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Hi guys and gals. 
my boyfriend and I were sitting down together on the sofa and he starts touching my arms and then proceeds to touch the top of arms and jiggle them and say ‘you’ve got bingo wings’ ‘ don’t worry you can tense them’ and started to laugh so much and I just was like ‘erm what?!'
 

I’m a size 8 lady I’m slim I don’t get why he would say that. Am I overreacting ? 😪

 

thank you

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It’s hard to say if you’re overreacting or not. If all you said was “what?!", then I’d say, no, you’re not overreacting.

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5 hours ago, Dafneybambi23 said:

Hi guys and gals. 
my boyfriend and I were sitting down together on the sofa and he starts touching my arms and then proceeds to touch the top of arms and jiggle them and say ‘you’ve got bingo wings’ ‘ don’t worry you can tense them’ and started to laugh so much and I just was like ‘erm what?!'
 

I’m a size 8 lady I’m slim I don’t get why he would say that. Am I overreacting ? 😪

 

thank you

Does he usually make crude and disrespectful comments like that about your body? 

He seems immature and I’d check whether he wants to be with you at all. Make note of his comments and of course don’t stick around if he continues to belittle you.

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7 hours ago, Dafneybambi23 said:

Hi guys and gals. 
my boyfriend and I were sitting down together on the sofa and he starts touching my arms and then proceeds to touch the top of arms and jiggle them and say ‘you’ve got bingo wings’ ‘ don’t worry you can tense them’ and started to laugh so much and I just was like ‘erm what?!'
 

I’m a size 8 lady I’m slim I don’t get why he would say that. Am I overreacting ? 😪

 

thank you

No, he's being crass and rude.  Is he often like this?

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Sounds like he wants you to tone up your arms and even thin people can have flabby arms and legs.  Still, he's crude and his comment was hurtful.  You should have told him this.

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11 hours ago, Dafneybambi23 said:

 say ‘you’ve got bingo wings’ ‘ don’t worry you can tense them’ and started to laugh so much 

How long have you been dating? Is he in the habit of insulting you?

How old is he? He seems like an insensitive immature clown.

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What did you say to him in response? From what I'm reading, there was nothing to indicate over-reaction. It's reading as if you sat there and stewed about it.

How long have you two been dating?  Does he do this kind of thing a lot? What does he say when you "over-react"?

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