do I have a strong connection with this girl? telepathy signs)

[User2022]

I pulled the plug on a relationship with a girl in the middle of the night when we were both expected to be asleep, and we usually are. She was off-line when I did it (for obvious reasons).

I couldn't sleep afterwards and when I went back up from bed just to double check if she had read the message, she had! So she woke up as well, as if she sensed it.

 I then checked even later in the morning (again sleep deprived) and she had done her reply by then, very early in the morning ,which I won't go into here. So neither of us had slept.

Would you say based on this strange series of events that there is a connection? I found it spooky.

I do  like the girl a lot but I got frustrated. 

 

To be clear, she does not get any email notification on messages. So even if she was awake, she wouldn't know that I sent the message.

Edited January 3, 2022 by User2022

[glows]

It’s a coincidence. Don’t worry. There are spookier things.

Since it has ended take a breather and get some sleep. Don’t let this bother you. There are usually sleepless nights and a lot of emotions during a break up.

[User2022]

8 minutes ago, glows said:

It’s a coincidence. Don’t worry. There are spookier things.

Since it has ended take a breather and get some sleep. Don’t let this bother you. There are usually sleepless nights and a lot of emotions during a break up.

But I felt something was wrong too. It's not just her.. I got right up from bed and opened my computer. It's that close of a coincidence. It was within 15 or 30  minutes.

 

Edited January 3, 2022 by User2022

[User2022]

I will add: we are strangers to each other (never met), and I pulled the plug out of left field. There was no "writing on the wall".

[Estes]

You pulled the plug on a relationship with a girl you never met who you describe as a complete stranger.

I'm trying to wrap my head around that one.

 

[User2022]

Alright guys. I wrote a reply to what she sent. YOLO right?. Given that she read the previous one late and didn't reply until almost morning, maybe she's just bluffing this hole thing. 

I don't want to write out her response but it was cryptic... It could mean""confusion", "laugh", or " I love you", and they are all equally plausible, lol.

So... time to find out which one it was.

Edited January 4, 2022 by User2022

[Wiseman2]

7 hours ago, User2022 said:

we are strangers to each other (never met), and I pulled the plug out of left field. 

It's understandable that you don't want to pursue a cyber fantasy.

It's unclear why you decided to end it when you believed she was offline.

Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting local  real women in real life for a low-key coffee .

It takes courage to date real people in real life, but with practice you'll do fine. 

[User2022]

1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said:

 

It's unclear why you decided to end it when you believed she was offline.

 

I did not believe, she was offline.. I ended it because what started out very promising turned into an emotional wall and sarcasm. I asked if something was bothering her and she gave the classic everything is fine. She also started lightly insulting me. Now women usually don't even bother with you if they don't like you, so I didn't view it as a diss. But I of course want to know why she made a switch. A very nice girl by all accounts.

I have more commonalities with her than all Tinder girls combined and about 70 IQ points higher. Online dating is a dead- end. Done it for so long on and off. It brings out the worst in people. 

 

Edited January 4, 2022 by User2022

[User2022]

But anyway, in case it was all a bluff and I hurt her, I tried to redeem myself by messaging her again. Maybe she jumps on board again. 

 

I find it better to just have her show her cards instead of me second guessing. If you end it, you damn well know if it meant something for the other person. 

 

 

[Wiseman2]

3 hours ago, User2022 said:

. If you end it, you damn well know if it meant something for the other person.

What's the reason you haven't met? Is it a distance situation?

Breaking up merely to get a reaction isn't a good way to proceed.

It seems it's becoming boring or frustrating for both of you.

Rethink this situation and reflect if talking to someone you never met is worth your while.

 

[flitzanu]

i don't think that someone replying or being awake at a time you sent a message is any type of telepathic link.  you'd need better circumstances than that.

[User2022]

1 hour ago, flitzanu said:

i don't think that someone replying or being awake at a time you sent a message is any type of telepathic link.  you'd need better circumstances than that.

