Am I thinking too much if shes makes more and lives in a different lifestyle? how to overcome it?

[Alvi]

7 minutes ago, Girl Fade Away said:

That would be my best guess....

You would be surprised about how much guys are willing to overlook as long as a woman is hot. She could be a serial killer but the only thing that would matter to some guys that she looks good. lol

[lioil]

Yeah I agree I need to be cautious about her. The way she talks about money is interesting indeed but she says she is paying it herself and she doesn't care what the other makes as long as they love each other. 

Let's say I give benefit of the doubt and meets her and likes her, how would I approach further? Do I just not buy her anything expensive(not like I would even if not her) and see how it goes? If I see her two cars and her designer bags would it mean she is telling the truth? Would she be really like what she says looking for love and not money? 

I do agree she chats and gives a lot of information but she is also feeling me out too so maybe she wants to know if it is even worth of meeting?

[Gaeta]

16 minutes ago, lioil said:

Yeah I agree I need to be cautious about her. The way she talks about money is interesting indeed but she says she is paying it herself and she doesn't care what the other makes as long as they love each other. 

Let's say I give benefit of the doubt and meets her and likes her, how would I approach further? Do I just not buy her anything expensive(not like I would even if not her) and see how it goes? If I see her two cars and her designer bags would it mean she is telling the truth? Would she be really like what she says looking for love and not money? 

I do agree she chats and gives a lot of information but she is also feeling me out too so maybe she wants to know if it is even worth of meeting?

This is all talk to rail you in. Many women pay their way in life, their home, their car, their desinger bag and they don't announce it loud to men they date the way she does. I think it's part of her scam. Let me explain. There is a very well known scam that consists of making people beleive that you have money to better steal money from them. Yes she may pick you up in a mercedes, or even carry an Hermès bag but those are gifts from her last scams. 

Of course NOT you don't buy her ANYTHING.

You excuse her fishy behavior a lot. 

You said she's a lawyer, who better in this world to understand the danger of giving all this informationn to a stranger in the Internet? Don't you think it's weird that she says she's a corporate lawyer but isn't smart enough to apply common sense in her dating life? 

Edited December 7, 2021 by Gaeta

[lioil]

6 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

This is all talk to rail you in. Many women pay their way in life, their home, their car, their desinger bag and they don't announce it loud to men they date the way she does. I think it's part of her scam. Let me explain. There is a very well known scam that consists of making people beleive that you have money to better steal money from them. Yes she may pick you up in a mercedes, or even carry an Hermès bag but those are gifts from her last scams. 

Of course NOT you don't buy her ANYTHING.

You excuse her fishy behavior a lot. 

You said she's a lawyer, who better in this world to understand the danger of giving all this informationn to a stranger in the Internet? Don't you think it's weird that she says she's a corporate lawyer but isn't smart enough to apply common sense in her dating life? 

Well there's a lot of people who might not have common. I have coworkers who got master degrees but still think covid is hoax and rather quit their 100k job instead of taking the vaccine...

So is it that she is 100% scam even though we never met? Like what would she have to do or i need to verify its not a scam?  She can't just be someone who isn't afraid to talk about her wealth? I mean I seen guys posing with luxury cars are they catfishing too?  

[Gaeta]

6 minutes ago, lioil said:

Well there's a lot of people who might not have common. I have coworkers who got master degrees but still think covid is hoax and rather quit their 100k job instead of taking the vaccine...

Would you get in a relationship with them? I doubt it. 

Imagine this women is all ligit. Wouldn't you be embarassed to invite her to Sunday night dinner at your parents? All she talks about is her designer bags, her investments, how money is just meant for spending etc?

Edited December 7, 2021 by Gaeta

[lioil]

Just now, Gaeta said:

Would you get in a relationship with them? I doubt it. 

Imagine this women is all ligit. Wouldn't you be embarassed to invite her to Sunday night dinner at your parents? All she talks about is her designer bags, her investments, how money is just meant for spending etc?

