Veryconfuse... Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 Hi, this is the first time I ever encounter a problem like this..I hope someone can give me advices or insights about my situation, thanks. I'm 24 and started dating someone same age as me. We met about 3 months ago and we only started going out like about 4 weeks ago. Things are "ok" at the first week but sooner than ever it's going downhill the past 3 weeks. A few things he did I really have trouble understanding and want to share with you: 1)He claim to like me alot and that he even loves me, and yet, he's always critizing me, and being sarcastic, what does it mean when someone's doing that? 2)He always hint to me that in order to get his heart is to cook for him, or make coffee for him, and I get confuse by that kind of request, because I dont' see what he is doing to have my heart? 3)He always seem to be very reserve in terms of spending money especially on me, and that's alright, but he always make jokes about money, it starts to annoy me so much, he'd be like I should buy him lunch sometimes bla bla bla..is that even normal for a couple dating for a month to talk like that? 4)Lately he seems to play even more "games" like mind games, such as not answering my call, or not calling me until late, and purposely not see me..I can understand if he need some breathing space but it's so obvious that he's just doing it to get a reaction out of me, I find him enjoying the idea that I worry about him, and if I don't, then he'd be like suprise or something, why does he play mind games like that? 5)He is very sensitive in terms of things I do that upset him, and yet i don't see him very sensitive about my feeling whenever something happen to me, he seems to focus on himself alot more. 6)One time he even disappeared and not answer my call not call me back and then finally did and said he was thinking things over, I think that's very irresponsible of him because he could have at least let me know he's not available and not disappear on earth. I told him a couple of times I don't wanna play anymore games and if he's not happy with me then we should just forget it, but somehow we still didnt' break up, I feel very tired of playing games, I do like him alot but I find that wearing off too, I tried talking to him but it always end up like bargaining or negotating. He gets frustrated very easily, liek very personal too, like if I do something he doesn't like, he'd keep in mind for along time and still bring it up, and he always try to analyze me, read me, and then come up with HIS own conclusion of what kind of a girlfriend I am. Sometimes he'd even say that I dont' know how to treat a man, and that I am cheap to my boyfriend. I believe I am a decent person in terms of giving, I believe that both parties have the right to give or take but not necessary force to give or take. I thought love is suppose to be unconditional? or even if it's not completely unconditional, is it really right to expect someone so much when u just started dating them? I really dont' know what to do, this guy claims that he is serious about relationship, he talks ALOT about what he thinks is right but it totally doesn't make sense to me. Should I just get out now? or if I want to try to work this out, what am I suppose to do? Play along? Does anyone understand his mentality? Many thanks for those who can give me some advices, thank you!
Recommended Posts