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So I had my first date with someone I met on an online dating site and it dawned on me that Covid really kinda messes up blind dates.  I always go in for the hug when starting and ending a date. Maybe a kiss if we really hit it off.  Then there's sharing an appetizer or finger foods.  IMO talking about Covid in advance may make sense but what a buzz kill.

Do you have any Covid etiquette suggestions or thoughts on dating do's and don'ts as it relates to Covid?

This really hit home last night as were sharing an appetizer that came with various dipping sauces.  I'm sure that the thing to do is spoon some onto your plate but before I thought of that I was in full George Costanza mode and double dipping lol

PS - I did get a second date!   

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Honestly, if you're going out and dating... Having "covid etiquette" seems... Pointless. 

If you're going to be eating and drinking, you'll be in close proximity and without a mask. 

Sharing an appetiser is not more dangerous than that. 

 

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I only go on dates with men doubled vaccinated and I am myself. At some point life has to go on. 

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Under the current circumstances (Omicron Variant), I think it is perfectly acceptable to bring up the subject.  You can turn the subject into an amusing story. 

When I was getting my second shot, the paramedic administering the vaccination was talking to another paramedic and mentioned Stevie Wonder having a top hit song at 13 years old.  I spoke up and said "Really, I didn't know that".  For me, I would use that story as a "lead in" to ask about getting the Covid-19 vaccine.

"V" and I were talking to our neighbor couple next door, I wanted to put them at ease so I mentioned how easy it was to get a recent booster and that we didn't have to drive all the way to the NFL stadium for the shot.  They mentioned that both of them had also gotten a booster shot and received it at the local grocery store pharmacy.

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2 minutes ago, Happy Lemming said:

For me, I would use that story as a "lead in" to ask about getting the Covid-19 vaccine.

You're too kind. I just ask straight out while planning the first date *by the way are you doubled vaccinated*. It's a question that could save your life so I don't see the need to tip toe around it. 

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Sounds like you are way overthinking things. I would not be doing anything different. More important things in the world than Covid.. boringgg. Time to move on with life.

If you are that scared then better stay at home 24/7.

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3 hours ago, Otter2569 said:

I did get a second date!   

I suppose it depends on both of your vaccination status, what the prevailing norms and rules are in your area and how comfortable you both feel. However with all the variants and resurgence and vaccine breakthroughs (people getting sick despite vaccinations), it's ok to bring it up. The important thing is you and your date feel comfortable.

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2 hours ago, Sun Seeker said:

Sounds like you are way overthinking things. I would not be doing anything different. More important things in the world than Covid.. boringgg. Time to move on with life.

If you are that scared then better stay at home 24/7.

I am not the least bit afraid.  Just thinking about the other person.  I work from home so don't have a lot of face to face contact with others so I waltz in and carry on like business as usual.  When I noticed that she wasn't dipping it hit me that I need to be more aware that's all.  

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It's better to be mindful and considerate, bringing it up, than ignoring it altogether and assuming someone else is the same or doesn't care. I think it shows consideration for someone else even though you (hypothetical you, not you you) may feel differently so yes, have some sense of humour and mention vaccination, practice social distancing and stay masked especially until you feel more comfortable around each other. The image of you going George Costanza made me laugh.

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3 hours ago, Gaeta said:

I only go on dates with men doubled vaccinated and I am myself. At some point life has to go on. 

If triple vaxxed….

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Since the vaccinated can transmit covid just as much as the unvaccinated, albeit for shorter periods of time, I am more concerned with a person's daily habits than I am with vaccination status, although vaccination status is a good proxy for how cautious they are likely to be about being in large crowds, etc. I haven't had to ask about this often, as it tends to come up in conversation anyway, given the constant media coverage.

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2 hours ago, Otter2569 said:

 I noticed that she wasn't dipping it hit me that I need to be more aware that's all.  

French kissing with a mask on is tough, though.

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17 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said:

French kissing with a mask on is tough, though.

LOL!  If she can french kiss through a mask I think I would drop down on one knee and propose! 😂😂

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Covid is an air-borne virus so the mere act of breathing spreads Covid. If there is an infected person in the room then the viral particles will "hang" in the air.
To avoid it, very well ventilated  indoor spaces or preferably outdoors, with 2m social distancing plus a suitable mask.
As you are "older", you need to be  a lot more aware of your own risks  and those of your "older" dates, than those who are young.

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well you have to take your chances on a date I guess,

business meeting is different,

It could be a man or a woman , but it was a woman, and she proceeded to remove her mask and cough straight at me,

bang ,after whatever it is 19 months avoiding it

its the little unexpected things that catch you as they say.

could not get annoyed even seeing it was a woman.

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19 hours ago, elaine567 said:

Covid is an air-borne virus so the mere act of breathing spreads Covid. If there is an infected person in the room then the viral particles will "hang" in the air.
To avoid it, very well ventilated  indoor spaces or preferably outdoors, with 2m social distancing plus a suitable mask.
As you are "older", you need to be  a lot more aware of your own risks  and those of your "older" dates, than those who are young.

Here in the Northeast its become too cool to be outside eating or drinking unless of course there is some sort of heat.  Dating certainly is not like the good ol days.

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On 12/2/2021 at 12:40 PM, Otter2569 said:

I am not the least bit afraid.  Just thinking about the other person.  I work from home so don't have a lot of face to face contact with others so I waltz in and carry on like business as usual.  When I noticed that she wasn't dipping it hit me that I need to be more aware that's all.  

Certainly covid would make people more careful, but honestly , if it was my first date with someone and they double dipped, I’d be really grossed out. It’s bad manners and unhygienic, covid or not. 

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15 hours ago, jspice said:

...if it was my first date with someone and they double dipped, I’d be really grossed out. It’s bad manners and unhygienic, covid or not. 

True but I have to laugh at myself.  This was my first blind date in over 5 years and i've been working from home for almost 2 years so clearly, I need to re-acclimate myself back into civilized society.   We are supposed to get together again this week so I will ask if she noticed and gently apologize.  Maybe she is not a dipper?

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13 minutes ago, Otter2569 said:

I need to re-acclimate myself back into civilized society.  

Its funny you should bring this up.  During a walk yesterday with my girlfriend, we ran into a woman in the neighborhood who had gotten a new puppy (around Halloween) and named the dog "Pumpkin". I didn't know this woman, but asked if I could pet the puppy.  The woman said "Sure", so I knelt down let the small puppy smell the back of my hand, first.  After a few seconds, I petted "Pumpkin" who seemed to enjoy the attention.  My neighbor mentioned this was Pumpkin's first interaction with a complete stranger, as people were still trying to social distance.

At that point, I told the woman that both "V" and I had received our boosters and were triple vaxxed, she said she had done the same.

Personally, when I saw the puppy I briefly forgot about the pandemic.  I guess this was my first step to re-acclimating myself back to normal society, as none of us were wearing masks and I was less than 6 feet from the woman holding the leash.

 

 

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