Tullyseptember Posted February 3, 2022 Posted February 3, 2022 Do you think there was an subconscious instinct that he wasn't someone you should entertain getting to know? I think our bodies instincts are pretty powerful and should be listened to! 3
Fox Sake Posted February 3, 2022 Posted February 3, 2022 18 hours ago, poppyfields said: Hey guys, it's been a while since I created a thread but I find myself in a bit of a pickle and need your help! I was at my job this morn and while opening the mail, there was what appeared to be a check addressed to the tenant down the hall in another suite. I went to deliver it, the door was locked so I knocked and a very nice looking gentleman (late 40s/early 50s) opened the door. He VERY enthusiastically thanked me for delivering it, asked me my name, and we chatted a bit about how poor the mail delivery service was. He then asked me if I was married or had a boyfriend. I wasn’t put off by this, he was quite charming and charismatic so I responded “why do you ask”? We were both sort of smiling, it was clear we were both enjoying the interaction. He then proceeded to ask me if I wanted to have dinner with him on Friday evening. Anyway, I suddenly became very nervous and stupidly said that I DID have a boyfriend (which was a lie) but thanked him for the invite. He said “lucky guy,” we were both still smiling as I turned and walked out. Now I am absolutely kicking myself! I mean what the hell. [ ] But I am NOT shy! I just became flustered and nervous, I was not expecting to (1) have such an attractive charming man open the door and (2) be asked out on a date at that moment. I am not sure what to do now! I can’t very well go back and tell him I was lying that I DON’T really have a boyfriend. Or I could do that and follow by saying I just got nervous? I don’t know but I cannot stop thinking about him now, I really blew it. Any suggestions? Thanks! Hey Popps! I haven’t read the replies. I only came on briefly cos it’s been a while (I’ve been busy planning to take over the world ) Anyways - I see nothing wrong here. You haven’t blown anything. No games. You absolutely can go back and tell him that you just got nervous. I wouldn’t be surprised if he didn’t already have some sort of clue that was the case, given your interaction. You miss all the opportunities you don’t take. Anyways , I have a feeling that by you putting yourself out there and saying you just got nervous, it’ll make you feel more powerful. Do one new thing each day that scares you Whatever the outcome may be - it makes us grow to challenge ourselves, and you just never know what outcome will be for sure 1
smackie9 Posted February 3, 2022 Posted February 3, 2022 Oh just go knock on his door and explain. Smile lots, have a laugh, throw in a compliment, carry on. 1
salparadise Posted February 3, 2022 Posted February 3, 2022 19 hours ago, poppyfields said: What I am thinking/hoping is that I spontaneously run into him again, even if it takes a couple of weeks, and then ask HIM out for a drink telling him my "boyfriend" and I broke up. This has two problems- first, it may be a long time (or never) before you bump into him accidentally. How long had it been since you saw him previously? Strike while the iron is hot- or while that nice interaction is still fresh. Two, there's absolutely no point in making up a story about a nonexistent boyfriend. Just be real and the two of you can laugh about it. It's simple- go knock on his door and say, "hi, I changed my mind and I would like to take you up on dinner on Friday if the invitation is still open. I actually don't have a boyfriend. I was just caught off guard said that as a defensive thing." What do you have to loose? You're a big girl, you have agency. If the two of you did hit it off, do you really want to have to perpetuate that story indefinitely? 2
Author poppyfields Posted February 3, 2022 Author Posted February 3, 2022 (edited) 15 hours ago, Trail Blazer said: What I'm getting at is that was there potentially something off with this guy that you couldn't see on at face value but your intuition kicked in before the dopamine was released and you'd fall for his charisma? Interesting thought, I don't know! But maybe, I'll have to think on it. It did throw me off guard, I mean it was so sudden and bold. I did not expect it! A brand new man who I didn't know from Adam asking for a date and on a specific night no less, two days away. I think I simply got nervous and flustered by it. But now today? The "moment" has passed. If I see him again, I will be friendly and see how I feel, how it plays out. He's one man, not the only man. Thanks again guys! Edited February 3, 2022 by poppyfields
flitzanu Posted February 3, 2022 Posted February 3, 2022 i'm just here to make a "phrasing" joke about the title. poppy. 4
Author poppyfields Posted February 3, 2022 Author Posted February 3, 2022 1 minute ago, flitzanu said: i'm just here to make a "phrasing" joke about the title. poppy. LOL! Yeah, one could easily take that to mean something entirely different from what this thread is actually about, I didn't even think of that! Too funny. 1
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