niptuck Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 A little history--i have a mother who has been thru breast cancer twice with reconstructive surgery consisting of implants and tram flap reconstruction. Its difficult to explain, but breasts become just another bodypart to families who have to deal with this after a period of time. so i am dating this girl, and she knows all about the stuff i have been thru in recent years dealing with this breast cancer stuff. she is reading a people magazine ( a red flag, but thats a different post!) and demi moore is on the cover with all of her "work" that has been done. GF comments on this and claims that she can spot plastic surgery a mile away, on anything. i said really?? and she said "I'm an expert on fake women." several hours later, a woman is coming down the beach with a huge rack that really stood out.. i figured she was a prime candidate to have had an implant. so i lean over to Gf and ask her, the PS expert, if she thought that woman had some work done. she said yeaaaa.....and i chuckled and said my mom thought about getting a size bigger but didnt want the extra weight....and that might not have been a good test for her PS spotting prowess.......the end. 2 hours later, back at the house, out of the blue, she is all pissed off about how i disrespected her by asking about this breast. WTF? this was much more of a clinical inquery to test her knowledge of implants, and nothing sexual about it. plus it was essentialy whispered between us while sitting on the beach. nothing else was said, and we went on with other conversation. she didnt get the comparison betwen me asking about demi moore and this stranger. demi was ok, but this woman on the beach wasnt. what dont i get here? i just apologized and told her that if it upset her, i wouldnt mention ANY breast again. but she should just discuss it instead of blowing her top for 15 minutes about how rude and disrespectful that was, over nothing. so she asks people at work, and they said she was right. but , if you know her, you can bet that her story is severely slanted to favor her. she just cant let it go, so i told her that sometimes you can be right and lose, or you can just let something go, especially if the issue is so trivial. anyway, let me know if i am a total cad for this---as far as her, she is a soon to be ex because this delayed explosion thing and her other depressive issues such as this is just too uncertain for me to go on. i need this for future reference. thanks.
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