ericw899 Posted January 21, 2022 Posted January 21, 2022 I just started a college class at community college and there are many girls I find attractive. I have my eyes set on two girls and I was wondering how to ask one of them on a date & what signs there are that they may be interested. The one girl is really out going. She has a vibrant personality and is always laughing and having a good time. The one kid in the class was being very obnoxious and my reactions to him being annoying I can see caught her eye. She was looking at me smiling from the tacked behind and I made a small joke that had her dying laughing. I think she seems to like me, at least just as a person but Id like to explore things further and possibly ask her out. The second girl in my class is a bit more quiet. I did notice she smiled at me as she walked into class & I smiled back. We then wound up doing an activity where her and I were partnered up. She was very friendly to me & even mentioned my height. I’m very tall so she made it a point and asked how tall I was. When I told her, she seemed interested in and impressed. Overall she seems like a sweet girl and someone I can see myself going out with. So what does everyone think? Do I have a shot with either girl? Should I ask one out? Should I wait and see how things go? Thanks in advance
ccas93 Posted January 21, 2022 Posted January 21, 2022 (edited) just keeping getting to know them as classmates to get a sense of their true interest and attraction to you. Edited January 21, 2022 by ccas93 1
Wiseman2 Posted January 21, 2022 Posted January 21, 2022 7 hours ago, ericw899 said: Do I have a shot with either girl? Don't look for "signs". The best approach is to make some small talk then ask if they want to get a coffee. It's either yes or no. Anything but a yes is a no. That's the only way to tell if they're open to dating you. But lurking around guessing could start to feel creepy to them, so step up and start being friendly and ask for a coffee. It's that simple. 1
princessaurora Posted January 21, 2022 Posted January 21, 2022 Asking for coffee is a good way. You can also see if they want to study together for an upcoming exam or work on an assignment together. 1
glows Posted January 21, 2022 Posted January 21, 2022 10 hours ago, ericw899 said: So what does everyone think? Do I have a shot with either girl? Should I ask one out? Should I wait and see how things go? Thanks in advance If you are not sure who you’re interested in, wait and see and get to know them a little better. You’ll develop a reputation asking out multiple classmates if you’re just looking for someone to fill the void or desperate for a gf. A community college crowd is small and word spreads fast. Be friendly and respectful with everyone even if a woman declines. Keep it respectful while in class too and don’t take it personally if she says no or if she has a boyfriend. When you’re feeling more confident who exactly you’re interested in ask her out to bubble tea, coffee, breakfast on campus, whichever is most reasonable or convenient for both of you. Give her a choice and ask her what she likes. Don’t be afraid to show you’re interested. If it doesn’t pan out that’s ok. 1
smackie9 Posted January 21, 2022 Posted January 21, 2022 Whether they are interested or not, is not important...it's whether YOU are interested in them. Since you are just ask them out. That is what confident guys do.
Ami1uwant Posted January 21, 2022 Posted January 21, 2022 Fir college post class chats where you talk about class work. create a study group the idea is start to talk with them and maybe develop a friendship or something more. from developing friendship there might be dorm social things you coukd meet up at fir me in college….I got dates from gradually build up in talking to women. It wasn’t from me cold approachingvwomen. 1
basil67 Posted January 21, 2022 Posted January 21, 2022 (edited) The main thing you want to avoid is getting a reputation for being the guy who asks out girls from class. This kind of gossip spreads very quickly between women and none will want to date you if they feel that you're using the class as a vehicle to meet women. Women also tend to label guys who do this as being a creep, and this is another kiss of death. With this in mind, I'd suggest you take your time. If you find a woman there who you build a solid rapport, you know she's single with AND there is undeniable chemistry, ask her out. You only want to do this if you know she will accept. Main thing is, don't rush. Edited January 21, 2022 by basil67 1
dramafreezone Posted January 22, 2022 Posted January 22, 2022 (edited) 20 hours ago, ericw899 said: I just started a college class at community college and there are many girls I find attractive. I have my eyes set on two girls and I was wondering how to ask one of them on a date & what signs there are that they may be interested. The one girl is really out going. She has a vibrant personality and is always laughing and having a good time. The one kid in the class was being very obnoxious and my reactions to him being annoying I can see caught her eye. She was looking at me smiling from the tacked behind and I made a small joke that had her dying laughing. I think she seems to like me, at least just as a person but Id like to explore things further and possibly ask her out. The second girl in my class is a bit more quiet. I did notice she smiled at me as she walked into class & I smiled back. We then wound up doing an activity where her and I were partnered up. She was very friendly to me & even mentioned my height. I’m very tall so she made it a point and asked how tall I was. When I told her, she seemed interested in and impressed. Overall she seems like a sweet girl and someone I can see myself going out with. So what does everyone think? Do I have a shot with either girl? Should I ask one out? Should I wait and see how things go? Thanks in advance Whatever you do, pick one and ask her out. When it comes to dating, you have to pick one at a certain location (be it school, work, gym). You don't get multiple shots at women at a certain location unless you're a real ladies man, and odds are you are not that. If you go around asking various women out and they can all see you doing that, you'll get a reputation as a "holla monster," someone that justs asks women out indiscriminately. None of them will want to go out with you when you get that label, so choose wisely. Edited January 22, 2022 by dramafreezone
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