Yeah that is one part if she is legit, how she would be at the parents. But that's anyone really poor or rich they could act certain ways in front of parents. But isn't she right that money is for spending... otherwise what is it good for(unless you give all away to charities). 

 

Also, let's say she is catfishing, would she ask for money as early as possible? If she does then she dug her own grave because she has consistently been saying she pay for herself and doesn't need anything from her bf. She also consistently said other persons salary doesn't matter. So yes, if she starts asking for money then I would be out.

And her ex complaint, I was the one who asked her to elaborate. All she said initially was she had one relationship of 4 years and I asked her reason for breaking up and had follow up questions. 

[Girl Fade Away]

19 minutes ago, lioil said:

Well there's a lot of people who might not have common. I have coworkers who got master degrees but still think covid is hoax and rather quit their 100k job instead of taking the vaccine...

So is it that she is 100% scam even though we never met? Like what would she have to do or i need to verify its not a scam?  She can't just be someone who isn't afraid to talk about her wealth? I mean I seen guys posing with luxury cars are they catfishing too?  

I think if all her braggadocio, status consciousness, financially qualifying you and criticizing you for not meeting her financial standards doesn't turn you off and you are attracted to her, then go ahead and meet her.  You are the one dating her or potentially dating her not any of us.  We are just giving our opinions that's all. 

Personally, I cannot stand any sort of bragging or status consciousness, I am completely turned off by it, I find it shallow and superficial.  I seek something deeper and substantial in a long term partner.  That is what I see lacking here, any sort of depth.  It's all about her designer whatever, her house, her money, your money, etc etc etc.

But perhaps you don't care about a woman's emotional depth.  Perhaps you also care about status and all that other superficial garbage, which is fine, my mom was like that.  No depth to her whatsoever, it was all surface.   Living in the 'right' house, driving the right car, living in the right neighborhood, having the right friends.   My dad having the right career.   My dad was miserable, but guess what?  My mom was HOT!!!  So there ya go.  They eventually divorced.

As I said to each his own, there is a lid for every pot as they say.  Good luck.

 

Edited December 7, 2021 by Girl Fade Away

[Gaeta]

7 minutes ago, lioil said:

So is it that she is 100% scam even though we never met? Like what would she have to do or i need to verify its not a scam?  She can't just be someone who isn't afraid to talk about her wealth? I mean I seen guys posing with luxury cars are they catfishing too?  

Not much you can do at this point, you don't know her full name and if she's given it to you it might not be ligit. If you want to go on a date with her just go but be aware what she says is highly suspicious. 

Someone not afraid to talk about wealth? She's not talking about wealth, she is bragging about it, judging others that don't have the 'fancies' like she can afford, etc. She is shallow. So, how much shallow can you take and for how long?

[Gaeta]

5 minutes ago, lioil said:

Yeah that is one part if she is legit, how she would be at the parents. But that's anyone really poor or rich they could act certain ways in front of parents. But isn't she right that money is for spending... otherwise what is it good for(unless you give all away to charities). 

Also, let's say she is catfishing, would she ask for money as early as possible?

She can do what ever she wants with her money, it's the bragging about it to a stranger on the Internet that makes it all suspicious. 

This summer I dated a man that was aiming at getting money from me. He had a good job, always dressed in designer clothes, drove a new car and he 'suggested' I loan him money after 6 weeks dating. 

[chillii]

On 12/6/2021 at 11:26 AM, lioil said:

I have exchanged pictures and did a video chat. I think it wasn't bad mouthing her ex it was more I asked her about it when she asked me my longest relationship.  Since hers was 4 years I asked why and she mentioned it.

 

But she is a lawyer so I guess she has to dress the part. Even just tonight she was asking me on opinions of couple Chanel bags and she bought them all. She says money is there to be spent. She does seem like a nice person to talk to and she says she likes talking to me because she has to think what her coworkers and clients say if there are hidden meanings. But with me she can be straight and feels comfortable. 

I mean there are quite a number of women making more than men so would this be an insecurity thing where if she can afford the items with her own money who am I to say no to that? Yeah I might feel i can't give her monetary equivalent of items but if thats not what she wants then wouldn't that be fine too?

