tokidoki Posted January 3, 2022 Posted January 3, 2022 In dating I always hope for clear and honest communication, but the nature of the beast is that it isn't always how others do it. I naturally worry in situations like this so I'd like opinions on if its legit or i'm being blown off. I had a date on Thursday night, which went well. We stayed out for 4 hours, kissed, walked to the subway together hand in hand, kissed again, parted ways. She text me that night asking if I'd got home OK, and her train was delayed. I messaged back when I saw the text, 30 mins later, and said I was home and asked if she was ok and on her way, she said she was at home now, and we said goodnight. On Saturday, I sent her a text to wish her a happy new year, and told her I'd had a good time, would love to do it again, and asked what her schedule was like. We set a date for the following Wednesday night, and I said I'd find a nice place to get dinner and let her know. On Sunday evening, she sent me a message saying 'I have bad news!' and a picture of a positive covid test. I said Oh no! and asked how she was feeling; she said she had no symptoms but someone at her nye party had tested positive afterwards. I said 'I guess we will have to postpone! how long do you need to isolate?'. She said she wasn't sure and needed to check. I said OK, well let's just postpone by a week, and keep me posted. She said sure, and that she would be in touch. I said to get well soon, and I'd talk to her later. I think I handled it as well as I could have, but I can't help feeling that she may be blowing me off. Then again, this could very, very easily be my own insecurity getting the better of me. Either way, I won't act, and wait for her to reach out.
Wiseman2 Posted January 3, 2022 Posted January 3, 2022 1 hour ago, tokidoki said: I said OK, well let's just postpone by a week, and keep me posted. She said sure, and that she would be in touch. I said to get well soon, and I'd talk to her later. You handled it well. The ball is in her court so all you can do is see if she reaches out when she feels better.
Ami1uwant Posted January 3, 2022 Posted January 3, 2022 You kissed you seemed to have fun. Give her the benefit of the doubt here. over the holidays I was with a group of friends. A few days later had tested positive. Had to get tested. I had a few friends later in the week tested positive. ive bern fine. this is happening now.
jdesey Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 I don’t think you can tell if she’s blowing you off yet. Give her 7 to 10 days to get into the negative zone on Covid and then see if she makes a date or not. Then you’ll know
glows Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 (edited) She said she’d be in touch so be patient. At mid-week drop her a line and ask her how she’s doing. Take things with a pinch of salt these days. You’re dating during a pandemic. If someone balks or decides it’s just not worth continuing to meet new people/strangers, that’s fine also. Edited January 4, 2022 by glows
Author tokidoki Posted January 6, 2022 Author Posted January 6, 2022 This was last Sunday - I told her we'd do it next wednesday and she said 'sure, I'll be in touch'. I reckon I'll wait til Sunday night, and send her a message like this:- Hey, Merry (Russian) Christmas! This is where we're going on Weds. Don't be late this time! X For context, she's Russian and they celebrate xmas on the 7th. She was a bit late to our first meeting vibes?
glows Posted January 6, 2022 Posted January 6, 2022 2 hours ago, tokidoki said: This was last Sunday - I told her we'd do it next wednesday and she said 'sure, I'll be in touch'. I reckon I'll wait til Sunday night, and send her a message like this:- Hey, Merry (Russian) Christmas! This is where we're going on Weds. Don't be late this time! X For context, she's Russian and they celebrate xmas on the 7th. She was a bit late to our first meeting vibes? It's a bit cold. Try: "Hey, Merry (Russian) Christmas! How are you feeling? Would you still be up for dinner this Weds? X" Get a sense of whether she's well enough first to go out. 1
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