That's not what I wrote.

[glows]

13 hours ago, User2022 said:

I did not believe, she was offline.. I ended it because what started out very promising turned into an emotional wall and sarcasm. I asked if something was bothering her and she gave the classic everything is fine. She also started lightly insulting me. Now women usually don't even bother with you if they don't like you, so I didn't view it as a diss. But I of course want to know why she made a switch. A very nice girl by all accounts.

I have more commonalities with her than all Tinder girls combined and about 70 IQ points higher. Online dating is a dead- end. Done it for so long on and off. It brings out the worst in people. 

 

But only 70 though. 

It's ok. Pursue other women. Let her go. 

[User2022]

12 hours ago, glows said:

Let her go. 

 

I have. She has strong negative emotions towards me at the moment. For no reason. She freaked out when I pointed out that we are very similiar.

This aint my first rodeo.  Wpmen (or men) don't have negative emotions towards indifferent people.

 If she wants to reverse this, it's on her. Maybe I will comply, maybe not.

But she gave it to me good....:)

 

 

 

 

[User2022]

Btw, the same thing happened again second time. I said godbye a second time and she popped up 5 minutes later. Offline for hours. 

 

Sceptics take note. And she hates me.

[User2022]

Whenever I've written a casual thing, she does not pop up.

Explain that. No notifications (doesn't exist).

Two in  a row:) 

[Wiseman2]

Are you planning to meet in person? It's possible this is just a scammer or catfish.

[User2022]

32 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Are you planning to meet in person? It's possible this is just a scammer or catfish.

 Just Skype first. problem solved. The answer to your question is: hell yes. Even with a couple of hours travel time. 

Do you think she will reverse her attitude? We are pretty much the same, just opposite sex. That's why it would be fun.

[User2022]

For the record, she did NOT comment on my "I love you" encryption, which was sort of a goof.. She was a freakin Berlin Wall emotionally, so I  had to throw something at her. 

 Is this truly over? Gun to the head.

 

I don't want my head blown off (insert improper joke here). So gun to my head I would say: NO.

 

[Wiseman2]

Until you meet in person, you could be talking to a bot, scammer, catfish or most likely a troll.

Delete and block this entity from ALL your social media and messaging apps.

That way you can focus on productive activities such as work, school, sports and fitness, joining clubs and groups, getting a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting local real life real women for coffee.

[User2022]

36 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Until you meet in person, you could be talking to a bot, scammer, catfish or most likely a troll.

Delete and block this entity from ALL your social media and messaging apps.

That way you can focus on productive activities such as work, school, sports and fitness, joining clubs and groups, getting a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting local real life real women for coffee.

Yes  I could. I actually have in the past. But fool me once....

 

[Alpacalia]

What makes you so sure that she hates you. 

Do not let that bother you, even if it is true.

[User2022]

6 hours ago, Alpaca said:

What makes you so sure that she hates you. 

Do not let that bother you, even if it is true.

[ ]  She used to be nice. I first mistook her for teasing, but she has really made a switch. There is no fun going on.

Edited January 5, 2022 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
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[Alpacalia]

35 minutes ago, User2022 said:

[ ]  She used to be nice. I first mistook her for teasing, but she has really made a switch. There is no fun going on.

It's not clear what the whole story is.

So you said "I love you" but it was a bluff because she was an "emotional brick wall" and then she got angry?

9 hours ago, User2022 said:

For the record, she did NOT comment on my "I love you" encryption, which was sort of a goof.. She was a freakin Berlin Wall emotionally, so I  had to throw something at her. 

 

 

[User2022]

47 minutes ago, Alpaca said:

It's not clear what the whole story is.

So you said "I love you" but it was a bluff because she was an "emotional brick wall" and then she got angry?

 

Her behavior predated that. the love you symbol was a bit light hearted and she knows that. It wasn't a bluff but let's say that I have no problem signalling it. So that means I like her quite a bit. Or at least my perception of her..