Author Emma7897 Posted December 23, 2021 Author Posted December 23, 2021 5 minutes ago, Alpaca said: Why do you care? I care because I made this post that’s why ! Why do you care to comment?
Alpacalia Posted December 23, 2021 Posted December 23, 2021 Just now, Emma7897 said: I care because I made this post that’s why ! Why do you care to comment? Because I am trying to find out what your angle is. 2
smackie9 Posted December 23, 2021 Posted December 23, 2021 So there you go...you do screen them, but you don't heed the red flags enough. You have the clingy/overly needy, and then you have the players/predators. They both say the same things to get your attention and you get the same crappy results. Got to find someone that's nice and level headed. Hard to find tho because the dating apps are saturated with crap. Get your gardening gloves on and start weeding.
BaileyB Posted December 23, 2021 Posted December 23, 2021 (edited) Unfortunately, people don’t know how to date anymore. Both men and women are quick to progress without actually building the relationship - be that fantasy talk of trips/marriage, or expecting physical/sexual contact early in a new relationship, or sending sexually explicit messages and photos, or having “sleepovers” with a virtual stranger and telling him there will be no sex until she feels “comfortable.” Some people seem to have no idea how to actually develop a relationship with another person in an authentic way - In the age of social media, some people have no interest in doing so when they can simply swipe right and “meet” someone else. And people have a poor concept of what is socially appropriate these days. This is very evident with some of the dating stories people post - I would simply advise you to keep your standards, kick these guys to the curb when you see these kinds of red flags. Be glad they reveal themselves early as they are not the right man for you. Edited December 23, 2021 by BaileyB 1
stillafool Posted December 23, 2021 Posted December 23, 2021 34 minutes ago, Alpaca said: Because I am trying to find out what your angle is. She's saying this because 42 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: Why do they get stuck on someone that’s showing no interest!!! we don't know what is going on in their minds so it's best to ask them that question. We like you, can only assume. It would be easier to give you an opinion or advice if we knew your motive for asking this question. 1
stillafool Posted December 23, 2021 Posted December 23, 2021 1 hour ago, Emma7897 said: I do block them ! 15 hours ago, Emma7897 said: they still blow up my phone for months on end. Then how are the able to do this^^^^? 3
Author Emma7897 Posted December 23, 2021 Author Posted December 23, 2021 43 minutes ago, stillafool said: Then how are the able to do this^^^^? Make different social media accounts, call me on no caller ID, call me on different numbers! There’s a lot just cause you block a person … it doesn’t mean that can’t get in contact with you.
Wiseman2 Posted December 23, 2021 Posted December 23, 2021 Make sure you have a specific strategy to avoid burn out and a dating safety strategy. Make a list of red flags and deal breakers and stick to it. For example in this case too much fake future talk is a red flag. After some chitchat and messages meet in public asap. Choose the place to meet. A coffee place during the day is safest. If you meet in a bar watch your drink and have only one drink. Then drive yourself home at a decent hour. Always drive to your meeting location. For several reasons. You can leave if it's not going well. You retain privacy as far as where exactly you live. Most importantly is safety. Once you get in someone's vehicle, you completely lose control of the situation. Men should not be getting close enough to paw you up without consent. Getting in a car is a huge mistake. If someone starts "touching your thigh" get up and leave if it's creepy. 1
Girl Fade Away Posted December 23, 2021 Posted December 23, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Emma7897 said: Make different social media accounts, call me on no caller ID, call me on different numbers! There’s a lot just cause you block a person … it doesn’t mean that can’t get in contact with you. Emma7897, I can relate as I've experienced same at times. In fact I've had quite a few nasty comments tossed my way after politely rejecting a man. Some have continued chasing and I think this is because some men actually enjoy the chase and challenge of a reluctant woman, some men actually prefer it! Breaking down your defenses or whatever. Even olderish men have acted this way. All I can suggest is be very firm and very clear that you want to be left alone. That their behavior is a turn off. After that, ignore ignore ignore. That's all you can really do, it's the nature of the beast, try to not let it get to you so much. Edited December 23, 2021 by Girl Fade Away 1
Alpacalia Posted December 23, 2021 Posted December 23, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, Emma7897 said: Make different social media accounts, call me on no caller ID, call me on different numbers! There’s a lot just cause you block a person … it doesn’t mean that can’t get in contact with you. In this case I hope you take the necessary precautions to be more proactive with your personal safety. I think that would be more beneficial to you than trying to understand "why do men become attached" since this seems to be a regular occurrence for you with men you barely know. Edited December 23, 2021 by Alpaca 1
stillafool Posted December 23, 2021 Posted December 23, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, Emma7897 said: Make different social media accounts, call me on no caller ID, call me on different numbers! There’s a lot just cause you block a person … it doesn’t mean that can’t get in contact with you. Well you're the only person I know who answers no caller ID, and unknown numbers. Most people figure it's a spam call and ignore. Maybe you should try that. No wonder they are bothering you, if they're doing that to you they're also doing it to other women too. Edited December 23, 2021 by stillafool 1
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