smackie9 Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 (edited) Is it not suspect/coincidence that all the ones you are interested, (attractive/etc) are the ones that say they just got out of relationship? I bet money on it, a lot of that is BS and just a predatory way of getting sex. And to say Ya I won't have sex with other women if we do it regularly is kinda along the lines of being manipulated. TBH there is no guarantee he's gonna stick to that promise. Edited January 4, 2022 by smackie9 1
Author Calmandfocused Posted January 4, 2022 Author Posted January 4, 2022 1 hour ago, FMW said: He's free to say no thank you and find someone else who will have sex with him while he talks about his ex and also has sex with others. If they are honest with each other it's not unfair for either of them. And each is free to end the arrangement at any time. @Calmandfocused i'm not making any recommendations on what you should or shouldn't do in this situation, follow your own instincts and judgment. Not everyone's experiences and beliefs are the same, you have to figure out what works for you. Exactly FWB. You’ve got to remember loveshackers that he is pursuing me. Whilst I’m fully aware that he is medicated up to the eyeballs, it’s not like he’s completely off his trolley. He does have capacity to consent and make his own choices and decisions. Anyway one could argue that if I do this I’m bending my own rules. Therefore I’m accommodating him and what he wants (obviously I do get benefits too though) I therefore don’t think that me enforcing boundaries in this situation is too much to ask. He’s not signing any legal terms and conditions. He can opt out at any time, as can I. 1
stillafool Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 Can't you just find someone else to have a FWB relationship with?
Author Calmandfocused Posted January 4, 2022 Author Posted January 4, 2022 22 minutes ago, smackie9 said: Is it not suspect/coincidence that all the ones you are interested, (attractive/etc) are the ones that say they just got out of relationship? I bet money on it, a lot of that is BS and just a predatory way of getting sex. And to say Ya I won't have sex with other women if we do it regularly is kinda along the lines of being manipulated. TBH there is no guarantee he's gonna stick to that promise. It was only 2 I was interested in and had I have known they had just gotten out of a relationship, it would have been an immediate left swipe, like I did with all the others who advertised it on their profile … There are loads of men on the apps who have just got out of a relationship in my area unfortunately. Not good! Anyway I know she exists. I’ve had some lovely screen shots of their message exchanges ……. Even when I dumped him he prattled on and on about her before acknowledging that I deserve better. He’s got it bad!
Alpacalia Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 Isn't casual sex supposed to be fun? This, does not sound like a boatload of fun for you. 2
Author Calmandfocused Posted January 4, 2022 Author Posted January 4, 2022 @FMW I’m very sorry for calling you FWB.. obviously I have that abbreviation on my brain 2
Happy Lemming Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 42 minutes ago, Calmandfocused said: We have already discussed it and he agreed to it if we were to start having sex again. This was the same rule I agreed to in my FWB with "M". And I can honestly say, I only had sex with her and I really believe she only had sex with me. I was able to continue to re-build the project house I was working on (evenings and weekends) and she was able to grow her business. A couple hours each week, we satisfied each other's needs and it worked great (for both of us). I do think "M" liked the fact that she could call or text me and I'd grab a quick shower and come right over. I can honestly say my FWB is a happy memory and I really do think "M" would say the same thing. 2 1
spiderowl Posted January 5, 2022 Posted January 5, 2022 6 hours ago, Calmandfocused said: It was only 2 I was interested in and had I have known they had just gotten out of a relationship, it would have been an immediate left swipe, like I did with all the others who advertised it on their profile … There are loads of men on the apps who have just got out of a relationship in my area unfortunately. Not good! Anyway I know she exists. I’ve had some lovely screen shots of their message exchanges ……. Even when I dumped him he prattled on and on about her before acknowledging that I deserve better. He’s got it bad! I don't think that 'just got out of a relationship' is that big a deal. Most people will have just got out of a relationship if they are single again. The important thing is, did they choose to get out of the relationship or were they pushed? I get the feeling, from reading many posts on here, that men either bond with a woman or not. If they do, then it takes an awful lot for them to be able to move on. If they don't, then they have casual sex or FWB sex. Only you know whether he chose to move on or not and if he is still 'bonded' or not. I do not know what changes things so that a guy can become truly emotionally and physically involved with a different woman from the one he bonded with. Do those original bonds ever break? Perhaps a guy could elaborate on that in all honesty? I think something very fundamental and primitive goes on with true bonding. Thinking anyone can get over an ex and move on is something to be careful with. We do not have the saying 'Carrying a torch for' someone, for nothing.
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