5th date cancelled as she tested positive for covid. Having flashbacks to the last girl who rejected me with this

[ramboparrot]

Hey, probably overthinking this and based off our dates/interactions I do believe she’s still interested, but I do have worries of “what if” after the last girl I dated cancelled due to covid and never saw her again

 

Some context:

- We’ve had four dates

- Each date she’s always asking when I’m next free

- She holds my hand, randomly kisses me, touches me, shows me all the signs, etc

- She’s been suggesting we spend the weekend at hers

- She messages me first every day without fail (unless I beat her to it) but she’s not much of a texter so we set up a call

- We talk a lot on phone and facetime too

- Although in the last half hour of our dates she is constantly checking the time so she doesn’t miss the train

- During the 4th date she added me on facebook and allowed me to tag her at the location we were at (I asked if this was okay first, she agreed and joked that her family will all ask about me)

- She also mentioned how much fun she’s had and loves how much effort I put into our dates. After leaving the location she pulled me to her and kissed me

- We facetimed on christmas eve and she seemed positive, every time the call disconnected she immediately called back

- When I messaged her merry christmas she replied “merry christmas ”

 

So yeah from the month I’ve been seeing her, I’ve been getting positive signs to suggest she does like me. When we facetimed on Christmas eve she did say she felt she was coming down with something, then today on boxing day she sent this:

 

Her (9:30am) - “Hey I've done a lateral flow and I have covid. So I'm not going to be able to come out for several days. I'm just awaiting on my pcr results. But I think I deffo have covid, as I have all the symptoms and feel unwell. It might be worth you doing a lateral flow, as I was around you on Wednesday xx”

Her (12pm) - PCRs positive as well xx

Me - Hey that's a shame but can't be helped, hope you feel better soon. I'll have to get a test done too. Obviously you've got to isolate for 10 days etc so let me know when you're free at that point. Can do facetime tomorrow if you're feeling up for it xx”

Her - “Awh thanks . I'll let you know if I'm up for it tomorrow xx”

 

I believe her but I also like to overthink. The last girl I was dating cut things off with covid and I never saw her again, so I’m getting flashbacks this might happen again. Only difference is this girls explanation is very detailed compared to the last one, but she doesn’t offer an alternative date.

 

Anyway, plan is to see if facetime goes ahead tomorrow but if she’s not feeling well that’s fine. Seeing as she texts me first nearly every day, if she keeps that up this week then I’ll not worry

 

Sorry for long post! I know people do get sick, especially now covid rates are currently high

[Mrin]

She has covid. 

I don't see any reason to think any more on this other than to wish her a speedy recovery and tantalize her with a fantastic date after she's recovered. 

[poppyfields]

@ramboparrotI would give her the benefit of doubt here, it sounds totally legit! 

Try to not allow past negative experiences to affect present experiences, it can be the kiss of death.

I am recovering myself, from one of the covid variants, omnicron, it's spreading like wildfire round here!  

I actually had to break a date too and he was totally understanding, even offered to bring me my fave soup - tomato and roasted red pepper, lol.  

Stay in touch with her (within reason at this early stage) and plan something for when she recovers.

Take care of yourself, I did but still caught it, it's scary out there!  

Edited December 26, 2021 by poppyfields

[ramboparrot]

6 minutes ago, poppyfields said:

@ramboparrotI would give her the benefit of doubt here, it sounds totally legit! 

Try to not allow past negative experiences to affect present experiences, it can be the kiss of death.

I am recovering myself, from one of the covid variants, omnicron, it's spreading like wildfire round here!  

I actually had to break a date too and he was totally understanding, even offered to bring me my fave soup - tomato and red pepper, lol.  

Stay in touch with her (within reason at this early stage) and plan something for when she recovers.

Take care of yourself, I did but still caught it, it's scary out there!  

Thank you! Yeah I was worried my text before it which said “I guess one of my christmas gifts is going to be seeing you on monday ” was maybe too corny and had put her off haha.

I’ve been through a lot of rejection so I constantly overthink unfortunately. I keep this away from any of our interactions though and instead use forums like these as an outlet.

Tbh she was supposed to be attending her sisters wedding up north this week so wouldn’t have seen her until new year anyway, but her sister got covid and got called off.

I’ll give it benefit of the doubt and continue as normal, if something has changed then out of my control I guess

Edited December 26, 2021 by ramboparrot

[ramboparrot]

7 minutes ago, Mrin said:

She has covid. 

I don't see any reason to think any more on this other than to wish her a speedy recovery and tantalize her with a fantastic date after she's recovered. 

Yeah, I guess let this week pass and communicate when she reaches out.

She mentioned how impressed she was with where I took her on dates to, how much fun. Even on the last date she showed me every sign in the book. I’ll back off and let her rest this week until she’s up for facetime etc

[Wiseman2]

46 minutes ago, ramboparrot said:

Her (9:30am) - “Hey I've done a lateral flow and I have covid. So I'm not going to be able to come out for several days. I'm just awaiting on my pcr results. But I think I deffo have covid, as I have all the symptoms and feel unwell. It might be worth you doing a lateral flow, as I was around you on Wednesday xx”

but she doesn’t offer an alternative date.

She's right. Take her advice and get tested. You're assuming she's lying and that's a bad start and based on someone else ghosting.  She can't offer alternative dates if she doesn't know how bad her symptoms may get.

[smackie9]

I see nothing to worry about relationship wise but since you two have been physically close you need to get tested pronto. 

[ramboparrot]

15 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

I see nothing to worry about relationship wise but since you two have been physically close you need to get tested pronto. 

Got a PCR test ready to go tomorrow. Having to wait on lateral flow tests to arrive but restricting any contact with anything until I find this out!

[ramboparrot]

27 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

She's right. Take her advice and get tested. You're assuming she's lying and that's a bad start and based on someone else ghosting.  She can't offer alternative dates if she doesn't know how bad her symptoms may get.

Oh no, it’s more me not trusting myself to do something stupid! She’s the most genuine person I’ve met, but I also have a habit of messing things up by thinking up things that aren’t there. Out of all the girls I’ve dated i’d really like this to work out so I’ve got to take it easy and not mess this up. I’m so used to rejection it’s become a common expectation 

Edited December 26, 2021 by ramboparrot

[Crazelnut]

OMG, you are totally paranoid! Calm down and just check in periodically while she recuperates. She. Has. Covid.

[Ami1uwant]

She tested positive. Thus isn’t some excuse or out givrn you had 4 dates.

 

itravelled last weekend to visit family. Someone I was with tested positive a few days later.  I had to get tested it was negative.