jdesey Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 I’m not sure if this is a big deal or not. I met this woman on match.com and we’ve exchanged the messages. I asked her to meet on Saturday night and she agreed. In two different messages I have given her my phone number and asked for hers but she has not given me her number. is this something I should be concerned about it does seem a little weird.
BaileyB Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 (edited) Not weird at all. She is being smart. And safe. She doesn’t know you - she’s not about to give her number to every random man she meets online for fear that they will blow her phone up if they meet and she is not interested - among other safety risks. When I dated online, I had another email that was not my actual email that I used. And, I didn’t give my number to anyone who I had not met and decided was someone that I wanted to see again. So go and meet her. Have fun and see what happens… good luck! Edited January 14, 2022 by BaileyB 5
Dis Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 When I did OLD I didn't give my number out until we had a few dates and they went well. No reason for another guy to have my number if it doesn't go anywhere 2
glows Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 37 minutes ago, jdesey said: I’m not sure if this is a big deal or not. I met this woman on match.com and we’ve exchanged the messages. I asked her to meet on Saturday night and she agreed. In two different messages I have given her my phone number and asked for hers but she has not given me her number. is this something I should be concerned about it does seem a little weird. That’s fine. Some are not as open to sharing their numbers. I have always been old school and have no issue doing so if I’ve decided to meet someone. I prefer phone call/s before meeting. It’s very easy to block and delete a contact after respectfully going your separate ways if it doesn’t pan out. I wouldn’t worry about this and enjoy the meet/date.
ExpatInItaly Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 Not weird, no. She is trying to be safe, OP. If your date goes well and there are more dates to follow, she will give it to you. 2
Wiseman2 Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 7 hours ago, jdesey said: . I asked her to meet on Saturday night and she agreed. So? Just meet in person. She doesn't have to give you her number. Collecting numbers is not dating. 2
Gaeta Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 (edited) I must be the only one thinking yes this is weird. I give my phone number to men who want to speak on the phone and meet. If they get too annoying I block them. Might be different here in Canada, we cannot locate the address of a person with their mobile phone number. Last night I was exchanging with a new man online. He told me he's grown very suspicious of online dating since he went to meet a woman and she was a man inpersonating a woman. Because of that he now ask to video call which I accepted with no resistance. I would be suspicious that she's in a relationship or she's catfishing you. My male friend doing online datins gets contacted by fake accounts all the time and they usually don't want to give their number. Nowadays, there is no such a thing is keeping your number private for your security. Edited January 14, 2022 by Gaeta
notbroken Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 If she doesn't give it to you after one or two dates, bail quickly. I understand why she might be hesitant initially, but after that move on. Keep your eyes open for sure. 1
poppyfields Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 (edited) I agree with others who say no it's not weird at all. I never did when I on line dated. I take that back, I did at first and it was a huge mistake. Blocking doesn't help as they will call from another phone. Also, you can find out all sorts of things about someone from their phone number (reverse phone number search). Their address, place of work, etc. Being a private person, I find that intrusive before meeting. Edited January 14, 2022 by poppyfields 3
smackie9 Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 She had too many bad experiences, so she's more cautious. Just play along, enjoy the date. 2
amerikajin Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 She's probably just being cautious. Just roll with it and see what happens. 1
Kamille Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 I never understood why men would rush to exchange numbers when we could do almost everything on the app that one can do with a number, including making phone calls. What's the difference? So no, I wouldn't stress about it. 1
dramafreezone Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 (edited) 3 hours ago, Gaeta said: I must be the only one thinking yes this is weird. I give my phone number to men who want to speak on the phone and meet. If they get too annoying I block them. Might be different here in Canada, we cannot locate the address of a person with their mobile phone number. Last night I was exchanging with a new man online. He told me he's grown very suspicious of online dating since he went to meet a woman and she was a man inpersonating a woman. Because of that he now ask to video call which I accepted with no resistance. I would be suspicious that she's in a relationship or she's catfishing you. My male friend doing online datins gets contacted by fake accounts all the time and they usually don't want to give their number. Nowadays, there is no such a thing is keeping your number private for your security. I think it's weird as well and I guess why OLD doesn't appeal to me. Without the phone number you can't actually speak to the other person beforehand, get an idea of if there is any chemistry. There's no real investment, which means low value for potential dates, which is why flake and bad date rates are so high. And I think if someone is determined they don't need your phone number to get to you. But I submit that I'm a guy and haven't had the lived experience of some psycho calling me over and over. I do imagine that's a frightening experience. It's unfortunate that a small percentage of guys have ruined civil communication for the rest of us. Edited January 14, 2022 by dramafreezone 1
vla1120 Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 Considering that I immediately do a background check on any phone number a man gives me, that's why I am reluctant to give any man my number, because he can easily find out my address, work place, etc., with just my phone number. When I DO decide to give out my number, it's my Google phone number so nothing can be traced to my address, workplace, etc.. So, no. I don't think it's weird that she hasn't given you her phone number.
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