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On 12/6/2021 at 5:38 PM, Akashsingh said:

I was only casually dating but she wanted a relationship and had developed the feelings. 

Secondly, I am no handsome dude either.i am just ok. That she was willing to overlook my shortcomings and give me attention or wanted to get serious with me is what also attracted me to her. I have hard time finding women that are into me. This was definitely interested in me

Buy her some implants?

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Hate to be a party pooper here but if you want bigger boobs you’d be better off going for a bigger woman. 
 

No “skinny” woman I know has enormous boobs. Perhaps that’s different elsewhere in the world? 

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Well, I have a problem. I like skinny ass but well rounded boobs. They don't have to be huge, just well rounded and not zero. 

This woman is only 99 lbs. I should target someone around 120-125.

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2 hours ago, JRabbit said:

Buy her some implants?

Not a fan of silica, kills attraction for me.

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35 minutes ago, Akashsingh said:

Not a fan of silica, kills attraction for me.

It's too late for all that. She ended things and moved on. You need to do the same .

But this time choose women you are attracted to and have common goal/interests with.

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4 hours ago, Wiseman2 said:

It's too late for all that. She ended things and moved on. You need to do the same .

But this time choose women you are attracted to and have common goal/interests with.

It's only been a week.

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3 hours ago, Akashsingh said:

It's only been a week.

lt's only been a wk and she's already moved on ahhhh, why exactly do you wanna get back with her for ?

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10 hours ago, Akashsingh said:

It's only been a week.

Ok. Never too soon to get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting women for a low-key coffee ☕.

Besides this never got off the ground anyway. It was over before it started.

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I know. I am taking a break till new year or spring.  The time I spent with her was the best after my divorce. She gave me more attention than any other lady and seemed to want to overlook my faults

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Is this the same girl? If so, it sounds like it was a pretty rocky start. 

 

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3 hours ago, seapebbles said:

Is this the same girl? If so, it sounds like it was a pretty rocky start. 

 

Same girl. Anyways we are not talking now. 

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Update: Two weeks later this new guy has dumped her and she is blowing my phone like 9 times over the weekend and needs a shoulder to cry. She doesn't want to meet me or get back together but is constantly asking me why this guy is so mean to her and ignore her after 2 weeks a.d not even answer simple question.

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Surprise surprise . Just say your very sorry but your just on your way out , another time.

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6 hours ago, Akashsingh said:

 she is blowing my phone like 9 times over the weekend and needs a shoulder to cry. 

It may be best to delete and block her so you can move forward in peace. 

If you do so, she'll move on and blow up her friends and family phones to talk about it.

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6 hours ago, Akashsingh said:

Update: Two weeks later this new guy has dumped her and she is blowing my phone like 9 times over the weekend and needs a shoulder to cry. She doesn't want to meet me or get back together but is constantly asking me why this guy is so mean to her and ignore her after 2 weeks a.d not even answer simple question.

What the heck is up with some women, geez!  Sometimes I am truly embarrassed for my own gender.

Please don't become a white knight, block, delete, move on with your life. 

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I just tried to help her as a friend. I am sure she blew up everyone's phone. I gave her concrete feedback on where she could improve so it will help her with men. Today is better she has not called me so far.

 

I told her to stop being needy or begging, don't move too fast in a relationship and don't pressure another party for an answer and most importantly not to sleep with someone for atleast 6 weeks unless hookup was her objective.

 

 

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14 minutes ago, Akashsingh said:

I just tried to help her as a friend. I am sure she blew up everyone's phone. I gave her concrete feedback on where she could improve so it will help her with men. Today is better she has not called me so far.

 

I told her to stop being needy or begging, don't move too fast in a relationship and don't pressure another party for an answer and most importantly not to sleep with someone for atleast 6 weeks unless hookup was her objective.

 

 

I don't know if you were trying to be helpful that much or you just wanted to hurt her. I mean, how dare a woman that you didn't have a future with and you didn't find physically attractive that much find someone else? The thing is, if she finds someone who really likes her, all of her, it would not matter how fast or slow she moves. The guy would not feel much pressure, in fact, the pressure would probably be welcomed. There are people who sleep with each other on a first date and get married later on. Some guys might find her a tease and move to the greener pastures if she doesn't sleep with him within 6 weeks, lol. You "help" sounds very mean spirited. It would go a lot better if you kept your opinions to yourself and just blocked her. Would be a lot kinder for her. Should she be blowing your phone up after she moved to someone else? No, she should not have done that. But that what a blocking function is for. It sounds like you are just bitter and went for a revenge thing. Blunt honestly was not needed or warranted.

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1 hour ago, Alvi said:

I don't know if you were trying to be helpful that much or you just wanted to hurt her. I mean, how dare a woman that you didn't have a future with and you didn't find physically attractive that much find someone else? The thing is, if she finds someone who really likes her, all of her, it would not matter how fast or slow she moves. The guy would not feel much pressure, in fact, the pressure would probably be welcomed. There are people who sleep with each other on a first date and get married later on. Some guys might find her a tease and move to the greener pastures if she doesn't sleep with him within 6 weeks, lol. You "help" sounds very mean spirited. It would go a lot better if you kept your opinions to yourself and just blocked her. Would be a lot kinder for her. Should she be blowing your phone up after she moved to someone else? No, she should not have done that. But that what a blocking function is for. It sounds like you are just bitter and went for a revenge thing. Blunt honestly was not needed or warranted.

I dont want any revenge actually and I have no ill will. She can sleep with whoever she wants. She called me and asked for advice, I gave mine. Moving too fast is a disaster for women because you don't know the intention of the guys. Every female dating coach tells them not to put out too early , else they risk the guy not coming back to them. It may have happened in a few cases where couple slept on the first date and ended up being married. However that's not the case with vast majority of dating population. 

She wants an LTR. I can't offer her an LTR. Looks aside, primary problem is children here.

Also if the other guy has LTR in mind, waiting for 6 weeks should not be a problem.

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17 hours ago, Akashsingh said:

She doesn't want to meet me or get back together

Why would she want to?

You friend-zoned yourself.

Just move on.

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1 hour ago, Alpaca said:

Why would she want to?

You friend-zoned yourself.

Just move on.

I am ok with her being friend 

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