poppyfields Posted January 11, 2022 Posted January 11, 2022 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: I've reached a decision. My friend Rob is always hitting me on the head for not trying to meet men off dating sites so I will trust he knows something good about this guy that I don't know yet. I wrote this man a message that I am available to meet him tomorrow. Let us know how it goes! Just curious but do you happen to know if he's been active on the dating apps? A few men I met IRL were, it turned out they were good guys though, not your typical dating app flake we read about. in any event, good luck I hope it works out.
Author Gaeta Posted January 11, 2022 Author Posted January 11, 2022 (edited) 36 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Just curious but do you happen to know if he's been active on the dating apps? I know nothing of his dating history and I've never came across him online as he's not in my age range when I do online dating. I'm sure he'll be on his best behavior A) I am not a woman from online and we know men have less respect for online women B) I am a friend of a friend. Edited January 11, 2022 by Gaeta
vla1120 Posted January 11, 2022 Posted January 11, 2022 Good luck on your meet! I tend to be a little socially awkward and others sometimes judge me unfairly because of it, so I am glad you're giving him a chance. Maybe he's like me in that respect. I know I'm a heck of a catch. I just don't make a great first impression. Let us know how it goes! 3
Wiseman2 Posted January 11, 2022 Posted January 11, 2022 1 hour ago, Gaeta said: I'm sure he'll be on his best behavior , I am a friend of a friend. True. Guess you'll have to wait for the other shoe to drop. What if he farts or smells like limburger cheese or speaks with so much saliva you need wiper blades? You must provide a detailed report after the meet, lol.
Author Gaeta Posted January 11, 2022 Author Posted January 11, 2022 13 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: You must provide a detailed report after the meet, lol. You bet I will, lol Oh god, he just text *thinking of you* awww what am I getting into lol. 2
poppyfields Posted January 11, 2022 Posted January 11, 2022 10 minutes ago, Gaeta said: You bet I will, lol Oh god, he just text *thinking of you* awww what am I getting into lol. Did he confirm the meet for tomorrow? He uses a lot of sweet words, doesn't he. Fingers crossed he comes through! 1
Author Gaeta Posted January 11, 2022 Author Posted January 11, 2022 1 hour ago, poppyfields said: Did he confirm the meet for tomorrow? He uses a lot of sweet words, doesn't he. Fingers crossed he comes through! No confirmation yet but he called and l picked up. He's pretty fun, big chatter. We had a phone conversation before the holidays but it was not as spontaneous as of now. He said he hopes his ways are not a turn off, he knows he's expressive. He had to go pick up someone so he asked to call later. Hopefully he won't call back in 12 days lol.
poppyfields Posted January 11, 2022 Posted January 11, 2022 6 minutes ago, Gaeta said: He had to go pick up someone so he asked to call later. Hopefully he won't call back in 12 days lol. I'm glad you're keeping a sense of humor about it G, and again good luck hope it works out. 1
Dis Posted January 11, 2022 Posted January 11, 2022 This guy kind of operates like a flaky, fly by the seat of his emotions 20 year old Some people never grow up I don't like the sounds of him either @poppyfields something isn't right But if everyone who is happily married posted a thread about the early days of their relationship, we'd all judge some of them just like we're judging this. Nothing is perfect and giving something a chance pays off sometimes. Have fun and can't wait for an update! 3
Alvi Posted January 12, 2022 Posted January 12, 2022 2 hours ago, Gaeta said: No confirmation yet but he called and l picked up. He's pretty fun, big chatter. We had a phone conversation before the holidays but it was not as spontaneous as of now. He said he hopes his ways are not a turn off, he knows he's expressive. He had to go pick up someone so he asked to call later. Hopefully he won't call back in 12 days lol. Lol. So, he phoned you back, finally, but he didn't utilize that conversation to arrange a date? You told him what time you are free tomorrow, so it should be easy peasy for him to come up with something. Now many phone calls are required to arrange one simple meet-up? Seriously???? Anyway.... Good luck on your date tomorrow (assuming there going to be a date). If you don't hear from him, next him. 4
Dis Posted January 12, 2022 Posted January 12, 2022 12 minutes ago, Alvi said: Lol. So, he phoned you back, finally, but he didn't utilize that conversation to arrange a date? You told him what time you are free tomorrow, so it should be easy peasy for him to come up with something. Now many phone calls are required to arrange one simple meet-up? Seriously???? Yeah I thought the same thing It's always been a pet peeve of mine when a guy can't be decisive and arrange a time/place/date. Kind of inconsiderate to not firm things up when there was ample opportunity to do so. Kind of sends a message of, I'll let you know when I get around to firming things up and in the meantime, hold all plans until then. Really? 5
poppyfields Posted January 12, 2022 Posted January 12, 2022 It's 9:21 pm Montreal time, so hopefully Gaeta is talking to him as we speak! Update please. 1 1
Author Gaeta Posted January 12, 2022 Author Posted January 12, 2022 When he called he was with a friend and the mother of his friend. He was waiting for them in his car so he called for a few minutes. Then they came in the car and we said our good byes. He called later and he was still with them. It's ok if he didn't get into making plans right there. Then after he hung up he said *can't wait to meet you tomorrow* and offered to meet for lunch, he thought I was working from my downtown office but I'm working from home this week. I said I'm free from 17h. He will know around noon if he's free later after 17h. This morning he asked by text if he could have something delivered to my home. I said maybe he should wait to meet me before having things delivered to my home, maybe he won't like me in person. He replied that's impossible ! he's already smitten.