 

Doesn't sound like scam that's just convo. She's impressed with money though , most money people are even if it's labels and expense but on the other hand other things she's said to you make it sound more like well this is me type of thing , and maybe the other stuff means nothing , it's just her.

You still gonna meet her or ? Me personally in answer to your wonders , wouldn't be crazy about her earning seriously more.  And no it's nothing to do with feeling threatened, it actually seems like women are more threatened by her earning more if you read some around here, than men, but practical. Things you've talked about are real and probably will come up all the time. She wants to do this, buy that or even the fact that she just can,you can't, sooner or later will bite you or be thrown in your face.So to me it's about being practical bc l'd have not interest in living that way or keeping up with someone.

Edited December 7, 2021 by chillii

[lioil]

50 minutes ago, Gaeta said:

She can do what ever she wants with her money, it's the bragging about it to a stranger on the Internet that makes it all suspicious. 

This summer I dated a man that was aiming at getting money from me. He had a good job, always dressed in designer clothes, drove a new car and he 'suggested' I loan him money after 6 weeks dating. 

Yeah I won't be lending her money since she made clear what her theme is. And frankly I don't have much money to loan her since I got bills to pay lol. 

 

Did you guys go far ? I guess maybe from guy catfish sleeping together is not a loss? But yeah she is pretty hot too 9 or 10 so if she wants to speed things up maybe its good as long as I don't give her money. But I want to believe she is just a bit airhead on common sense stuff and like she says speaks her mind. She actually told me she is straightforward person and if she says anything that might offend me let her know.

 

And she actually did mention herself buying crypto and I guess I unwittingly asked how I can get in..she said its not good investment for me since you need hundred K to make a dent...she could've asked me to give her some money instead lol... 

[Ami1uwant]

2 hours ago, lioil said:

Yeah I agree I need to be cautious about her. The way she talks about money is interesting indeed but she says she is paying it herself and she doesn't care what the other makes as long as they love each other. 

Let's say I give benefit of the doubt and meets her and likes her, how would I approach further? Do I just not buy her anything expensive(not like I would even if not her) and see how it goes? If I see her two cars and her designer bags would it mean she is telling the truth? Would she be really like what she says looking for love and not money? 

I do agree she chats and gives a lot of information but she is also feeling me out too so maybe she wants to know if it is even worth of meeting?

in seeing her you can observe her behavior.  Sone might say I like to go to X, Y, and Z.  There is a difference if you go to them once a year or once a week.

[lioil]

5 minutes ago, Ami1uwant said:

in seeing her you can observe her behavior.  Sone might say I like to go to X, Y, and Z.  There is a difference if you go to them once a year or once a week.

What do you mean?

And I did do a socialcatfish search on her using several pics she sent me and she didn't show up. Her phone number on whatsapp seems to be a cloud number but I have cloud number too so its probably to prevent spam than anything else.

[chillii]

She wasn't sounding scam to me , haven't read everything though. Her Crypto comment could be nothing or looking for an opening though. l mean l have Crypto , so what , could be the case with her too.

So you didn't answer my post question, and after all that sweat. Are you meeting her ? You'll know on sight anyway if you do.

ps, rest my case with money people though , she has talked a lot of money for sure, and you haven't even met yet , so typical even if she isn't scamming.

Edited December 7, 2021 by chillii

[Brian1223]

On 12/6/2021 at 1:50 PM, lioil said:

She is 30. I don't think she makes 50k.. she said she does corporate law? she said she put 30k into crypto recently and it is very stable revenue stream. Apparently its through USDT which is basically 1$ usd. I don't see reason for her to lie to me and I won't be buying her anything expensive for sure anytime soon. Its not like I am a millionaire she can rip off of lol. 

Only comment I have to make is Crypto is definitely not a "stable" revenue stream nor is it usually referred to as.(coming from a holder of several $$ in crypto) It's incredibly volatile and risky, money to be made yes. BUT not a stable revenue stream. 

