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2 minutes ago, Allupinnit said:

I've had men come back but it always for more of the same and not what I wanted.  Just sex and companionship.  Always hurt worse the second time around, too.

Me too but in the time that it takes them to come back I'd already moved on to someone else and so should Emmmylou.  She won't be available when he comes back.

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8 hours ago, Emmylou_H said:

@Versacehottieok, yes this makes sense. I know I have to rewire my brain to not worry about figuring him out but I still can’t shut off hope that he would reach out sometime. And from what I’m gathering the possibility/likelihood of that ever happening is pretty low, correct? It’s a really sad feeling to sit with. I just can’t stop beating myself up for messing this up and it’s hard for me to understand what I need to do to change so when I like someone they like me in return.

You didn’t mess anything up. No matter what you would have done the outcome would have been the same. 
 

This guy is either not over is girlfriend or just a charmer. It doesn’t matter which, he is not dating material. 
 

All you need to work on is how to determine if a guy is dateable or not. Go slower, take a couple of dates before deciding if there is a connection. Watch his actions and not his words. 
 

There are lots of great guys out there, you just have to wade through all the not so good one first. 
 

Take care.

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@divegrl thank you so much. I’m starting to realize this as well. Happy New Year and thank you for your great advice!

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