marieharrison Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 okay so while visiting my friend i met a guy who told me he would’ve asked me out but “he’s dating someone”. the next day he kissed me and ended up at his place. since then we’ve been talking a lot and i feel like we have a connection. however i don't understand the dating thing he said, as if he would’ve been in a relationship and said nothing i would’ve never found out since we live in different cities. now i don’t know how to bring it up because i am not sure what are we. also saying you’re dating someone can mean a lot of things so i really don’t know what to do. any advice??
glows Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 As long as he’s dating someone or you’re not sure what or who he is, there is no “we”. This was a one night stand and protracted texting buddy. You’re not dating and you know very little about him in reality (the parts that matter). It was fun while it lasted. If you are not dating and planning dates, let go. It seems you’re hoping for something to develop but this is built on quicksand.
Wiseman2 Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 4 hours ago, marieharrison said: he would’ve asked me out but “he’s dating someone”. the next day he kissed me and ended up at his place. Delete and block him. He's in a relationship and it was just a hookup. It's also long distance so he figured it won't go anywhere anyway.
Author marieharrison Posted January 4, 2022 Author Posted January 4, 2022 10 hours ago, glows said: As long as he’s dating someone or you’re not sure what or who he is, there is no “we”. This was a one night stand and protracted texting buddy. You’re not dating and you know very little about him in reality (the parts that matter). It was fun while it lasted. If you are not dating and planning dates, let go. It seems you’re hoping for something to develop but this is built on quicksand. we talked a lot and start to find out a lot about each other and he want to meet again and i don’t know how to bring this up and ask him about it
JRabbit Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 He showed you his true colours. If you have a relationship with this person, he will surely do the same to you. Leave it in the past where it belongs. 1
glows Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 4 hours ago, marieharrison said: we talked a lot and start to find out a lot about each other and he want to meet again and i don’t know how to bring this up and ask him about it Ask him point blank and be aware that he may lie. If you're unsure, next him already and find a decent man who doesn't appear shady and with whom you don't hesitate asking important questions. 1
spiderowl Posted January 5, 2022 Posted January 5, 2022 On 1/4/2022 at 1:41 AM, marieharrison said: okay so while visiting my friend i met a guy who told me he would’ve asked me out but “he’s dating someone”. the next day he kissed me and ended up at his place. since then we’ve been talking a lot and i feel like we have a connection. however i don't understand the dating thing he said, as if he would’ve been in a relationship and said nothing i would’ve never found out since we live in different cities. now i don’t know how to bring it up because i am not sure what are we. also saying you’re dating someone can mean a lot of things so i really don’t know what to do. any advice?? If he's dating someone else, then don't bother with the guy. He's outright told you he's seeing someone else so he is taken. If you accept anything less than him dating you openly and upfront, then you will just be a side girl that he keeps on the quiet. Leave him to it. If he wants to see you instead of the other girl, he can approach you and tell you so. Until he does, I would assume he is busy with her. He should not have been kissing you while dating another girl; he is being incredibly disrespectful of her. He will be disrespectful to you too if you allow him to mess about with both of you. 1
stillafool Posted January 5, 2022 Posted January 5, 2022 (edited) 19 hours ago, marieharrison said: we talked a lot and start to find out a lot about each other and he want to meet again and i don’t know how to bring this up and ask him about it What do you mean you don't know how to bring it up? He's already told you he's seeing someone and I'm wondering why when he went for a kiss you didn't ask him then why is he trying to kiss you if he's seeing someone. You knowingly are putting yourself in the position of a side chick and to be disrespected because if she finds out he will gladly throw you under the bus. Edited January 5, 2022 by stillafool
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