Am I thinking too much if shes makes more and lives in a different lifestyle? how to overcome it?

[Crazelnut]

Even if she's telling the truth, she's a shallow, label conscious, money-obsessed woman who overshares with someone she's never met  Is that the kind of woman you want to date?

[ItsTheDay]

 Am I thinking too much if shes makes more and lives in a different lifestyle? 

On 12/4/2021 at 10:25 PM, lioil said:

So we haven't met yet

 

Yes, yes you are.

[lioil]

Just now, ItsTheDay said:

 Am I thinking too much if shes makes more and lives in a different lifestyle? 

Yes, yes you are.

So just go on first date this weekend and see how it goes. If she's catfishing she would drag the meeting time as long as possible but all signs pointing she's coming back from business trip Thursday. 

Maybe it doesn't match at all. If it does then I just keep going without giving any money. I have never gave super expensive gifts before nor will unless married or engaged. Most expensive thing I gave was 300$ necklace.

[Gaeta]

Do you have a time and place set for your first meeting?

[Gaeta]

11 hours ago, lioil said:

Did you guys go far ? I guess maybe from guy catfish sleeping together is not a loss?

Oh yes, sex was hot, he was super attentive & romantic. It started with jokes to see my position on money like we were driving somewhere and were passed by a Porsche and he said one day you'll get me that car right *wink*. At the time I thought it's just humor.

[lioil]

5 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Do you have a time and place set for your first meeting?

Yeah she asked me where I usually take on my first date I said usually meal and something else. I did mention movies before so she said we could do lunch movies and then asked me what I planned for evening. I said I didn't think about it but we can figure it out after. She did one time mention to see her cat because we both like cats. But I don't know how awkward that would be since if we meet at the mall driving ourselves (its 30 mins for both of us) I would follow her to her place ?  

 

[lioil]

5 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Oh yes, sex was hot, he was super attentive & romantic. It started with jokes to see my position on money like we were driving somewhere and were passed by a Porsche and he said one day you'll get me that car right *wink*. At the time I thought it's just humor.

Yeah thats kinda obvious... I mean I would too but maybe continue the sex though until she thinks its not worth it since I ain't flinching..

[Girl Fade Away]

OP, fwiw from scamwatch.gov..

Common types of investment scams

Cryptocurrency scams

Cryptocurrencies are digital currencies. Bitcoin is the most well-known form of digital currency. In Australia, cryptocurrency is not treated as ‘money’ or a ‘financial product’ and you have less protection if you invest and it turns out be a scam or you lose a lot of money.

It is very difficult to identify legitimate cryptocurrency investments from scams. Scammers take advantage of the hype and the less regulated environment to ‘invest’ in Bitcoin or another cryptocurrency on your behalf.

Before you invest you should ask yourself if you are willing to lose some or all of the money you have invested and know that if you go ahead you are investing with little or no protections behind you.

Cryptocurrency investment scammers are convincing. They may advertise or post on social media offering great returns from cryptocurrency trading. If you click on the advertisement or post, the scammer will contact you or you will be directed to a fake website. The scammer will offer to make an investment on your behalf, or provide details of an app or website through which you can invest.

Cryptocurrency scammers also commonly use platforms such as Discord and Telegram to contact people.

The scammers will encourage you to buy cryptocurrency through an exchange or request you send money to a company for them to do so on your behalf. They will then claim to either trade on your behalf, or coach you through making trades yourself. You will be able to see the profits you have made on a webpage, app or custom MetaTrader platform.

The data you can see will be fake and will show you profiting (or losing as a way to get you to invest more money). Eventually you will be unable to withdraw any money.

The scammers will make excuses for delays in withdrawals, you are banned from the platform or the trading platform is closed. When you try and find out what has happened, the scammers cannot be contacted and your money is gone.

_____

OP, I find it extremely questionable that she's discussing cryptocurrency with you.  You have never even met. 

So be careful and stay aware. 

Edited December 7, 2021 by Girl Fade Away

[Gaeta]

13 minutes ago, lioil said:

Yeah she asked me where I usually take on my first date I said usually meal and something else. I did mention movies before so she said we could do lunch movies and then asked me what I planned for evening. I said I didn't think about it but we can figure it out after. She did one time mention to see her cat because we both like cats. But I don't know how awkward that would be since if we meet at the mall driving ourselves (its 30 mins for both of us) I would follow her to her place ?  

 

Is this like a whole day together first meeting? Who's idea is that? A first meeting is to break the ice, you go for a coffee together. 30 minute drive each way is nothing. I would never follow someone to their home on a 1st meeting,  she could put something in your drink, She's a stranger!

My brother was friend with a woman who died on her first online date. She followed the guy home, had sex, never woke up. They both died of carbon monoxide poisonings. The guy didn't maintain his furnace properly. 

