rejecting.. But.. Those are a lot of issues after only one meet and all the more reason to end it gracefully. Don’t drag this out any longer. A short text message thanking her for meeting up and mentioning you are not a match is sufficient. You do not need to wait for a reply. Block and delete after sending the text. Move on to the next match.
IntBrowser Posted February 6, 2022 Posted February 6, 2022 49 minutes ago, glows said: Those are a lot of issues after only one meet and all the more reason to end it gracefully. Don’t drag this out any longer. A short text message thanking her for meeting up and mentioning you are not a match is sufficient. You do not need to wait for a reply. Block and delete after sending the text. Move on to the next match. None of that is necessary, just dont call or text and block 1
glows Posted February 6, 2022 Posted February 6, 2022 3 minutes ago, IntBrowser said: None of that is necessary, just dont call or text and block There are different ways of handling it. Personally, I find the immediate block and delete unnecessary and done too often, it’s a reflex that I disagree with overall. It becomes a culture of people impatient with people. A short message is enough letting the person know it’s not a match. It’s civil and less immature. That’s my opinion. 1
Author NONtoxic Posted February 6, 2022 Author Posted February 6, 2022 (edited) 1 hour ago, glows said: There are different ways of handling it. Personally, I find the immediate block and delete unnecessary and done too often, it’s a reflex that I disagree with overall. It becomes a culture of people impatient with people. A short message is enough letting the person know it’s not a match. It’s civil and less immature. That’s my opinion. Well. I did it! I did toy with just blocking without a message because like you basically said, it's easier. But I feel better having been upfront with her before I blocked her. I know what it's like just to be ghosted, it doesn't feel good and would rather be told up front. And so, I decided she deserves to know as well. I was very polite and blocked all avenues of contact after sending it. I actually feel much better now. It was the correct way to handle it. Thank you! Edited February 6, 2022 by NONtoxic 2
Wiseman2 Posted February 6, 2022 Posted February 6, 2022 14 hours ago, NONtoxic said: Because she may be a looney.. she keeps messaging me every hour.. Tell her you're not a match. Then, yes. Absolutely delete and block someone this unhinged and clingy. 1
Author NONtoxic Posted February 6, 2022 Author Posted February 6, 2022 3 hours ago, smackie9 said: I suggest facetiming before meeting. Absolutely, from here on out! And wont be giving away my number either until after meeting. New to dating. Was really fat, lost all the weight and just now learning all these rules as I am just now able to get dates. New territory. 1
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