Alpacalia Posted January 12, 2022 Posted January 12, 2022 (edited) deleted Edited January 12, 2022 by Alpaca double post
Alpacalia Posted January 12, 2022 Posted January 12, 2022 22 hours ago, Gaeta said: The whole thing just turn me off. I can't get any input from my friend either. His favorite sentence is : don't talk to me talk to him. 21 hours ago, Alpaca said: Then stop talking to him. 21 hours ago, Gaeta said: No, I will not ignore him. I can't do that to Rob's childhood friend. I will meet him or I will send him a message to politely decline his invitation. Hi Gaeta. Initially, what turned you off about him. When did you change your mind about him and how did that happen? Just noticing from what you've written that he is laying it on a little thick. 1
poppyfields Posted January 12, 2022 Posted January 12, 2022 (edited) 42 minutes ago, Gaeta said: This morning he asked by text if he could have something delivered to my home. I said maybe he should wait to meet me before having things delivered to my home, maybe he won't like me in person. He replied that's impossible ! he's already smitten. Morning G. I had another post written but decided to hold off posting it until you answer this question. Are you actually falling for all this? All his "sweet talk"? "OMG your hair, you're so beautiful, I'm so smtten"? Buying gifts, and now delivering something to your home? You are beautiful but it sounds like he's got his head in the clouds. Edited January 12, 2022 by poppyfields 1
Author Gaeta Posted January 12, 2022 Author Posted January 12, 2022 16 minutes ago, Alpaca said: Initially, what turned you off about him. When did you change your mind about him and how did that happen? Just noticing from what you've written that he is laying it on a little thick. Those are great questions I should ask myself! Thanks Alpaca. First I was turned off by the fact he's younger & hot. I don't want someone to have fun with and I may have preconceived ideas of what younger men want from women my age. Then add on top of that he doesn't call for 12 days so I was not impressive. Then I tried to be more objective. My friend assures me he's not a player, I should not assume anything and to just get to know him. Then I remember this guy telling me he's often judged by his looks but he's nothing like those stereotypes people put him in. Yesterday when we spoke on the phone I've discovered he's well informed, has opinions, he's articulate, and generous (he spent his evening driving his friend's mom to different places, she broke her leg a couple of weeks ago). That's when I decided to keep an open mine. 1 1
Author Gaeta Posted January 12, 2022 Author Posted January 12, 2022 25 minutes ago, poppyfields said: Are you actually falling for all this? All his "sweet talk"? Nah..it's just words. I'm used to this type of talk and it goes above my head. It's common of men from some cultures to be over the top with words. If he's smitten, then he's only smitten with my pictures, he knows nothing of me yet. 1 1
poppyfields Posted January 12, 2022 Posted January 12, 2022 4 minutes ago, Gaeta said: It's common of men from some cultures to be over the top with words. I agree, I've experienced it too, with American men! I don't trust it, it's a turn off. I recall politely excusing myself from having dinner with a man who was laying it on so thick on first date, he actually proposed marriage, and he was serious! But anyway, this is you, not me. I'm glad your feet are on ground and keeping an open mind. Have fun.
Author Gaeta Posted January 12, 2022 Author Posted January 12, 2022 1 minute ago, poppyfields said: I recall politely excusing myself from having dinner with a man who was laying it on so thick on first date, he actually proposed marriage, and he was serious! That, in my book, is not laying it thick but craziness lol. 1
poppyfields Posted January 12, 2022 Posted January 12, 2022 5 minutes ago, Gaeta said: That, in my book, is not laying it thick but craziness lol. Lol, well it started off with him laying it on thick escalating to him proposing marriage after I resisted. My point is, lovebombing in whatever way, shape or form, is something I do not trust. And I DO actually become turned off by it. But again, that is me. You do you as they say, and I truly hope he's legit and it works out. 2
Kamille Posted January 12, 2022 Posted January 12, 2022 (edited) This thread reads like you're looking to either demonize or idealize a stranger. Anxious people often do this in order to protect themselves. At this point, you really don't have enough information to make a decision - except if you know you are really not into him. And it rather sounds like you're excited about meeting him. So go out and enjoy the date. It's one date. Try not to make it more than it needs to be, nor to invest too much anxious thoughts into it. Take the time you need to understand if he has the potential for a relationship. Trust that you have your own back. Edited January 12, 2022 by Kamille 2
Alpacalia Posted January 12, 2022 Posted January 12, 2022 6 hours ago, Gaeta said: Those are great questions I should ask myself! Thanks Alpaca. First I was turned off by the fact he's younger & hot. I don't want someone to have fun with and I may have preconceived ideas of what younger men want from women my age. Then add on top of that he doesn't call for 12 days so I was not impressive. Then I tried to be more objective. My friend assures me he's not a player, I should not assume anything and to just get to know him. Then I remember this guy telling me he's often judged by his looks but he's nothing like those stereotypes people put him in. Yesterday when we spoke on the phone I've discovered he's well informed, has opinions, he's articulate, and generous (he spent his evening driving his friend's mom to different places, she broke her leg a couple of weeks ago). That's when I decided to keep an open mine. Yes, thought it might be helpful for you to check in with yourself. Did he end up sending anything over? Maybe a white hand sewn bonnet for tea at the shanty and all.
Author Gaeta Posted January 12, 2022 Author Posted January 12, 2022 Don't hold your breath guys & girls. He was suppose to let me know around 1pm if he was free tonight. It's 18h and nothing from him *rolling eyes*. @Alpaca l did not give him my address, l didn't want him to send anything. 1
Happy Lemming Posted January 12, 2022 Posted January 12, 2022 56 minutes ago, Gaeta said: Don't hold your breath guys & girls. He was suppose to let me know around 1pm if he was free tonight. It's 18h and nothing from him *rolling eyes*. It really shouldn't be this hard or require multiple phone calls to set up a simple date. If he doesn't call tonight, will this facilitate a second apology gift?? 1
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