[lioil]

3 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

Is this like a whole day together first meeting? Who's idea is that? A first meeting is to break the ice, you go for a coffee together. 30 minute drive each way is nothing. I would never follow someone to their home on a 1st meeting,  she could put something in your drink, She's a stranger!

My brother was friend with a woman who died on her first online date. She followed the guy home, had sex, never woke up. They both died of carbon monoxide poisonings. The guy didn't maintain his furnace properly. 

I had 6 hour first dates before and sometimes we chat a lot time passes quickly. Also we chatted a lot already so imo those count as icebreaker date so to speak because that's time too. But I agree that I probably end the date after the movie or just have a drink after the movie to end it and go our ways. 

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, lioil said:

I do but I want to be careful too.

Do you? Then why are you not setting up a brief coffee meet and instead chitchatting talking about your finances?

Long game? Alimony? Child support? Why are you concerned about this with someone you never met?

What is there to "be careful" about? You meet for coffee d briefly in a public place. That's it.

Edited December 7, 2021 by Wiseman2

[lioil]

Just now, Wiseman2 said:

Do you? Then why are you not setting up a brief coffee meet and instead chitchatting talking about your finances?

I don't like coffee dates. My dates usually a meal and maybe activity. But the finances she kinda brought up. But she is supposed to come back from her business trip Thursday. If she can't come to date weekend then I think more than likely a catfish.

To be fair I did have women whom I dated multiple times where they had work related reasons the first 2 weeks but we met after and gone on several dates... 

[Girl Fade Away]

6 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Do you? Then why are you not setting up a brief coffee meet and instead chitchatting talking about your finances?

Yeah I don't have a good feeling about this now OP after learning she's been discussing/educating you about crypto.   This is NOT what a woman typically discusses when attracted to a man and seeking to date him.  

Something is definitely off about it for sure.  

My take now is she is doing all she can to earn your trust.  Once you do, she will convince you to invest.  She will handle it then disappear with your money. 

Did you read the article I posted?  There are tons others. 

Just my take.  If you choose to move forward, I hope I'm wrong. 

Edited December 7, 2021 by Girl Fade Away

[Girl Fade Away]

4 minutes ago, Girl Fade Away said:

Yeah I don't have a good feeling about this now OP after learning she's been discussing/educating you about crypto.   This is NOT what a woman typically discusses when attracted to a man and seeking to date him.  

Something is definitely off about it for sure.  

My take now is she is doing all she can to earn your trust.  Once you do, she will convince you to invest.  She will handle it then disappear with your money. 

Did you read the article I posted?  There are tons others. 

Just my take.  If you choose to move forward, I hope I'm wrong. 

To add, the reason for all her "bragging" about her wealth is to prove to you how well investing in crypto has paid off for her.  And that could be YOU if you invested.  It's quite calculated.  

Stay aware, that's all.  

Edited December 7, 2021 by Girl Fade Away

[hajk]

@lioil check out this quick video how this person was scammed.

 

[Wiseman2]

2 hours ago, lioil said:

I don't like coffee dates.  the finances she kinda brought up. 

What you could do is google "romance scams".

[seapebbles]

At this point, her wealth and lifestyle shouldn't be the bigger factor in your decision to go out on a date with her. What you should be trying to assess is her basic character, values, and dating goals and if they match yours.

It won't hurt to go out on a first date. As always, follow online dating safety 101 and be careful meeting any stranger, keep it brief, meet in a public location, and let someone know where you are going. You should choose a restaurant that you would take any other date to and offer to pay or split the bill. Again, whatever you would do on any other first date. If she wants to go someplace super expensive then she can pay for it.  

To be honest I think it's ridiculous that she has talked about her money to the point where it has already made you insecure. Should be no surprise her ex felt insecure as well. If she's honestly looking for a soulmate then she would be stearing discussions away from money and wealth or lack of. At this point it's appropriate to talk about occupation, education, and your home in terms of location and living situation.

What other interests or hobbies does she have? Do you share any common interest?

I'm older and my kids are grown and at this point in my life I prefer  partner who wants to live the same lifestyle as I do and be able to afford it as well. I've been in a relationship where I made significantly more and it was challenging because he was the one who was uncomfortable about it and couldn't deal with it. 

Let us know how it goes and please be safe.

 

[JRabbit]

On 12/7/2021 at 8:40 AM, lioil said:

I will bolt if she asks me for money though unless she is doing the long game which I don't know if catfishers do that.

No but gold diggers do.

I mean, is this type of mentality attractive to you anyways? Obsessed with money and luxury items etc? Watch Dateline ever? It never ends well.

Also anyone in crytpto knows its NOT reliable. Bitcoin alone dropped 15% this week and is steadily declining.

Edited December 8, 2021 by JRabbit

[Gaeta]

OP: If l read well she came back yesterday. Anything new?