Joleno Posted January 19, 2022 Posted January 19, 2022 So there is this guy, and he teaches my younger sister karate. He is 21 and I'm 17.I see him almost every day when I accompany my sister there I stay outside from the facility on the benches. I see him sometimes looking at me but he just might be looking to something else . I have for sure fallen for him,every time I see him my stomach hurts and I lose it. I want somethingt to happen BUT nothing. I thought of talking to him but I don't know what to say, what to discuss.what can I do? I think about him all dayyyy. How can I stop feeling so anxious around him??do you think there is a chance.. please help sooos..thank u
Ami1uwant Posted January 19, 2022 Posted January 19, 2022 This isn’t love but lust. why not go with your younger sister to karate and drop he off and pick her up. Maybe her talking to the coach coukd open the door to talking. if there you could approach him and ash how is my little sis doing.
stillafool Posted January 19, 2022 Posted January 19, 2022 He may have a problem with your being underage. 4 1
glows Posted January 19, 2022 Posted January 19, 2022 17-21 is a larger gap at that age and 18 is the legal age in many countries. It’s ok to have crushes but leave this alone. Be friendly and say hello but don’t hit on him. He’s there to do a job. 1
smackie9 Posted January 19, 2022 Posted January 19, 2022 Wait til you are 18. Then pick up your sister and introduce yourself, smile, start a convo. Right now you are not mature enough in the head to be dealing with this. It's just a crush, they sure can be painful, and exhilarating at the same time. It's best to back away from it as much as possible. In time it will wear off. 1
Wiseman2 Posted January 19, 2022 Posted January 19, 2022 3 hours ago, Joleno said: He is 21 and I'm 17. It's ok to have a crush, but's it's inappropriate for him to make a pass at you. 1
Alvi Posted January 19, 2022 Posted January 19, 2022 3 hours ago, Ami1uwant said: This isn’t love but lust. Oh, come on. This sounds like a crush, not lust. 1
Alvi Posted January 19, 2022 Posted January 19, 2022 (edited) 4 hours ago, Joleno said: I see him almost every day when I accompany my sister there I stay outside from the facility on the benches. It's entirely possible that he has never seen you since you don't come inside. Maybe go inside and introduce yourself. Say that your sister takes his classes and ask him how she is doing with that. But be aware that he may not go out with an underage girl, which would be very wise for him. Or he may have a girlfriend or a boyfriend. Is there a guy at your school that you find cute and would love to date? Edited January 19, 2022 by Alvi
Ami1uwant Posted January 19, 2022 Posted January 19, 2022 1 hour ago, Alvi said: It's entirely possible that he has never seen you since you don't come inside. Maybe go inside and introduce yourself. Say that your sister takes his classes and ask him how she is doing with that. But be aware that he may not go out with an underage girl, which would be very wise for him. Or he may have a girlfriend or a boyfriend. Is there a guy at your school that you find cute and would love to date? I view them differently… lust is pure physical attraction but you don’t necessarily know thrm a crush is someone you do know in some way. 1
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