brandon1992 Posted November 23, 2021 Posted November 23, 2021 I met this girl on Saturday at my nephews birthday. She is beautiful and I think she is out of my league. She stayed after the kids left and joined us for game night. We were talking about going out as a group on my birthday and she agreed to go too. The next day she told my sister I was a good looking man and my sister told her I said she was good looking too. She said she’d come over for game nights to get to know me but doesn’t want to rush into a relationship and that she’s never been with a man that has his life together and that she got out of a bad relationship 7 months ago. Last night my sister invited her over on Wednesday since that’s my birthday to have game night with the kids. She said maybe she has work the next day and doesn’t want to give the wrong impression. I’m taking what she said Sunday and what she said Monday as two different things. Her kids love me which is a positive in my eyes and she said her kids never liked anyone she’s dated. I need advice on this since this is my first time talking to someone in 8 years just got out of a marriage about 6 months ago. I had said to my sister about going to see Christmas lights with her and her kids and she said she didn’t say anything just had a big smile.
glows Posted November 23, 2021 Posted November 23, 2021 Are you divorced or separated? Are you living with your sister? Take it easy and see how it goes. She seems overly nervous and TMI right off the bat. This is a game night only not stay over. See if she's able to handle her drink and if she does crash at your sister's place be respectful and keep your distance. Since she has work the next day, she should be able to figure out what is within her limits. Good looking means flirty flirty. Nothing more than that but this could be pleasant. Enjoy her company only as it seems she's fresh out of a long term relationship also.
Wiseman2 Posted November 23, 2021 Posted November 23, 2021 (edited) 1 hour ago, brandon1992 said: I met this girl on Saturday at my nephews birthday. She is beautiful and I think she is out of my league. She stayed after the kids left and joined us for game night. We were talking about going out as a group on my birthday and she agreed to go too. Slow things down and ask sis to lay back on the matchmaking a bit. If she's freshly single she still has some sorting out to do. Be a little more casual and ask sis to stop relaying everything to her or better yet, don't go through sis this much. Edited November 23, 2021 by Wiseman2
chillii Posted November 23, 2021 Posted November 23, 2021 (edited) Yeah , your just out of a marriage and she's just out of a thing too for a start. And yeah , l mean if sis throws some nice feedback at you the friend is probably prodding her but from your angle don't push it with sis yourself . l'd think just see what happens for now enjoy the night and being around her if it goes that way , get more of a feel first of all l think. And there's kids involved , and they like you, so you def' don't wanna start anything if it's not going anywhere.lf you can't read her it sounds like sis will be letting you know anyway haha. Edited November 23, 2021 by chillii 1
ExpatInItaly Posted November 24, 2021 Posted November 24, 2021 10 hours ago, brandon1992 said: Last night my sister invited her over on Wednesday since that’s my birthday to have game night with the kids. She said maybe she has work the next day and doesn’t want to give the wrong impression. I think this is her roundabout way of saying no. She doesn't sound ready for dating at this point. 1
smackie9 Posted November 26, 2021 Posted November 26, 2021 (edited) Sounds like it was a horrible relationship she was in to be still reeling from it 7 months later. She doesn't trust men because of it. So if you get pushy, she's gonna push back. Be a little cool/aloof at times to let her breath and process things. If you are there for her too much, you could land yourself in the friends zone. Make it like a Hallmark movie, and just do light rated G stuff. The Christmas lights thing is a good start for sure...just no heavy dinner dates. I think she would be more comfortable with group hangouts like those game nights, bowling, winter bonfire, hot chocolate, etc Edited November 26, 2021 by smackie9
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