stillafool Posted December 6, 2021 Posted December 6, 2021 3 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: I’m not ! I’ve just never had a guy ask me that question. I’ve been on plenty of dates guys just usually tell me I’m beautiful not ask me if I get a lot of compliments then tell me I should be more confident…. What do you normally say to the guys who tell you you're beautiful? Do you say thank you, brush it off or say nothing?
Author Emma7897 Posted December 6, 2021 Author Posted December 6, 2021 (edited) 4 hours ago, stillafool said: Oh yeah, it's clear from your posts that you definitely liked this guy. You liked any attention you were getting and now that he no longer cares you make a thread. Okay. 5 hours ago, Alpaca said: Not really. Then why did you keep blowing him off for two years every time he asked you out? The tone of your questions has seemed more to be "is he attracted to me" and "does he find me pretty." I disagree the first year of chasing was on and off ! Not to mention we were just in a whole pandemic 2020 so I couldn’t hang with him ! He knew all of this and continued to pursue ME! I would stop talking to him and he would come back ! This is all him. Edited December 6, 2021 by Emma7897
Author Emma7897 Posted December 6, 2021 Author Posted December 6, 2021 3 minutes ago, stillafool said: What do you normally say to the guys who tell you you're beautiful? Do you say thank you, brush it off or say nothing? I obviously say Thank you and give them a compliment back! He told me he was checking me out I was like okay? …. What was I supposed to say to that????? when people check you out they just check you out they don’t announce it ! 1
stillafool Posted December 6, 2021 Posted December 6, 2021 6 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: I obviously say Thank you and give them a compliment back! He told me he was checking me out I was like okay? …. What was I supposed to say to that????? when people check you out they just check you out they don’t announce it ! I don't know you could have made a joke about it; but I hear you. LOL, that is kinda funny. But, he did finally tell you he thought you were pretty, right?
Author Emma7897 Posted December 6, 2021 Author Posted December 6, 2021 1 minute ago, stillafool said: I don't know you could have made a joke about it; but I hear you. LOL, that is kinda funny. But, he did finally tell you he thought you were pretty, right? Him- do you get a lot of compliments Me- not really ( I do but I’m not going to sound cocky) so I said kinda Me - why Him - your very pretty I think you should be more confident) then proceeds to touch my face with his finger…..
Author Emma7897 Posted December 6, 2021 Author Posted December 6, 2021 Just now, Emma7897 said: Him- do you get a lot of compliments Me- not really ( I do but I’m not going to sound cocky) so I said kinda Me - why Him - your very pretty I think you should be more confident) then proceeds to touch my face with his finger….. there’s more to the night it takes a turn ! But…. I’m not going to disclose that information because it would give off who I’m talking about and I’m pretty sure he would find this page.
Alpacalia Posted December 6, 2021 Posted December 6, 2021 18 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: I disagree the first year of chasing was on and off ! Not to mention we were just in a whole pandemic 2020 so I couldn’t hang with him ! He knew all of this and continued to pursue ME! I would stop talking to him and he would come back ! This is all him. Okay. Well, whatever the case may be, you said he never reached out after your date. And, by the same token, you did not feel a spark nor chemistry. 1
stillafool Posted December 6, 2021 Posted December 6, 2021 14 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: Him- do you get a lot of compliments Me- not really ( I do but I’m not going to sound cocky) so I said kinda Me - why Him - your very pretty I think you should be more confident) then proceeds to touch my face with his finger….. He said you should be more confident because when has asked do you get a lot of compliments you said "not really" (which he knew was a lie) and then you said "kinda" . He thought you should have answered "yes I do" when he first asked you in a confident way. No sweat and no big deal. You didn't do anything wrong IMO.
Author Emma7897 Posted December 6, 2021 Author Posted December 6, 2021 46 minutes ago, stillafool said: He said you should be more confident because when has asked do you get a lot of compliments you said "not really" (which he knew was a lie) and then you said "kinda" . He thought you should have answered "yes I do" when he first asked you in a confident way. No sweat and no big deal. You didn't do anything wrong IMO. was he just not interested? How was he able to get over me that fast ??
