Black Cement Posted December 1, 2021 Posted December 1, 2021 (edited) So I've known Girl #1 for years, we flirted a little bit over that time and last week she drunk texted me saying "why don't you ever ask me out." So I asked her out, and she agreed, but we never made plans. I'm not 100% sure I want to date her, but I've been feeling lonely lately. I've been online dating too for a while, and I matched with this gorgeous girl today. As I looked at her pics, I realized Girl #1 is in a few of them. I asked Girl #2 how do you know her, and she said they're best friends. She was frustrated because she knows there would be tension if her bf knew she was dating a guy she was interested in. I told her I'm not interested in dating Girl #1, and nothing ever happened between us, just her asking me on a date that never happened. But still she's scared of the consequences of dating me, even though she's interested too. This sucks, because I don't want to hurt #1's feelings, but all I really want to do is date #2. How should I handle this? Edited December 1, 2021 by Black Cement
Wiseman2 Posted December 2, 2021 Posted December 2, 2021 14 hours ago, Black Cement said: still she's scared of the consequences of dating me. She doesn't seem interested, understandably. That's ok. It's too close for comfort anyway. Move forward to girl#3 the one who is free and clear of all this. 1
Author Black Cement Posted December 2, 2021 Author Posted December 2, 2021 25 minutes ago, Wiseman2 said: She doesn't seem interested, understandably. That's ok. It's too close for comfort anyway. Move forward to girl#3 the one who is free and clear of all this. She does though. She said “there goes our chance, this really sucks” But then she asked for my IG. I mean girl #1 dates so many guys, and I’m not even interested. She’ll get over it
kendahke Posted December 2, 2021 Posted December 2, 2021 (edited) 15 hours ago, Black Cement said: She was frustrated because she knows there would be tension if her bf knew she was dating a guy she was interested in. I told her I'm not interested in dating Girl #1, and nothing ever happened between us, just her asking me on a date that never happened. But still she's scared of the consequences of dating me, even though she's interested too. Cast your sights elsewhere. This is going to be years of regret, resentment and BS. There are other chicks out there who don't know either of them. Play the man and make better choices. You're only fixated because you admitted: Quote I've been feeling lonely lately. She's told you that although she has interest, her friendship with this woman is more important to her than breaking some stranger's fever. What is that saying guys use? Bros before ____... Edited December 2, 2021 by kendahke
Wiseman2 Posted December 2, 2021 Posted December 2, 2021 1 hour ago, Black Cement said: She said “there goes our chance, this really sucks” Try to take no for an answer. Whether it's the friend thing or not she's clearly not interested.
Author Black Cement Posted December 2, 2021 Author Posted December 2, 2021 (edited) 2 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Try to take no for an answer. Whether it's the friend thing or not she's clearly not interested. I straight up just asked her if she’s interested, because I could be just wasting my time. She unmatched with me and requested to follow me on IG, lol this is annoying Edited December 2, 2021 by Black Cement
Wiseman2 Posted December 2, 2021 Posted December 2, 2021 33 minutes ago, Black Cement said: She unmatched with me and requested to follow me on IG, lol this is annoying Delete and block her and all her people from all your social media and messaging apps. Start fresh. Why waste time on either of these two with so many other women out there?
dramafreezone Posted December 2, 2021 Posted December 2, 2021 18 hours ago, Black Cement said: So I've known Girl #1 for years, we flirted a little bit over that time and last week she drunk texted me saying "why don't you ever ask me out." So I asked her out, and she agreed, but we never made plans. I'm not 100% sure I want to date her, but I've been feeling lonely lately. I've been online dating too for a while, and I matched with this gorgeous girl today. As I looked at her pics, I realized Girl #1 is in a few of them. I asked Girl #2 how do you know her, and she said they're best friends. She was frustrated because she knows there would be tension if her bf knew she was dating a guy she was interested in. I told her I'm not interested in dating Girl #1, and nothing ever happened between us, just her asking me on a date that never happened. But still she's scared of the consequences of dating me, even though she's interested too. This sucks, because I don't want to hurt #1's feelings, but all I really want to do is date #2. How should I handle this? I'm very doubtful that it'll work with either of them.
glows Posted December 2, 2021 Posted December 2, 2021 Out of all the women to match with on the app, you're attracted to her best friend. This sort of coincidence doesn't just happen out of nowhere. You may have been in it for her looks at first but are you sure that the drama hasn't got you addicted? I'd check myself before I wreck myself.. this just isn't worth it. See what else is out there.
Lotsgoingon Posted December 2, 2021 Posted December 2, 2021 Just random bad luck. Applause to you for going public with woman #1--that you saw her in woman #2's pix. Really smart to do that--otherwise, you'd be dreading that information coming out. Makes sense that woman #2 would cut you off. She's trying to be loyal to her friend (which says she has a lot of strength btw). Just random bad luck. You sure you don't want to contact #1--the goal isn't to "date"--you go out with her to see if you might want to date. But if you've not called, then maybe you're not that into her.
Author Black Cement Posted December 3, 2021 Author Posted December 3, 2021 4 hours ago, Lotsgoingon said: Just random bad luck. Applause to you for going public with woman #1--that you saw her in woman #2's pix. Really smart to do that--otherwise, you'd be dreading that information coming out. Makes sense that woman #2 would cut you off. She's trying to be loyal to her friend (which says she has a lot of strength btw). Just random bad luck. You sure you don't want to contact #1--the goal isn't to "date"--you go out with her to see if you might want to date. But if you've not called, then maybe you're not that into her. She really didn’t cut me off, she added me on IG today, which I’m friends with girl #1. So now girl #1 can see we follow each other and what we like, so I don’t know what #2 is thinking. I don’t want to date #1, she has a lot of baggage and also 5 kids, I don’t want to jump into that
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