ericw899 Posted January 3, 2022 Posted January 3, 2022 So Ive been on a few dates with this girl (Different girl from my last post) and I am really starting to like her. We have great conversations and always have fun on our dates. She is From Ecuador and I'm American so sometimes we have some misunderstandings but that's expected. So she says that she is looking for marriage which I am too, and we joke about us being married to each other which she seems to like the idea of. I know it's early on but we like to talk hypothetically. There have been a few things though that have been head scratching for me. For starters, when we are not together we very rarely text. I text her and she responds with one word answers or nothing at all. If I don't text her she asks why I don't text her, which to me is a little confusing. On the flip side though, she texted me on New Years to say Happy New Year and that I'm very special to her, so she seems into me. I tried to continue the conversation after and no response. Its also difficult to plan dates as she works a lot. She runs her own business but which I understand but we go weeks in between dates and with the little texting its hard to keep up the rapport. Before our last date she texted me and asked if I was gonna shave (I had a small goatee) I replied and said no, and she responded in disappointment. So I decided I'll shave just so she can see what I looked like clean shaven and honestly it wasn't that good looking. Either way this seemed like a weird request from her. On our last date there were two weird things she mentioned and I'm not sure what she meant by it. For starters, we met on Facebook and we were talking about that and she just randomly pulled up her page and showed me all the guys she has matched with. She didn't seemed phased by it and she said that she doesn't trust meeting any guys and she's really glad she met me because she is comfortable with me. Secondly she was talking about her niece and we face timed with her real quick. She said she wants me to meet her niece and she made a comment like "what if you two end up together" I found it weird that the girl I'm dating would think of me dating her niece. She also mentioned that all her siblings is married except for her and she really wants to get married sooner than later. Finally after 3 dates we still haven't really kissed. We had a coupled pecs and kiss on the cheek but no real romantic kiss. I know some girls are slower than others but I would think by now she would have let me kiss her. I have gone for the kiss but she just gives me her cheek. So bottom line is do you all think she likes me or not? I know there are some cultural differences which may be why she does things differently than I do but things don't all add up. She claims to really be into me and see me as a guy she wants to marry but is it all just a ploy or manipulation? Thoughts?
smackie9 Posted January 3, 2022 Posted January 3, 2022 Bah! whatever her game is, run for the hills. 1
Wiseman2 Posted January 3, 2022 Posted January 3, 2022 7 hours ago, ericw899 said: So Ive been on a few dates and she really wants to get married sooner than later. Sorry this is happening. It hard to develop a relationship if she's too busy to see you in person. Texting is not dating. Of course after just 3 dates you're both still talking to and meeting others. Is it possible she's looking for residency? It's odd she talks about marriage this much with someone she won't even kiss and only dated 3 times in in months. Pull back from this and since nothing is happening, start talking to and meeting others.
Ami1uwant Posted January 3, 2022 Posted January 3, 2022 Everyone has preferences. Sone like facial hair sone don’t. Some like long hair some like it short. Others are fine with facial hair but don’t like it long. it’s really not that unusual for them to steal you somewhere. It’s just like thrm trying to change you are your dtyle.
jdesey Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 I think it’s a cultural thing. I wouldn’t be surprised if men from her country have to chase women like they’re the last breathing soul on earth. She just sounds like too much work. I mean weeks between dates and no contact, I would move on
JRabbit Posted January 4, 2022 Posted January 4, 2022 Don't change your appearance for someone you just met. You're not a doormat.
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