Ab3GG Posted December 6, 2021 Share Posted December 6, 2021 I have a friend that I do an activity with once a week for the past year, we became friends due to seeing each other at this activity. Over the past several months we have talked quite a bit and I’m confused if he is interested in me as more than friends. He has mentioned he would like to be in a relationship but has not been able to find the right person, he compliments me, he has said I am attractive, he said I am a good leader, a good listener, determined and keep him motivated in our shared activity. We have traveled to events together a few times together and we got along really well, we can talk for hours and I feel very comfortable with him. I am confused about how he feels about me because I have asked him a handful of times to do things and he always has an excuse to not do anything with me. Outside of our shared activity he has never asked me to do anything with him. We text each other often and discuss a wide variety of things. I am leaning toward thinking he is not interested in me but then I think about the compliments and that he tells me he is busy working sixty plus hours a week so then I think maybe he is interested and just doesn’t have a lot of time. He will text me at random times like very early in the morning or the middle of the day for often no reason other than to share an article on something he thinks would interest me so I think that at least he is thinking about me but maybe it’s just me projecting what I want. I’m confused. What do you think? Link to post Share on other sites
Ami1uwant Posted December 7, 2021 Share Posted December 7, 2021 Is this in the gym? Comments on looking good are more a complete,iment to motivate and support you and not so much an overture. Is he attracted to you? How was it early on? He might view you as just friends because it’s what your body language is saying. He might be dating but not found something more. I believe ethereal is a window of opportunity to date. Ifyou get past that window it becomes risky to try to date and lose a friend. Link to post Share on other sites
stillafool Posted December 7, 2021 Share Posted December 7, 2021 Why don't you invite him over to dinner. If he rejects the invitation again without making follow up plans he is not interested. He may just see you as a good friend. Link to post Share on other sites
glows Posted December 7, 2021 Share Posted December 7, 2021 (edited) 8 hours ago, Ab3GG said: I am confused about how he feels about me because I have asked him a handful of times to do things and he always has an excuse to not do anything with me. I think he enjoys your company but isn't interested in dating you or spending time with you one on one even as a friend. He's what I'd call a casual acquaintance. It may be confusing for you because he texts you and sends you the odd article or piece of news or it seems like he's thinking of you but that may be just the way he is and that's how he keeps in touch with his friends and acquaintances. Staying in touch during the pandemic helps a lot of people too. If he likes you, he may be attracted to your other qualities as a person but not necessarily ever be interested in you as in dating you, the whole you. I'm sorry to say that. Regarding him mentioning work and being too busy working too many hours, there are never not enough hours in the day if you are very attracted to someone. You make time and time management is attractive in a partner. If he can't do that for you, forget it. He's not interested and most of all, neither should you be. If you can appreciate him as a friend, that would be fine. If you have feelings for him, try to move on. Mute his messages and make more time to keep in touch with other friends and balance things out a bit more. There's too much emphasis on this guy. Edited December 7, 2021 by glows Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted December 7, 2021 Share Posted December 7, 2021 I would keep him in the 'friend' pile. If he's telling you his dating woes, he's not interested. Get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting interested men for a low-key coffee ☕. Link to post Share on other sites
Roxie86 Posted December 20, 2021 Share Posted December 20, 2021 Do you share any mutual friends outside of this activity? Maybe putting out some feelers could help. It can be very helpful to get others so casually observe behaviors. Outside of that, it is unfortunately not possible for us to guess whether he's into you. If he is interested, his feelings haven't been strong enough for him to ask you out yet. Or he may be assuming that you're not interested. I would recommend taking the step of asking him to do something new with you, maybe in your home or similar intimate setting. If he's interested, he will make the time Link to post Share on other sites
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