[lioil]

49 minutes ago, Brian1223 said:

Only comment I have to make is Crypto is definitely not a "stable" revenue stream nor is it usually referred to as.(coming from a holder of several $$ in crypto) It's incredibly volatile and risky, money to be made yes. BUT not a stable revenue stream. 

I mean she said she buys a ton of usdt which is 1 to 1 to usd. She did say the stuff she invest is some defi project or investment. I am not too familiar with it frankly. 

[Grey40]

Real rich people that actually worked hard to earn their money usually don't brag about the money itself. So she either inherited money, or has a rich family that pays for everything and she's spoiled. OR, she's just lying to compensate for a lack of other traits. Plenty of fish in the sea, I would just move on to the next match. The fact you had to post about this shows that you have concerns...so why even put yourself in that situation? 

Edited December 7, 2021 by Grey40

[Grey40]

3 hours ago, lioil said:

I mean she said she buys a ton of usdt which is 1 to 1 to usd. She did say the stuff she invest is some defi project or investment. I am not too familiar with it frankly. 

It could be legit, but that's not a career. She must have a normal income in order to actually invest that amount of money into anything in the first place. Sounds like she's trying to impress by acting like she's a strong, independent woman but she's coming off as someone with poor social skills.

[Wiseman2]

She's setting the table for the scam. She is digging for your info.

She's also using the typical 'look at my success' style of scamming.

Do not talk about your financial information with online scammers.

Do you know why it's called 'con artist'? For exactly this reason. Confidence scams. They gain your trust first, then con you. That's the phase you're in now.

[Grey40]

3 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

She's setting the table for the scam. She is digging for your info.

She's also using the typical 'look at my success' style of scamming.

Do not talk about your financial information with online scammers.

Do you know why it's called 'con artist'? For exactly this reason. Confidence scams. They gain your trust first, then con you. That's the phase you're in now.

Agreed. She's (if it's even a real woman), going to try and convince you to invest in this thing with her, and ask for bank info etc. Def agree this has obvious catfish scam written all over it. Kind of surprised people still fall for this stuff.

[hajk]

6 hours ago, lioil said:

And she actually did mention herself buying crypto and I guess I unwittingly asked how I can get in..she said its not good investment for me since you need hundred K to make a dent...she could've asked me to give her some money instead lol... 

@lioil she is setting up the stage right here and will draw you in to invest with her eventually. That is how scammer gets you to send them money willingly.  Pay careful attention on her next steps if you are continuing talking to her.

[lioil]

2 hours ago, hajk said:

@lioil she is setting up the stage right here and will draw you in to invest with her eventually. That is how scammer gets you to send them money willingly.  Pay careful attention on her next steps if you are continuing talking to her.

I mean I won't do it because I have money tied up. Also, even if I do (I don't have a lot of money to do it), I would be buying it myself like if she says "buy xyz it is good". So if I lose it all she won't get anything. Its not like I would ever let her be my money manager.

Heck an older woman my mom knows always tries me to join her shop.com venture and say I should let her husband be my money manager and help with my taxes...that seems more of a scam.

So let's say she is scamming me for my money.. at what point would she pull out after I say I don't have it? Or is she really playing long game like getting married then divorce for half? Or have a kid and go for alimony? Is that the long game for catfishers?

[Ami1uwant]

8 hours ago, lioil said:

What do you mean?

And I did do a socialcatfish search on her using several pics she sent me and she didn't show up. Her phone number on whatsapp seems to be a cloud number but I have cloud number too so its probably to prevent spam than anything else.

 

what they say vs what the actually are could be different.

 

people can buy name brand items at an outlet mall at deep discount.  Some store chain of clothing stores specialize in reselling defect clothing or clothing that couldn’t sell.

 

im giving her the benefit of the doubt on her being a catfish.

 

 

 

 

[Wiseman2]

13 minutes ago, lioil said:

 Or have a kid and go for alimony? 

Do you want to date her or not? That's all you need to ask yourself.

[lioil]

4 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

Do you want to date her or not? That's all you need to ask yourself.

I do but I want to be careful too. I will bolt if she asks me for money though unless she is doing the long game which I don't know if catfishers do that.