stillafool Posted December 7, 2021 Posted December 7, 2021 2 hours ago, Emma7897 said: was he just not interested? How was he able to get over me that fast ?? Well I think he waited so long and when the date actually happened he was expecting more. Perhaps your lack of confidence (as he saw it) and shyness turned him off so he ended the date early. If he doesn't get back to you soon I would say he's over it. 1
Author Emma7897 Posted December 7, 2021 Author Posted December 7, 2021 20 minutes ago, stillafool said: Well I think he waited so long and when the date actually happened he was expecting more. Perhaps your lack of confidence (as he saw it) and shyness turned him off so he ended the date early. If he doesn't get back to you soon I would say he's over it. Well he’s been blocked so if he did reach out I didn’t get it
Wiseman2 Posted December 7, 2021 Posted December 7, 2021 (edited) 8 hours ago, Emma7897 said: Well he’s been blocked so if he did reach out I didn’t get it Excellent. Now get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting local single interested decent men for a low-key coffee . He's a weirdo. You know that. He was creepy and horny, that's it. It's not about how attractive you are. It's time to stop ruminating about this encounter. It's ok to learn what creepiness is so you can avoid it in the future. Edited December 7, 2021 by Wiseman2 1
Alpacalia Posted December 7, 2021 Posted December 7, 2021 14 hours ago, Emma7897 said: was he just not interested? How was he able to get over me that fast ?? OP, not every first date ends in a match. Sometimes two people just aren't "feeling it." So don't worry too much about it. But why is this significant to you if there was no chemistry? On the first date, this does not always have to be the case. If you had a good enough time, you may want to have another date. It doesn't sound like you two interacted much on the first date, with both of you looking at your phones. With the exception of him being touchy-feely and asking strange questions. 1
Author Emma7897 Posted December 7, 2021 Author Posted December 7, 2021 2 hours ago, Alpaca said: OP, not every first date ends in a match. Sometimes two people just aren't "feeling it." So don't worry too much about it. But why is this significant to you if there was no chemistry? On the first date, this does not always have to be the case. If you had a good enough time, you may want to have another date. It doesn't sound like you two interacted much on the first date, with both of you looking at your phones. With the exception of him being touchy-feely and asking strange questions. Dang I didn’t know people could just forget about someone that fast after doing all that chasing.
Girl Fade Away Posted December 7, 2021 Posted December 7, 2021 (edited) 4 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: Dang I didn’t know people could just forget about someone that fast after doing all that chasing. He may not have but you blocked and deleted him a mere two days after your date, so you will never know. Have you considered how HE might he feeling upon realizing he's been blocked? Edited December 7, 2021 by Girl Fade Away
Alpacalia Posted December 7, 2021 Posted December 7, 2021 16 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: Dang I didn’t know people could just forget about someone that fast after doing all that chasing. Well, you guessed incorrectly. 1
Author Emma7897 Posted December 7, 2021 Author Posted December 7, 2021 12 minutes ago, Girl Fade Away said: He may not have but you blocked and deleted him a mere two days after your date, so you will never know. Have you considered how HE might he feeling upon realizing he's been blocked? Well he didn’t even text me to make sure I got home okay. So after two days I just blocked him.
SumGuy Posted December 7, 2021 Posted December 7, 2021 On 12/3/2021 at 10:06 PM, Emma7897 said: Yeah maybe he didn’t like me in person who knows. I was just wondering why he asked me that question while touching my face ? That and touching your thigh and then no contact after? Pretty clear he wanted sex (and only sex) and this was his way to come onto to you. I know, hard to fathom as it was so weird and who in their right mind would think this would work in general. One word I'd have for this guy, "ick" 1
SumGuy Posted December 7, 2021 Posted December 7, 2021 On 12/5/2021 at 12:20 PM, Emma7897 said: He also kept asking me why I was so shy ? That's code for why are you not responding to my physical advances and not having sex with me in the bathroom. It is total creep show behavior, as is the staring you describe. 2
Author Emma7897 Posted December 7, 2021 Author Posted December 7, 2021 31 minutes ago, SumGuy said: That and touching your thigh and then no contact after? Pretty clear he wanted sex (and only sex) and this was his way to come onto to you. I know, hard to fathom as it was so weird and who in their right mind would think this would work in general. One word I'd have for this guy, "ick" Now that you put it … I get it. Crazy how someone can chase you for all that time just for sex .
Author Emma7897 Posted December 7, 2021 Author Posted December 7, 2021 34 minutes ago, SumGuy said: That's code for why are you not responding to my physical advances and not having sex with me in the bathroom. It is total creep show behavior, as is the staring you describe. He was also looking at me angry.
Girl Fade Away Posted December 7, 2021 Posted December 7, 2021 7 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: He was also looking at me angry. I think he was gaming you. You did the right thing by blocking. Forget about him.
Author Emma7897 Posted December 7, 2021 Author Posted December 7, 2021 13 minutes ago, Girl Fade Away said: I think he was gaming you. You did the right thing by blocking. Forget about him. Gaming me ? What does that mean ?
Author Emma7897 Posted December 7, 2021 Author Posted December 7, 2021 Also the night got crazier but I don’t want to give to much info out.
Alpacalia Posted December 7, 2021 Posted December 7, 2021 27 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: Also the night got crazier but I don’t want to give to much info out. Crazy in what sense. Did he fling potatoes at you from across the table? 4
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