Lovesick2112 Posted December 12, 2021 Posted December 12, 2021 Hello, just wondering what others may think of this? Two weeks ago my girlfriend got pretty drunk kind of freaked out on me and drove home. It was pretty concerning, and no matter how calm I was and tried to walk her off the ledge (so too speak) she was just upset wouldn't listen got in her car and left. We've been together 8 months and this hasn't happened before. We didn't argue, there was no yelling she just said something like she couldn't take it anymore, and was upset. The next day I spoke to her, she apologized and admitted drinking was a big part of the problem. We got over it and everything is fine. However now she says she's sick, and I haven't seen her since! About 2 weeks now. She said she doesn't want to get me sick either being so close to Christmas. We talk everyday, everything seems fine we made plans for Christmas, but I can't help but wonder... it's she really that sick? Or is she just pushing me off for awhile. I'm not sure what to do? So far I've been patient, but I'd sure like to see her, and it's getting a bit upsetting. However if she really is sick I'll feel like a dumb ass accusing her of not really being sick. And thoughts??
Wiseman2 Posted December 12, 2021 Posted December 12, 2021 (edited) 17 minutes ago, Lovesick2112 said: Two weeks ago my girlfriend got pretty drunk kind of freaked out on me and drove home. got in her car and left. now she says she's sick, and I haven't seen her since! About 2 weeks now. Is she on/off or talking to an ex or recently out of a relationship? How could you let someone drive drunk? Not call the police or try to stop it. Instead you're concerned about her tantrums? She needs rehab/detox not a relationship if she is getting behind the wheel of a car risking others' lives. End it she's nothing but drama and lies. Besides you don't trust her. You know what she meant by "couldn't take it", but that's not included in this. Edited December 12, 2021 by Wiseman2 1
FMW Posted December 12, 2021 Posted December 12, 2021 Two weeks is a long time to be sick unless it's something serious. Tell her exactly that, and that you are worried about her. Tell her you want to see her anyway, if only for a few minutes. I can't imagine anything she might have that would make her contagious for two weeks and counting.
Author Lovesick2112 Posted December 12, 2021 Author Posted December 12, 2021 She could be talking to an ex, who knows? Anything is possible. I didn't want her to drive trust me! I tried to stop her, and the end of the day what can you do? People are their own worst enemies. That's like me forcing her into some kind of rehab. That's not going to happen either. I'm hoping it's a one time thing, but it doesn't help that I can't see her.
Author Lovesick2112 Posted December 12, 2021 Author Posted December 12, 2021 She did have Covid like 4 weeks ago, she got over that, now she's sick again. Maybe her immune system is just shot from having Covid? I don't know?
glows Posted December 12, 2021 Posted December 12, 2021 Given what you’ve seen, the question might be.. would you want to see her ever again? While her being sick may not be a reason to end it, excessive drinking and callous behaviour are. She refused to communicate with you at all. I think you’re upset because of her lack of communication and upcoming holiday plans. Leave her alone and let her come to you. In the meantime decide whether this is someone you want in your life. 3 1
Wiseman2 Posted December 12, 2021 Posted December 12, 2021 23 minutes ago, Lovesick2112 said: She did have Covid like 4 weeks ago, she got over that, now she's sick again. Do not suggest going to see her. Let her come to you. What, exactly, did she mean by "I can't take it anymore"? Take what? Yes reconsider if it's worth staying with someone this irresponsible and flaky.
Author Lovesick2112 Posted December 12, 2021 Author Posted December 12, 2021 Yea, it was discouraging that she couldn't talk to me at the time, but the next day she did. She does send me messages everyday telling me that she loves me and she's sick of being sick. Idk? It's not like she's ignoring me, but it's just that I haven't seen her and it's getting a little irritating. Also yes, holiday plans. I'd like to at least get through the holidays before making any drastic decision. However if I don't see her soon, I feel I may have too.
Author Lovesick2112 Posted December 12, 2021 Author Posted December 12, 2021 1 minute ago, Wiseman2 said: Do not suggest going to see her. Let her come to you. What, exactly, did she mean by "I can't take it anymore"? Take what? Yes reconsider if it's worth staying with someone this irresponsible and flaky. Yea? Idk? That's a good question that was never really answered. Don't know if that was just her being drunk or something behind that?
