Johnson1 Posted December 16, 2021 Posted December 16, 2021 I matched with a lady on a dating site. We have a mutual friend in common (whom I told her I'd only met once years ago), so I asked her if she wanted to be friends on social media so she can see what I'm about, but she declined, saying she only reserves that for friends and family (which is fine), but gave me her number instead and said to text her and she'd call me when she was available, so I texted her and wished a great night and told her I'd be here when she has time to call, but it's been 3 days and no response. Not even a reply back to my text. I know she's legit. Very nice lady, family oriented, just not sure why she's waiting so long. I haven't been in a dating site in a long time and thought I'd give it a try again since I haven't been going out as much to meet someone in person like I normally do. Should I respond back one more time and inquire or just leave it be? Thanks.
Versacehottie Posted December 16, 2021 Posted December 16, 2021 She doesn't seem that motivated to date or date you unfortunately. Could be because the timing is bad for her or could be that she's just not interested. I think you shouldn't do anything further. If she reaches out to you, then you can take it from there. And if you bump into her in person, take it as a clean slate and try again. 1
glows Posted December 16, 2021 Posted December 16, 2021 Don’t reach out again. She’s not interested. See what other matches there are. 1
Wiseman2 Posted December 16, 2021 Posted December 16, 2021 25 minutes ago, Johnson1 said: I texted her and wished a great night and told her I'd be here when she has time to call Suggest going for coffee at mutually convenient time as soon as possible. All these lateral moves, social media, texting, calling etc. is stalling. Either she wants to meet or she's a timewaster. 1
notbroken Posted December 16, 2021 Posted December 16, 2021 She's not interested enough to text or call. NEXT! 1
smackie9 Posted December 16, 2021 Posted December 16, 2021 Not interested. Dude she slammed on the breaks right from the get go. So what she gave you her number. Lots of them do that to pacify the situation. Move along, nothing to see here. 2
Author Johnson1 Posted December 16, 2021 Author Posted December 16, 2021 37 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: Suggest going for coffee at mutually convenient time as soon as possible. All these lateral moves, social media, texting, calling etc. is stalling. Either she wants to meet or she's a timewaster. I agree. Don't know why she would even bother giving me her number if she's going to be that way. Paranoia I'm sure probably plays a part, which I can understand to a certain extent. Who knows. 2
Author Johnson1 Posted December 16, 2021 Author Posted December 16, 2021 (edited) Yea, I think I'm just going to say to h*** with the dating sites. It's ridiculous. I don't need someone that bad. I don't get people sometimes. Edited December 16, 2021 by Johnson1 1
chillii Posted December 16, 2021 Posted December 16, 2021 She sounded pretty readable to me , as smackie described.
dramafreezone Posted December 16, 2021 Posted December 16, 2021 5 hours ago, Johnson1 said: I matched with a lady on a dating site. We have a mutual friend in common (whom I told her I'd only met once years ago), so I asked her if she wanted to be friends on social media so she can see what I'm about, but she declined, saying she only reserves that for friends and family (which is fine), but gave me her number instead and said to text her and she'd call me when she was available, so I texted her and wished a great night and told her I'd be here when she has time to call, but it's been 3 days and no response. Not even a reply back to my text. I know she's legit. Very nice lady, family oriented, just not sure why she's waiting so long. I haven't been in a dating site in a long time and thought I'd give it a try again since I haven't been going out as much to meet someone in person like I normally do. Should I respond back one more time and inquire or just leave it be? Thanks. Inquire into what? She said to text her and she'll call you when she's available. I would guess she's not available yet. Why didn't you just ask her out and make your intentions clear? I don't think she's very interested in you in a romantic capacity if she declined to give you her social media information, but you should have clearly put the ball in her court by asking her out. The way you texted her was just not great. You'll be there when she has time? It makes it seem as though you have nothing else better to do but to wait on her. Double texting is a no no though. She got your text and she didn't respond. That means she's probably not interested. Plenty of people match each other on dating sites when they have no intentions of actually dating that person. Sad I know but it is the reality. 1
Versacehottie Posted December 16, 2021 Posted December 16, 2021 100% honesty this is #fact. Some girls take your number or give you theirs as a way to effectively satisfy you (pacify you as someone said above) and then don't intend to do anything further. It's just to get them out of the situation in the moment. Or they take/give the number, but are effectively undecided about how or if they are going to move forward despite what they say to your face. It's a way to kick the can down the road and hold off the decision and/or keep you in their back pocket. To be fair, both guys and girls do these tactics for these reasons. 1
dramafreezone Posted December 16, 2021 Posted December 16, 2021 (edited) 6 hours ago, Johnson1 said: Yea, I think I'm just going to say to h*** with the dating sites. It's ridiculous. I don't need someone that bad. I don't get people sometimes. Well, people generally don't want to hurt other people's feelings, which is what an outright rejection is. Ironically though, the outright rejection is the kinder thing to do because at least you can move on quickly. Edited December 16, 2021 by dramafreezone
Maldives Posted December 17, 2021 Posted December 17, 2021 10 hours ago, Johnson1 said: I matched with a lady on a dating site. We have a mutual friend in common (whom I told her I'd only met once years ago), so I asked her if she wanted to be friends on social media so she can see what I'm about, but she declined, saying she only reserves that for friends and family (which is fine), but gave me her number instead and said to text her and she'd call me when she was available, so I texted her and wished a great night and told her I'd be here when she has time to call, but it's been 3 days and no response. Not even a reply back to my text. I know she's legit. Very nice lady, family oriented, just not sure why she's waiting so long. I haven't been in a dating site in a long time and thought I'd give it a try again since I haven't been going out as much to meet someone in person like I normally do. Should I respond back one more time and inquire or just leave it be? Thanks. Pretty simple she's not interested
jdesey Posted December 19, 2021 Posted December 19, 2021 Again I’ll say it for the hundredth time. When the right woman comes along it will be easy. This is not easy as she is not responding. Move onto the next 1
dramafreezone Posted December 19, 2021 Posted December 19, 2021 (edited) 15 hours ago, jdesey said: Again I’ll say it for the hundredth time. When the right woman comes along it will be easy. This is not easy as she is not responding. Move onto the next I understand and agree with that but you won't be dating much if you wait for the "right woman." I know what you're talking about, that one person that has a high level of interest in you and you in them right off the bat. It's a great thing but rare for most guys I think. The right one for me comes along only every couple of years or so. Until then you have to deal with a bunch of dates with lukewarm interest and a few of those turn into something, most don't. Edited December 19, 2021 by dramafreezone
Girl Fade Away Posted December 19, 2021 Posted December 19, 2021 (edited) On 12/16/2021 at 6:26 AM, Johnson1 said: ...so I texted her and wished a great night and told her I'd be here when she has time to call. This sounds over-eager and may be the reason she changed her mind about you and never texted back.. sorry. Next time simply say, "thnx, have a great night." Leave her wondering about you a bit. It creates attraction. Edited December 19, 2021 by Girl Fade Away
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