chillii Posted December 2, 2021 Posted December 2, 2021 (edited) Astute l would've thought that'd be pretty obvious with 16 yrs of this but l'm afraid l'd still agree with most op. He has no problem with a gf or trying his luck with you that's out elsewhere, really, 16yrs. But also given the 16yrs and him using chase to actually, l'd still talk to him get the cards on the table 100%. Just for your own satisfaction and for the sake of that 16yrs - what have you got to lose and for the rest of your life you'll finally know exactly what this was. Edited December 2, 2021 by chillii
winny Posted December 2, 2021 Posted December 2, 2021 You know him for 16 years. Why don't you give him a call and ask him if he wants to date you properly and give it a proper shot with you? What do you got to lose anyways? 1
winny Posted December 2, 2021 Posted December 2, 2021 On 11/28/2021 at 3:22 PM, Hopeful714 said: He's decent enough looking that some dumb chicks will bang him off the rip and hope for the best. Again, I will move on. I know I must. But I really don’t think any of these other so called girlfriends had anything on me. I am more successful, independent and attractive then any of them were. Dude needs to grow up and learn to be more giving of himself to get any kind of serious healthy relationships. Grrrrrr. No need to look down upon other women as dumb and calling yourself as successful in comparison... when you are struggling with these issues and seeking answers from strangers on the internet. You are just sounding butt-hurt as he did not chase you after you rejected him. What did you expect him to do? Wanting a FWB situation or casual sex doesn't make someone a bad person. Its a personal choice as to what someone wants for their private life. You may want a serious relationship but that does not make you better than them as a person. Bottom line is you both wanted different things so he has now moved on. If you want to see him again then you gotta make a move. 2
glows Posted December 2, 2021 Posted December 2, 2021 14 hours ago, Hopeful714 said: He always contacted me. I get the feeling though he won’t contact ever again because I wasn’t ready to move as quickly as he was in the sex dept. and because i then made the comments questioning his motives when HE said he had been chasing ME for years. Probably dodged a bullet but I was nevertheless disappointed cuz I certainly could have liked him. Yes, that happens. I've been in that position so leave it where it is and let that person go. Don't feel guilty about where you stand or start twisting into a pretzel to help someone like you. He's been a friend and acquaintance for awhile so leave it that way and move on to find a relationship that is actually a relationship (in your eyes) and with someone meaningful or who loves/cares for you in the same way you would for him.
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