Saracena Posted December 12, 2021 Posted December 12, 2021 Yes, I was going to ask what she 'couldn't take anymore' as well. Was this completely out of the blue? How have things been between you two in last few weeks? What exactly is wrong with her?
Wiseman2 Posted December 12, 2021 Posted December 12, 2021 9 minutes ago, Lovesick2112 said: Yea? Idk? That's a good question that was never really answered. Don't know if that was just her being drunk or something behind that? You two seem to have a problem communicating honestly and accurately. Add all the drama and mysteries to this and it may be time to reflect what exactly are you doing with her. 1
Author Lovesick2112 Posted December 12, 2021 Author Posted December 12, 2021 Yes, it was pretty much out of the blue. We otherwise have had a pretty good relationship. Part of the reason I'm hanging on here. Trust me, I was pretty... idk shaken up by this. Made no sense to me. Like I said, no argument, no yelling, no screaming... she just kind of flipped out, and I was pretty worried about her. They next day she apologized and everything had been fine... other than not actually seeing her since.
glows Posted December 12, 2021 Posted December 12, 2021 Did she get tested for covid? She’s not ignoring you which is not the impression I got earlier. Remind yourself you are choosing to be with this person. You’re not a helpless bystander in this. If you care about her then be a bit more patient. I get the sense though that you both are missing some communication. How can you say she’s your gf and doubt someone so much? Do you often have anxiety or question people’s intentions? 2
Ami1uwant Posted December 12, 2021 Posted December 12, 2021 1 hour ago, Lovesick2112 said: Yea, it was discouraging that she couldn't talk to me at the time, but the next day she did. She does send me messages everyday telling me that she loves me and she's sick of being sick. Idk? It's not like she's ignoring me, but it's just that I haven't seen her and it's getting a little irritating. Also yes, holiday plans. I'd like to at least get through the holidays before making any drastic decision. However if I don't see her soon, I feel I may have too. How often have you had dates and alcohol was involved? What was the argument you had when she was drunk about? I saw some issues with my ex gf come out when she got drunk that really concerned me. She didn’t get drunk like that often. Maybe once/ twice a year type of thing.
dramafreezone Posted December 12, 2021 Posted December 12, 2021 2 hours ago, Lovesick2112 said: However now she says she's sick, and I haven't seen her since! About 2 weeks now. She said she doesn't want to get me sick either being so close to Christmas. We talk everyday, everything seems fine we made plans for Christmas, but I can't help but wonder... it's she really that sick? Or is she just pushing me off for awhile. I'm not sure what to do? So far I've been patient, but I'd sure like to see her, and it's getting a bit upsetting. However if she really is sick I'll feel like a dumb ass accusing her of not really being sick. Two things can be true at the same time. She may be sick but if she were crazy about you she would want you to be over there caring for her. She would actually be really upset if you didn't go over to see her in her time of need. So if she's sick she's using it as a reason not to see you.
chillii Posted December 12, 2021 Posted December 12, 2021 Sounds like things must be pretty shallow or you two have terrible communication don't know ea other very well or something, how could you not know what l can't take any more of this , "this" actually is. You must know her pasts or frustrations or things happening in her life, there was something in that line. And how could she be sick 2wks, and you still not even knowing just what the "sick" actually is. 2
princessaurora Posted December 13, 2021 Posted December 13, 2021 She might be experiencing long covid. I have a friend who got covid back in September and she catches everything that comes around ever since. She's had a bad cold since the week before Thanksgiving and can't shake it for anything. She is absolutely miserable. Maybe your girlfriend is going through the same thing.
spiderowl Posted December 13, 2021 Posted December 13, 2021 Have you asked her what she is sick with and how it is affecting her? Sounds like she was fed up of something and became reckless. If someone is going off the rails like that, then they have a problem you may not want to be part of. Does she usually get this drunk? Could her drink have been spiked? How much was her behaviour out of character? If it is not out of character, then she needs help and you might prefer to keep your distance, at least until she sorts herself out.
Wiseman2 Posted December 13, 2021 Posted December 13, 2021 18 hours ago, Lovesick2112 said: ... she just kind of flipped out Just kinda flipped out, just kinda got drunk and drove off, just kinda sick, just kinda ghosts? Sounds like you can't communicate well with each other.
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