Alvi Posted January 13, 2022 Posted January 13, 2022 10 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said: Please keep in mind you did just use the word "circus", so be prepared to sift your way through some new clowns. Oh, that is funny. Let's hope that 2022 brings better quality performers that circus was lacking in the past. 5
poppyfields Posted January 13, 2022 Posted January 13, 2022 (edited) 2 hours ago, Gaeta said: I wrote to my friend. I told him I don't doubt X is a good person and a good friend to him but to me he was unreliable several times (summarized it) so I had to cut him off. I said I thought he should know as he recommanded that friend and vouch for his character. I also thanked him for thinking of me, it could have worked. That was half an hour ago and no reply. I know he works from home today he could be on a zoom meeting. I am glad you said something to Rob G, just so he knows. Like you said, could be a great friend but a not so great man to date. I'd be so curious to know what the guy had to say! Like, what's his rationale for telling you he wanted to meet you tomorrow (yesterday), that he's "already smitten", that he would call you later to confirm plans but then never call? Boy I am just stumped unless the guy is lying in some gutter somewhere. Or maybe something bad really did happen because it's just so bizarre that he would intentionally behave that way. But you're right it's not important because you weren't feeling the dopamine rush anyway... and I actually think your gut was trying to tell you something all along. All the best to you and everyone for a much more fruitful and inspiring 2022! Edited January 13, 2022 by poppyfields 2 1
Author Gaeta Posted January 14, 2022 Author Posted January 14, 2022 19 hours ago, poppyfields said: I am glad you said something to Rob G, just so he knows. Like you said, could be a great friend but a not so great man to date. Oh boy!! My friend called me with an official apology. He said he called his friend and told him he was an embarassment to him (etc) and he blocked him!! I told Rob he did not deserve to be blocked but Rob takes it as a disrespect toward him as well. I told him to not match me with anyone else, I don't want him to lose more friends lol. 1 1
Happy Lemming Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 8 minutes ago, Gaeta said: My friend called me with an official apology. He said he called his friend and told him he was an embarassment to him (etc) Well its good to hear that Rob also agrees that "Smitten Guy"'s actions were not correct, nor conducive towards proper dating. Also glad to hear that the interaction did not damage your friendship with Rob. 4
glows Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: Oh boy!! My friend called me with an official apology. He said he called his friend and told him he was an embarassment to him (etc) and he blocked him!! I told Rob he did not deserve to be blocked but Rob takes it as a disrespect toward him as well. I told him to not match me with anyone else, I don't want him to lose more friends lol. That seems extreme. If he was a friend, how could Rob do that to him? It doesn't suggest he was any friend at all nor did Rob know him well. This begs the question of why Rob thought it was a good idea at all to match the two of you. I'd steer clear of Rob's recommendations in future. 2
elaine567 Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 20 minutes ago, glows said: If he was a friend, how could Rob do that to him? Maybe he didn't. Maybe he told the guy what he thought he wanted to hear ( I've blocked her) and told Gaeta what he thought she wanted to hear (I've blocked him) to keep the peace and take the pressure off of himself... 2
Author Gaeta Posted January 14, 2022 Author Posted January 14, 2022 35 minutes ago, glows said: That seems extreme. If he was a friend, how could Rob do that to him? I thought it was extreme to but I don't know the details of their conversation. Rob has been in a 'cleaning mode' this past year, he's getting rid of a lot of friends & acquaintances. 2
chillii Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 l'd kill to know what mr smitten had to say to your friend about it , in that call.
poppyfields Posted January 14, 2022 Posted January 14, 2022 (edited) 3 hours ago, Gaeta said: I thought it was extreme to but I don't know the details of their conversation. Rob has been in a 'cleaning mode' this past year, he's getting rid of a lot of friends & acquaintances. This guy doesn't sound like he was a very good friend. Guy was (IS) a total player in every sense of the word. All the BS he fed you from the very beginning, when my guess is he never had any intention of meeting you. And apparently your friend knew nothing of this side of him. I am left with such a bitter feeling about this whole situation, that you had to experience this, I'm so sorry. Of course you handled with grace and dignity as always, I don't think I would have. Edited January 14, 2022 by poppyfields 2
Happy Lemming Posted January 29, 2022 Posted January 29, 2022 On 1/13/2022 at 9:54 AM, Gaeta said: I've created a new online profile this morning! Lets see what 2022 brings my way!! @Gaeta Any new updates with your online profile?? Have you been out on any noteworthy dates??
mortensorchid Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 Don't put your eggs in one basket with anyone. Fact. Have a few here and there always.
Author Gaeta Posted January 30, 2022 Author Posted January 30, 2022 On 1/29/2022 at 5:24 PM, Happy Lemming said: @Gaeta Any new updates with your online profile?? Have you been out on any noteworthy dates?? Nothing at all. Everything was closed here (re-opening tomorrow) so nowhere to grab a coffee and we've been having cold weather as cold as -38 so no walk possible. There is a pattern that I am noticing, my single friends using online also noticed. People start conversations, drop out and don't come back, it's highly annoying. I'm not online much, I've decided to make major changes I'm leaving my employer of 20 years and seeking new carreer challenges. Dating is taking a back seat. 6 1
Happy Lemming Posted January 30, 2022 Posted January 30, 2022 11 minutes ago, Gaeta said: we've been having cold weather as cold as -38 so no walk possible. OMG!! That is COLD!! It's 73 degrees (F) here in the desert. 13 minutes ago, Gaeta said: There is a pattern that I am noticing, my single friends using online also noticed. People start conversations, drop out and don't come back, it's highly annoying. Why do you think guys are doing that... kind of defeats the purpose of actually setting up a profile in the first place. 15 minutes ago, Gaeta said: I've decided to make major changes I'm leaving my employer of 20 years and seeking new carreer challenges. Dating is taking a back seat. Best of luck with the new career choices. Sounds exciting, enjoy!! 1
Author Gaeta Posted January 31, 2022 Author Posted January 31, 2022 13 hours ago, Happy Lemming said: Why do you think guys are doing that... kind of defeats the purpose of actually setting up a profile in the first place. The first thing that comes to mind is they're just there for attention. Example: I was exchanging with this man for about 4 days and he's expressing how excited he is about meeting me, then he sends me a message 'boy I thought about you all day'. Then POOF he disappears 4 days. Then comes back and sends me a 1 word message 'hello' and POOF gone 2 days. He's flirting with my block list. 1
Happy Lemming Posted January 31, 2022 Posted January 31, 2022 4 hours ago, Gaeta said: He's flirting with my block list. If he is too immature to carry on a proper conversation leading to a proper date (Day - Time - Place - Activity), then he deserves to be blocked!! 1
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