sexyitaliantiger Posted November 27, 2021 Posted November 27, 2021 Hello, I just meet this women, she gave me her phone number, I called her a few times and and have tried to schedule a diner date. Long story short, all of a sudden I receive a text message like : "Hey sorry to do this to you but I won't be able to make lunch, Just alot going on personally and I don't have the emotional availability right now. I'd still love a chance to get to know each other but maybe things will settle down for me in a few weeks" How should I respond ? Paul
stillafool Posted November 27, 2021 Posted November 27, 2021 I wouldn't respond at all if I were you. Just next her - she's gone.
mark clemson Posted November 27, 2021 Posted November 27, 2021 Perhaps say something like "Fair enough. You seem really <insert positive adjective of choice here>, and I fully understand if you're busy, especially this time of year. Hope to hear from you when things settle down." I would assume that you will never hear from her again and go forward with that in mind. IF she contacts you in a few weeks as suggested (a very low probability, but possible) then pick it up from there. Definitely don't wait on this and/or let it stop you from dating others/seeking new romantic partners. I'd say the probability she follows up is perhaps something like 2-3%. GL 1
Wiseman2 Posted November 27, 2021 Posted November 27, 2021 11 minutes ago, sexyitaliantiger said: . I'd still love a chance to get to know each other but maybe things will settled down for me in a few weeks" She met someone else and that's ok. Just say "fine". However, don't stick around "a few weeks".
bene Posted November 27, 2021 Posted November 27, 2021 Don’t reply or just say something generic wishing her well. She is either not ready to date or just not that into you. If there was a legitimate reason to postpone the date she would come up with a counter offer. And why would you want to get involved in some emotional drama with someone you barely know? 1
Killian898 Posted November 27, 2021 Posted November 27, 2021 (edited) I would just simply not respond. or just say something simple like, ‘Hey, that no problem at all. Take care.” Don't block her or delete her number, but definitely do not initiate contact with her again. She may get back in contact, she may not. But it’s likely that she won’t. Either way I would just forget about her and move on. Edited November 27, 2021 by Killian898 1
ChatroomHero Posted November 28, 2021 Posted November 28, 2021 I agree, no response. She basically said she is emotionally unavailable, overwhelmed in her personal life and canceled a lunch (keep in mind she eats lunch every single day anyway). Then she finishes with, 'maybe in 14 days or so check back with me and everything will suddenly take a 180', like that is even a possibility. It's low interest turned into no interest. She is not interested in dating you. She gave a soft rejection hoping you'll just fade over the next month or so. She might have been flattered, thinking maybe she was interested and would give you a chance, it made her feel good to be pursued, then realized you're not the one for her and she didn't want to put in minimal effort. Now she could tell you that and then have to answer why, when she showed some interest, is she not interested now. Nobody really wants to do and there is no easy answer to that so she gave an excuse that will keep you at bay for weeks with the hope that you give up during that time. If someone is interested in you to any notable degree, they will make it clear. They will do lunch if they can't do a real date. They can make time at 7pm on a Tuesday to see a movie for 2 hours even if they are swamped just to avoid losing you. Hell, they'll tell you they have to run errands and ask if you want to come since they have to do it anyway. At this point you move on. If she comes back into the picture, great. But it seems pretty clear she won't.
SumGuy Posted November 28, 2021 Posted November 28, 2021 22 hours ago, sexyitaliantiger said: Hello, I just meet this women, she gave me her phone number, I called her a few times and and have tried to schedule a diner date. Long story short, all of a sudden I receive a text message like : "Hey sorry to do this to you but I won't be able to make lunch, Just alot going on personally and I don't have the emotional availability right now. I'd still love a chance to get to know each other but maybe things will settle down for me in a few weeks" How should I respond ? Paul You respond by being understanding and chill. You can leave it to her to look you up when things settle down, this gives her an out if she is just being nice, or if this is real she may also be embarrassed later and not do it, but if she does it is usually good news. Or you could offer to look her up in a few weeks, more likely she will say yes if she will say yes at all. Or both. Just don't put your dating life on hold. Chances are this will go nowhere.
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