stillafool Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 On 12/3/2021 at 7:13 PM, Emma7897 said: I went on a date with a man and he was staring at me the whole time. Then asked me if I got a lot compliments. Why would he asked me that? Did he give you a compliment before he made that statement?
stillafool Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 12 hours ago, Emma7897 said: We were chatting then he cut the date short . Then twos days went by he never contacted me so I just blocked him. Good for you, you dodged a bullet. He was only interested in sex. 2
stillafool Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 11 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: He also kept asking me why I was so shy ? What was your response to that question?
Alpacalia Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 Did you find he was coming on strong on the first date, being very touchy feely with you?
Author Emma7897 Posted December 5, 2021 Author Posted December 5, 2021 57 minutes ago, Alpaca said: Did you find he was coming on strong on the first date, being very touchy feely with you? No not at all he was just rubbing my thigh which he had permission to do.
Author Emma7897 Posted December 5, 2021 Author Posted December 5, 2021 1 hour ago, stillafool said: Did he give you a compliment before he made that statement? He was looking at me and told me he was just checking me out. He told me I was pretty and touched my face after he asked me do I get a lot of compliments.
Author Emma7897 Posted December 5, 2021 Author Posted December 5, 2021 1 hour ago, stillafool said: What was your response to that question? I said well this is are first time meeting so I’m going to be a little shy. He was very comfortable and said he enjoys my company.
Girl Fade Away Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 (edited) 24 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: He told me I was pretty OK so then you must have known or had some idea why he asked if you received compliments. Fairly obvious since he had just given you one? 25 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: he was just rubbing my thigh which he had permission to do. You gave him permission to rub your thigh? Were YOU hoping for a hookup? lol This thread gets more confusing but interesting the more you post! Edited December 5, 2021 by Girl Fade Away
stillafool Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 22 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: He was looking at me and told me he was just checking me out. He told me I was pretty and touched my face after he asked me do I get a lot of compliments. If he told you you were pretty why are you asking us what he meant? He already told you. 2
stillafool Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 26 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: No not at all he was just rubbing my thigh which he had permission to do. So he actually asked you if he could rub your thigh?
stillafool Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 24 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: I said well this is are first time meeting so I’m going to be a little shy. He was very comfortable and said he enjoys my company. Giving a guy permission to rub your thigh is hardly what a shy girl would do. 2
Pumpernickel Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 (edited) 49 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: I said well this is are first time meeting so I’m going to be a little shy. He was very comfortable and said he enjoys my company. To me it sounds as if he was initially interested, but lost attraction or got bored during the date. Next! Edited December 5, 2021 by Pumpernickel
Author Emma7897 Posted December 5, 2021 Author Posted December 5, 2021 29 minutes ago, stillafool said: Giving a guy permission to rub your thigh is hardly what a shy girl would 19 minutes ago, Pumpernickel said: To me it sounds as if he was initially interested, but lost attraction or got bored during the date. Next! so then why was he rubbing my thigh tho whole way back while driving. If someone isn’t attracted to you wouldn’t they not touch you ?
stillafool Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 (edited) 2 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: so then why was he rubbing my thigh tho whole way back while driving. If someone isn’t attracted to you wouldn’t they not touch you ? Um, because you gave him permission to rub your thigh and horny guys will feel you up whether they are attracted or not when they've got permission. Edited December 5, 2021 by stillafool
Wiseman2 Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 Just now, Emma7897 said: so then why was he rubbing my thigh tho whole way back while driving. Do Not get in strangers' cars. Next time use a safe dating routine. Exchange a few messages, then arrange a meeting near you for a daytime coffee. Always provide your own transportation. Learn warning signs of a creep. Everything he said/did was creepy. Now forget about him and start talking to and meeting other men in public at a place you pick and drive yourself there and drive yourself back. If you had a good time go on a second date. Stop focusing on nonsense like "if someone isn't attracted wouldn't they"... Instead decide if they suit you and you wish to see them again. 2 1
Author Emma7897 Posted December 5, 2021 Author Posted December 5, 2021 10 minutes ago, stillafool said: Um, because you gave him permission to rub your thigh and horny guys will feel you up whether they are attracted or not when they've got permission. This guy was chasing me for 2 years before I met up with him. I just wanted to give him a chance and it was a flop.
