Rico3 Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 I get lonely and depressed when she's not around.
Alpacalia Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 (edited) How long have you been a couple? I don't think the label matters (i.e. "needy"). You and your girlfriend can still respect each other's concerns about how much time you spend together if you disagree with each other about the amount of time you spend together. While respecting her needs, try to be patient. Is she close to a group of friends? If she is overworked and stressed, they may be essential to her wellbeing. Even so, I don't see why you can't both make some concessions. Otherwise, the question becomes "“am I okay with the fact that my girlfriend only sees me once a week?” If you are feeling lonely and depressed, address those issues separately. That aside --- how about asking her to hang out twice a week? Can you imagine her response? If she shows any skepticism, you might have to move on. Edited January 14, 2022 by Alpaca 2
Happy Lemming Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 (edited) Is there a reason you can't see her more than once a week?? Many years ago, I was dating a woman and wanted to see her during the week. She wanted the same thing and we decided on a standing date/sleepover for Wednesdays. So, I packed a bag and my dress clothes. We'd do something Wednesday night, get to sleep at a decent hour, set the alarm clock, get up, shower and I'd go to work from her place. She went to work a little later than I did, but it worked (for both of us). Then we'd get back together Friday night and spend the weekend together. Edited January 14, 2022 by Happy Lemming spelling 1
FMW Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 At the beginning of a relationship (first month or two) once a week is probably normal and even healthy, taking time to get to know each other. But over time, the desire to be together should grow. I am a woman who needs a lot of space, but I've grown to enjoy spending at least 3 days/nights together with my guy every week, and usually I prefer 4 or 5. When occasionally we're apart for several days now I miss him. We see time together the same way, and that's the key - compatibility. As long as you have a full and busy life apart from her with work, friends, family, hobbies, etc. there is nothing needy about wanting to see her more than once a week. 1
glows Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 Given your previous thread and you mentioning you live a boring life while dating a stripper, unhappy with her line of work, it makes sense if you’re starting to feel unfulfilled or unsatisfied with the relationship. Think of this as a sign or indication it’s not working. You’re dating her so observe more. 2
mark clemson Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 (edited) 46 minutes ago, smackie9 said: find someone more compatible. ... AND not a stripper who you give money to regularly but rarely see would also probably be best. Did you research "coquetting"? It's bad news + some people have a sort of natural aptitude for it, unfortunately. I really don't think this ends well for you. Edited January 14, 2022 by mark clemson 1
basil67 Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 According to your previous post, the two of you haven't had sex in months. I suspect she's not an actual girlfriend
FMW Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 My ex-husband moved his stripper girlfriend in with him before our divorce was final. She ended up stealing from him, and when his money ran out, so did she. If you only see each other once a week and no longer have sex, being needy is not your problem. 2
Alpacalia Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 I did not realize OP's girlfriend is a lady of the night. In that case, I'm not sure my advice is all that helpful.
divegrl Posted January 15, 2022 Posted January 15, 2022 1 hour ago, FMW said: My ex-husband moved his stripper girlfriend in with him before our divorce was final. She ended up stealing from him, and when his money ran out, so did she. If you only see each other once a week and no longer have sex, being needy is not your problem. Yup. This happened to a guy friend of mine. As soon as she spent all his money, she was gone. OP- this does not look good for you.
Happy Lemming Posted January 15, 2022 Posted January 15, 2022 2 hours ago, Alpaca said: I did not realize OP's girlfriend is a lady of the night. In that case, I'm not sure my advice is all that helpful. Same here... 1 1
Author Rico3 Posted January 15, 2022 Author Posted January 15, 2022 8 hours ago, basil67 said: According to your previous post, the two of you haven't had sex in months. I suspect she's not an actual girlfriend We had sex last Friday. She initiated it.
basil67 Posted January 15, 2022 Posted January 15, 2022 So you've had one sexual encounter in a number of months. You only see her once a week and that is likely because you give her a stipend. She's not a girlfriend in any normal use of the term
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