Is this always the case ?

[Emma7897]

If a man doesn’t contact you after the first date does it always mean it’s cause he’s not interested? Could they be waiting on the women to contact first ? 
 

what has been your experience with this ? 

Edited December 24, 2021 by Emma7897

[Ami1uwant]

19 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

If a man doesn’t contact you after the first date does it always mean it’s cause he’s not interested? Could they be waiting on the women to contact first ? 
 

what has been your experience with this ? 

how much time has it been since the date?  Did you know each other prior to the first date ( not counting meeting online)?
 

if you met online….never assume you are the only one they are dating. If he lines up dates with women on Friday, Saturday, and Sunday he probably waits to make contact till after the three dates and see who he is interested in more.  
 

that said you could have bern date 1 while the other two he was on date 3 or 4 with them even though he might have started talking to you all around the same time.  In this case the others have a clear head start and are further along. He might wait to see how these go because by dates 3-5 you expect sleeping together or this being a relationship or you say forget it.  So then you are a fall back option. 

[Trail Blazer]

4 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

If a man doesn’t contact you after the first date does it always mean it’s cause he’s not interested? Could they be waiting on the women to contact first ? 
 

what has been your experience with this ? 

Usually.  However, has he outright not contacted you or just not contacted you yet?  How long has it been?  I'd sometimes wait a day or two before contacting after the fitst date.

[Happy Lemming]

As a general rule, I called on Wednesday for Friday night date and Thursday for a Saturday night date.

And I had all my "ducks in a row" (Date - Time - Place - Activity) and a backup plan in case she didn't like my first idea for the date.

I'd never call up and say "Do you want to do something this weekend??" 

Hopefully, I got some ideas from the first date that would assist me in the planning of the second date.  I'd tried to listen and make a mental note of the things she said & liked (that could be turned into an enjoyable date) that she would say "yes" to.

[Emma7897]

This has nothing to do with me . It was a general question I have friends that say sometimes they contact the man after the first date ! 
 

I just wanted to know everyone’s experience? Have you ever contacted a male after a first date of so, how did it go? 
 

Men what were some of the reasons why you didn’t contact a women after a first date ? Was it always because of disinterest? 

[smackie9]

My experience, they ask me for a second date at the end of the first date. Already planned out.

[stillafool]

36 minutes ago, smackie9 said:

My experience, they ask me for a second date at the end of the first date. Already planned out.

Yeah this has always been my experience too.

[Wiseman2]

54 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

Men what were some of the reasons why you didn’t contact a women after a first date ? 

You should at least text and say thank you. If you had a nice time say so.

If not, just say 'it was nice meeting you but I think we're not a match'. 

That's it. If there's mutual interest, you'll hear from them. It's that simple.

Be polite and kind to people either way by saying you enjoyed yourself or being clear as to not string anyone along or ghost.

 

Edited December 24, 2021 by Wiseman2

[Happy Lemming]

1 hour ago, Emma7897 said:

I just wanted to know everyone’s experience? Have you ever contacted a male after a first date of so, how did it go? 

As a man, I really can't remember a woman contacting me after the first date, before I called her for the second date.

1 hour ago, Emma7897 said:

Men what were some of the reasons why you didn’t contact a women after a first date ? Was it always because of disinterest? 

I would say mainly disinterest, we didn't click, she didn't want to participate in the conversations we were having, etc. On one occasion, I remember this woman being rude and some of the things she said were off-putting, so I didn't bother calling her for a second date. 

Did she put in the effort to make herself look nice, hair, makeup, proper dress, etc.??

Unless I got a really bad "gut" feeling about a woman, I would try to give her a pass if things didn't go swimmingly on the first date, as I would assume she was a bit nervous.

[Emma7897]

42 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

You should at least text and say thank you. If you had a nice time say so.

If not, just say 'it was nice meeting you but I think we're not a match'. 

That's it. If there's mutual interest, you'll hear from them. It's that simple.

Be polite and kind to people either way by saying you enjoyed yourself or being clear as to not string anyone along or ghost.

 

What if both parties never communicate after the date ? Like both of them don’t reach out ? 

[Happy Lemming]

17 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

What if both parties never communicate after the date ? Like both of them don’t reach out ? 

If I want to see her again, I'm going to call and present my 2nd date plans...  She can say "yes" or "no" or "I never want to see you again, get lost" 

I'm not going to wait for her to call me to initiate the 2nd date, that is on me to plan it and ask her out.

[salparadise]

2 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

I have friends that say sometimes they contact the man after the first date ! I just wanted to know everyone’s experience? Have you ever contacted a male after a first date of so, how did it go? Men what were some of the reasons why you didn’t contact a women after a first date ? Was it always because of disinterest? 

Just my opinion (and I'm sure it's not majority opinion):  If it's a traditional date (as opposed to a meet-n-greet) where a man has planned it and paid for it, and perhaps drove some distance to a location near her, then a thank-you text the next day would absolutely be appropriate. And there would usually be an indication (tone, reading between the lines) as to whether she's interested in going out again. But I'm non-traditional relative to the majority on this forum, and probably overall. I don't think there should be any barrier or inhibition to a woman initiating communication, and since I don't much care to date extremely demure traditional types, if I'd gone to a lot of work/expense to make a date happen and show her a good time... then receiving nada afterward, as if she were entitled to it all , and she's just laying back waiting for me to ask if we can do it all over again, well, I might just not get around to  it. 

All of my successful relationships have been with women who would not hesitate. My last longer - term gf wrote a thank-you next day and stated outright that she'd like to go out again if I felt the same. I told her to hold next Saturday open. We were amazingly aligned on this aspect.

Edited December 24, 2021 by salparadise

[Ami1uwant]

30 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

What if both parties never communicate after the date ? Like both of them don’t reach out ? 

Then the world explodes

[Alpacalia]

I don't know.

I'm still waiting for one particular callback.

lol