Emma7897 Posted December 19, 2021 Posted December 19, 2021 So I had this first date with a guy. We had dinner at a restaurant he started touching my arms while sitting across of me and kissing my hands ! I knew this guy prior to the date… we left and he wanted to hold my hand in public I noticed on the date he wasn’t distracted he’s main focus was me . He kept asking me was I going to ghost him after the date ??? Now he wants to meet up again and he told me he wants this to go into a relationship…. I feel like he’s moving fast ? do you think this is going to fast ? why was he kissing my hands ? 1
Foxhall Posted December 19, 2021 Posted December 19, 2021 I think so yes, he is not confident enough to let things take a natural progression, I imagine hes been reading advice out there saying to initiate touching and so on to build sexual chemistry, so that can make for an awkward date I suppose too, if the natural rapport is not present, maybe say straight out tell him to take a step back and you will agree to another date on that basis- get to know other a bit better.
Author Emma7897 Posted December 20, 2021 Author Posted December 20, 2021 1 hour ago, Foxhall said: I think so yes, he is not confident enough to let things take a natural progression, I imagine hes been reading advice out there saying to initiate touching and so on to build sexual chemistry, so that can make for an awkward date I suppose too, if the natural rapport is not present, maybe say straight out tell him to take a step back and you will agree to another date on that basis- get to know other a bit better. Why was he kissing my hand ? So much no one has every done that to me ??
basil67 Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 He was kissing your hand because he wanted to. Not all actions have particular meanings 3
Ami1uwant Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 3 hours ago, Emma7897 said: So I had this first date with a guy. We had dinner at a restaurant he started touching my arms while sitting across of me and kissing my hands ! I knew this guy prior to the date… we left and he wanted to hold my hand in public I noticed on the date he wasn’t distracted he’s main focus was me . He kept asking me was I going to ghost him after the date ??? Now he wants to meet up again and he told me he wants this to go into a relationship…. I feel like he’s moving fast ? do you think this is going to fast ? why was he kissing my hands ? How well and how long did he know you before this date?
Author Emma7897 Posted December 20, 2021 Author Posted December 20, 2021 7 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said: How well and how long did he know you before this date? For a year
Wiseman2 Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 2 hours ago, Emma7897 said: For a year Do you like him? That's the main question as to if you want another date
Author Emma7897 Posted December 20, 2021 Author Posted December 20, 2021 1 hour ago, Wiseman2 said: Do you like him? That's the main question as to if you want another date I do ! I just felt like he was moving fast ?
basil67 Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 You've known him for a year and things have only started to happen now. This is a snail's pace.
elaine567 Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 Could kissing of the hands be a cultural thing?
Foxhall Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 11 hours ago, Emma7897 said: Why was he kissing my hand well if it was just that- he is of course being gentlemanly, the other things you mentioned- touching your arms- concern about you ghosting him, they suggest to me he needs to calm himself somewhat- let things progress naturally, that would be my concern for you- he may be slightly temperamental. 1
stillafool Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 13 hours ago, Emma7897 said: do you think this is going to fast ? You make sure it doesn't. Don't have sex with him.
Ami1uwant Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 7 hours ago, Emma7897 said: I do ! I just felt like he was moving fast ? This to him is not a 1st date because you two already knew each other. Thinking it’s moving to fast doesn’t really apply than if this was an OLD first meet. the question is are you wanting a relationship? How does he fit in to that given what you already knew about him? What pieces did you not know?
glows Posted December 20, 2021 Posted December 20, 2021 The date sounds awkward. If you feel he’s rushing it listen to your instincts. Why on earth is he kissing your hands and fearful of you ghosting him in one night? Is there some backstory or context to him saying this? Did you try to date each other at some point, talking for months and you forgot about him/dated someone else?
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