Why [did he] do this ?

[Emma7897]

24 minutes ago, Girl Fade Away said:

Yup, this one goes back.   Find men who are more confident and secure is my best advice!  Make sure you are reciprocating and initiating sometimes too.  If he always texts first at 8:00 am then maybe initiate a text mid-afternoon or in the evening.

Again, it's all about finding the right person and the right balance of give and take.

Why was he texting so early though ? 

[Girl Fade Away]

4 minutes ago, Emma7897 said:

Why was he texting so early though ? 

To say good morning most likely.   To bring a smile to your face before you start your day.  Personally I never cared for that morning ritual, but many men do this, did it bother you?

 

Edited December 9, 2021 by Girl Fade Away

[Emma7897]

6 minutes ago, Girl Fade Away said:

To say good morning most likely.   To bring a smile to your face before you start your day.  Personally I never cared for that morning ritual, but many men do this, did it bother you?

 

No not at all. 

[Ami1uwant]

6 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

He would always ask me what we are and I would say idk ? 

 

he’s trying to hook up with you.  He might have felt at some time u were interested but you might change from tine to time.

[Emma7897]

27 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said:

 

he’s trying to hook up with you.  He might have felt at some time u were interested but you might change from tine to time.

That makes no sense 

[Grey40]

How old are you? 
did you ever meet this guy in person? 
have you guys ever kissed? 
Sounds to me like both of you are super young and inexperienced. He clearly needs to do a lot of work to learn how to attract women, because he’s doing the total opposite. This is why you were confused because it felt like you had to lead and take the direction and it’s just not natural for women to feel that way, you women are wired to be drawn to confidence and security of a guy who knows what he wants.

Some women obviously don’t have problems taking the lead, but in my experience that’s pretty rare and in cases where I’ve experienced that it did not end well (they end up burning through guys very quickly) 

Edited December 9, 2021 by Grey40

[basil67]

12 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

He would always ask me what we are and I would say idk ? 

That's because he couldn't read you and was communicating in an effort to find out what you felt.   He's not going to ask you if you want to be a girlfriend if he can't figure out if you're interested.

12 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

Well I told him we were just friends ??? 

 

8 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

Yeah I definitely agree. Well seems like this one is gone lol. 
 

better luck next time ! 

This "just friends" is one reason why you confused him.   You say "just friends" but the fact that you're writing here suggests that you hoped for more.  But the LOL and "better luck next time" when he moved on suggests that you didn't care one jot for him and were just wasting his time.  Talk about mixed messages.  I think that you don't even know what you wanted.

13 hours ago, Emma7897 said:

What if you never initiated anything he always did ? 

This is another reason he couldn't read you.  Zero initiation from shows zero interest.    Emma, is this mess of communication what your dating usually looks like?   

[Wiseman2]

If someone is not suggesting a meeting/date, they're not interested.

Have you read the book "He's Just Not That Into You"?

It may help you identify timewasters like this sooner so you can delete and block and move forward.

[Emma7897]

7 hours ago, basil67 said:

That's because he couldn't read you and was communicating in an effort to find out what you felt.   He's not going to ask you if you want to be a girlfriend if he can't figure out if you're interested.

 

This "just friends" is one reason why you confused him.   You say "just friends" but the fact that you're writing here suggests that you hoped for more.  But the LOL and "better luck next time" when he moved on suggests that you didn't care one jot for him and were just wasting his time.  Talk about mixed messages.  I think that you don't even know what you wanted.

This is another reason he couldn't read you.  Zero initiation from shows zero interest.    Emma, is this mess of communication what your dating usually looks like?   

It doesn’t matter anymore all he does is send me random photos of the wall which I don’t respond to.