Pumpernickel Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 4 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: This guy was chasing me for 2 years before I met up with him. I just wanted to give him a chance and it was a flop. 2 years until the first in-person date? OK - that’s a long lead time! Doesn’t mean that he can’t be disappointed/bored during the actual date. He probably expected more (of a spark, interesting convo, attraction, whatever….) and than made up an excuse to leave early. Don’t be disappointed! Happens all.the.time!!! 1
Author Emma7897 Posted December 5, 2021 Author Posted December 5, 2021 6 minutes ago, Pumpernickel said: 2 years until the first in-person date? OK - that’s a long lead time! Doesn’t mean that he can’t be disappointed/bored during the actual date. He probably expected more (of a spark, interesting convo, attraction, whatever….) and than made up an excuse to leave early. Don’t be disappointed! Happens all.the.time!!! Well the feeling we’re mutual I wasn’t feeling a spark either. I just wanted to know why he kept staring at me like into my soul and touching my face. Then he told me I should be more confident which I was confused about that he doesn’t know me or how I act it was are first date.
stillafool Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 17 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: This guy was chasing me for 2 years before I met up with him. I just wanted to give him a chance and it was a flop. Hey it happens, better luck next time.
stillafool Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 3 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: Well the feeling we’re mutual I wasn’t feeling a spark either. I just wanted to know why he kept staring at me like into my soul and touching my face. Then he told me I should be more confident which I was confused about that he doesn’t know me or how I act it was are first date. I think he answered that question so I don't know what else can be said about it. You should have told him what you're telling us about your confidence.
Alvi Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 How do you know this guy? Have you actually seen him in person before your date? Is he a friend, or goes to the same school with you, or a person you work with?
Author Emma7897 Posted December 5, 2021 Author Posted December 5, 2021 5 minutes ago, Alvi said: How do you know this guy? Have you actually seen him in person before your date? Is he a friend, or goes to the same school with you, or a person you work with? I met him on social media awhile ago he would blow up my phone beg for me to talk to him block me if I didn’t respond fast enough. I wanted to just meet him cause I felt bad for never doing it so I did and I got that. We cuddled for a little bit he put his arm around me then it just became awkward….
Alvi Posted December 5, 2021 Posted December 5, 2021 1 minute ago, Emma7897 said: I met him on social media awhile ago he would blow up my phone beg for me to talk to him block me if I didn’t respond fast enough. I wanted to just meet him cause I felt bad for never doing it so I did and I got that. We cuddled for a little bit he put his arm around me then it just became awkward…. So he would block and unblock you? I wonder what sick games he was playing with you. Sounds controlling and delusional. Seriously, why on earth would you talk to someone who has blocked you because you didn't respond fast enough? I guess he build up some image of what you are like in his head. And when you have actually met in person, poof, the bubble bursted for him. But you didn't feel it either, hence you felt very uncomfortable. 1
Author Emma7897 Posted December 5, 2021 Author Posted December 5, 2021 14 minutes ago, Alvi said: So he would block and unblock you? I wonder what sick games he was playing with you. Sounds controlling and delusional. Seriously, why on earth would you talk to someone who has blocked you because you didn't respond fast enough? I guess he build up some image of what you are like in his head. And when you have actually met in person, poof, the bubble bursted for him. But you didn't feel it either, hence you felt very uncomfortable. Yeah he kept asking if I was okay
Author Emma7897 Posted December 5, 2021 Author Posted December 5, 2021 20 minutes ago, Emma7897 said: Yeah he kept asking if I was okay I also told him I was moving soon and he was like just cause your moving the communication doesn’t have to stop.
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