Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Posted December 25, 2021 My boyfriend didn't talk to me on Monday. On Tuesday he barely did and on Wednesday, Thursday, Friday he didn't. I am kinda sad. On Saturday i got upset at him for something and told him that If I annoy him i can leave him alone and I t does not seem that I am what he wants. He didn't say anything but called me 4 times on Sunday and he had very good conversation almost all day. I don't know.he is into the medical field so I assume he is busy (he actually said once he is often busy) but seems too long. For a moment i thought he ghosted me cos out favourite place for chatting showed that he was last active 2 days ago but he appeared.... We didn't fight or anything really..
Wiseman2 Posted December 25, 2021 Posted December 25, 2021 How long have you been dating? How often do you see each other in person? 1
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 Our relationship is new. Like 2-3 months. We usually talk everyday. We skip day or so so this situation is not usual for me
glows Posted December 25, 2021 Posted December 25, 2021 What did you both discuss on Saturday? Was that conversation about questioning his level of interest in you?
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 On Saturday I told him i wanna rest my head on his chest (i thought it's cute) and he only said alright... I thought it seemed like it was boring and he wasn't interested. Might have overreacted idk
glows Posted December 25, 2021 Posted December 25, 2021 That was all? If so you are both overreacting. What did you say to him exactly?
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 I told him that I like him but seems like I am not what he wants and if I annoy him I can leave him alone. He started texting something for a lob time but deleted. The next day he called me like 4 times in a row and we had good conversation all day
Wiseman2 Posted December 25, 2021 Posted December 25, 2021 (edited) 9 minutes ago, Georgeann said: On Saturday I told him i wanna rest my head on his chest (i thought it's cute) and he only said alright. Do you go on dates? It's doubtful your comment was off-putting. But it does seem like he's avoiding you or uninterested if you have to almost beg to see him and his response is ice-cold.. Are you exclusive? Why are you texting this much rather than seeing each other in person? Edited December 25, 2021 by Wiseman2
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 Right now i Am away. And yes we are exclusive.
glows Posted December 25, 2021 Posted December 25, 2021 2 minutes ago, Georgeann said: I told him that I like him but seems like I am not what he wants and if I annoy him I can leave him alone. He started texting something for a lob time but deleted. The next day he called me like 4 times in a row and we had good conversation all day What gives you the impression you’re not what he wants? FYI if I think it might be ok to rest my head on someone’s chest I just do it and never second guess that. The chest is there to be laid on. That you questioned whether something so innocent could be boring or negative in any way doesn’t make sense. He may not know why you’re questioning him and is tired of assuring you. If that is also the case, don’t stick around for someone you aren’t sure about yourself either. You may be projecting. Maybe he isn’t it for you. 1
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 His absence right now gives me the vibe. Maybe I overreact idk
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 Tired of reassuring me? I have never had similar conversation with him. Would be odd to get tired just bc I told him that once
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 And if he is tried of me like you applied he is obligated to tell me. Even more I asked him bluntly.
Girl Fade Away Posted December 25, 2021 Posted December 25, 2021 (edited) 4 hours ago, Georgeann said: Our relationship is new. Like 2-3 months. We usually talk everyday. We skip day or so so this situation is not usual for me Have you met in person? Or is this a cyber relationship? No judgment either way, only asking for context. Edited December 25, 2021 by Girl Fade Away 2
Girl Fade Away Posted December 25, 2021 Posted December 25, 2021 4 hours ago, Georgeann said: And if he is tried of me like you applied he is obligated to tell me. Even more I asked him bluntly It would be nice if he told you but sometimes people use silence as an effective method of ending a short term relationship too. Not saying that's what's happening but it's possible. 1
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 It's in person relationship. Just atm i am away for like one week. I precisely asked him on Saturday. I don't play games or lead people on. He called me 5 times on Sunday. Then messaged on Tuesday. Why doing all these if you are going to do these things? His last text was actually question
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 I am planning short goodbye message. I don't even know why involved myself into this. He is grown man and working as medical professional. Games doesn't suit him
Wiseman2 Posted December 25, 2021 Posted December 25, 2021 10 minutes ago, Georgeann said: I am planning short goodbye message. I don't even know why involved myself into this. Why not talk in person when you return. Or are there frequent and other issues that makes you want pull the plug other than not communicating well while you're away? 2
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 When I am upset about something i like to analyse things to find solution or to understand better the situation. I don't think there are excuses for his absence. He doesn't have technical issue ( as far as I know his phone is working) He is healthy and alive ( i saw selfie of a doctor from his hospital ; my bf was reading some papers in the background) I don't think he is busy with the holidays. He has only 2 family members so I don't think he is busy with shopping and cooking (he can't cook) He isn't depressed or tired because he has small You tube channel and he posted video about rare heart disease on Thursday I believe. I don't remember other issues really. I always thought we got on well and we have never fought. But this seems too much. Too many days
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 (edited) Quite the irony. I told him - I love you but looks like I am not what you want on Saturday and it turns out I really am not! I don't even understood that from him but I did from "looking" at the situation. I should drop everything and persue career as fortune teller. This is some cruel joke I swear Edited December 25, 2021 by Georgeann Typos
Wiseman2 Posted December 25, 2021 Posted December 25, 2021 8 minutes ago, Georgeann said: I love you but looks like I am not what you want on Saturday What led you to text him this? 1
Girl Fade Away Posted December 25, 2021 Posted December 25, 2021 (edited) 11 minutes ago, Georgeann said: Quite the irony. I told him - I love you but looks like I am not what you want on Saturday and it turns out I really am not! I don't even understood that from him but I did from "looking" at the situation. I should drop everything and persue career as fortune teller. This is some cruel joke I swear What did you "look at" that proves you are not what he wants? What happened? Some context is missing, it's confusing. I realize this can be difficult sometimes but try to not allow your anxiety to steer your ship. Edited December 25, 2021 by Girl Fade Away 2
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 Well his response when i told him I wish I could rest my head on his chest. He said just - Alright. Maybe I overreacted or something but it is what it is
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 No missing context. His absence speaks volumes.
Author Georgeann Posted December 25, 2021 Author Posted December 25, 2021 Omg he was online again before a hour and didn't even saw my texts! Or message something. New information. Ok he doesn't want me and just played or he has issues with the app and doesn't get notified about my texts. No other explain
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