Thechief2022 Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 So I found out the other day someone who I’d worked with for the last few years has left via social media, background here is about 2 years ago at a work party she asked a mutual friend to introduce me to her (always found her attractive but didn’t know her, only other interaction was her once saying hi to me in passing) so was more than happy with this! So in the months before the office was first shut for covid there was always eye contact between us when talking in passing, little grins at each other when we walked past but covid strikes, we don’t see each other for a few months, but there’s definitely an attraction building before this, noticed her checking me out a few times before this (and I’m the same with her). Anyway for a few months we don’t see each other, then one day when she’s in I’m talking to someone and she sits on a nearby table (we have a hot-desking thing) and basically goes out of her way to say hi to me, we chat for a bit, and for the next few months whenever we see each other we always chat, eye contact, some lingering smiles, glances etc (worth noting we are quite busy so don’t have a huge amount of time to stop and have a long chat). So then it’s another lockdown and we don’t see each other for the best part of a year if not more, one day when I am getting to the office I see her, have a very quick chat (we are both running late so don’t have too much time) but eye contact as usual, but she goes out of her way to say ‘catch up soon’, later that day I’m on her floor and I notice in the corner of my eye she’s checking me out when I’m walking past from a bit of a distance, a week or two later see her in the corridor as I’m walking up the steps, I hear a ‘hi’ and see her, I have a smile on my face and she does too as we pass as we are both going to meetings, so no time to stop but good signals. So a few weeks pass, we don’t see each other again in work so Sunday night I check my LinkedIn before bed and she put a goodbye work post on Friday evening that I just saw before bed, was a bit surprised she was leaving but sent her a message telling her it’s a shame she’s gone and I’ll miss her but here’s my number, be good to stay in touch etc, literally get woken up at 6am from her response, said thanks for the kind words and for the number (we never got round to swapping them) and said she’s saved it (with one of those grinning emojis, sorry just don’t get the emoji thing so have no idea what it means), she didn’t give me hers, so what should I do - quick followup suggesting a drink in the new year or wait until she texts me (if she does), any help appreciated
Wiseman2 Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 1 hour ago, Thechief2022 said: literally get woken up at 6am from her response. she didn’t give me hers, Was this through LinkedIn? If she's not offering personal contact info after you offered and asked, she may only be interested in networking.
Blind-Sided Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 If she responded, don't wait until the new year. I would wait a day or two... and then reach out again asking if she wanted to get drinks. 2
Sun Seeker Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 Eye contact.. grins.. smiles.. glances.. this is the kind of stuff I did when I was a teenager at school with no experience and too scared to ask a girl out.. Why haven't you already asked her out a long time ago? Time to start acting like a man and taking the lead. The only message you should be sending is asking her out. Be direct.
Eternal Sunshine Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 You can and should ask her out soon but grins, eye-contact, etc, I literally do with everyone, even females. You could be reading too much into this. I don't see anything in what you have described beyond average co-worker relationship. No harm in trying though.
Author Thechief2022 Posted December 20, 2021 Author Posted December 20, 2021 (edited) 42 minutes ago, Eternal Sunshine said: You can and should ask her out soon but grins, eye-contact, etc, I literally do with everyone, even females. You could be reading too much into this. I don't see anything in what you have described beyond average co-worker relationship. No harm in trying though. True, was always the work relationship awkwardness potential I wanted to avoid and have had one years ago which started fast, ended fast and was very awkward for the remaining years I was there which is why I was a bit hesitant, plus since I definitely known she was single I’ve probably seen her about 10 times in 20 months as it was only really just before the covid period I found out, plus there was a bit of the going out of her way to walk past my desk when she was on my floor (and my desk was quite a bit out of the way, and past my desk there’s nobody there before she gets to the exit so no need to leave that way), few people around the office seem to think something is there based on how are from time to time, but yeah I think I need to bite the bullet here and go for it, we don’t have any mutual friends so not likely for awkwardness going forwards and the people she worked with I don’t tend to work with so not likely much blowback, plus I’ve been looking to leave long before this anyway and had I gone first i definitely would have made a move Edited December 20, 2021 by Thechief2022
glows Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 Yes, of course. A woman speaking here. Ask her out this week. Nevermind with the desk positions. She may not be interested or in a relationship so don’t overthink it either if she declines. Either way, she’s leaving the company so it’s a good time to see her off and toast to that and new endeavours. This isn’t just about seeing someone you like. If you’re interested in her ask her what her plans are and show some genuine interest in what’s new with her. See whether she’s free some time this week for a drink.
Author Thechief2022 Posted December 20, 2021 Author Posted December 20, 2021 8 minutes ago, glows said: Yes, of course. A woman speaking here. Ask her out this week. Nevermind with the desk positions. She may not be interested or in a relationship so don’t overthink it either if she declines. Either way, she’s leaving the company so it’s a good time to see her off and toast to that and new endeavours. This isn’t just about seeing someone you like. If you’re interested in her ask her what her plans are and show some genuine interest in what’s new with her. See whether she’s free some time this week for a drink. She left at the end of last week
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