Aperson9944 Posted November 18, 2021 Share Posted November 18, 2021 (edited) I met this girl out of the blue. We wound up talking to each other. I asked her questions. She asked me questions. We laughed. Days went by and I did not give her much thought. We are both students and live in the same dorm. We bump into each other often in the common space. One evening, she asked me about myself and I wound up telling her a story about myself. She was very eager to hear and listened with fascination. I wound up talking to her about my passion for classical literature and she was looking at me with a smile such warmth in her eyes... that in that moment the seed of the idea of a relationship with her was dropped in the barren soil of my heart that is so tired of bad experiences of this kind that I just block out any such opportunities. We wind up reading a classical theater book together almost every evening for about an hour or two, with tea and snacks. We are having the best of times. Laughing and learning new words and pretending to be the characters... Slowly I feel my frozen heart beginning to melt. Could this be it? The moment that I finnaly meet the one? She herself seems to get closer to me and does not shy away from unintentional hand touches or sitting so close to each other that our shoulders and legs touch. I cannot help but wander if she may be thinking the same such tkughts... Then, after about a week of such daily evenings with our book and laughs and tea and what mit, we are once again in our place where we read, ready to start the new session, and we chip chat a little bit before we begin... and during the conversation she casually mentions that she has a boyfriend. I could not help but wander how comes she lives alone then and why would she spent her evenings with me instead of talking to her boyfriend who might or might not live in the same city... To be honest. I felt a little bit like an idiot and also a little bit broken hearted. I would by no means want to steal somebody else's girlfriend, so I was thinking that it should be the case that I slowly distance myself from this girl whose presence brought me such delight into my lonesome life...just like having to take a bitter medicine. What is it that I do wrong in my life when it comes to relationships? Edited November 18, 2021 by Aperson9944 Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 18, 2021 Share Posted November 18, 2021 2 hours ago, Aperson9944 said: instead of talking to her boyfriend who might or might not live in the same city... Did she say she has a BF? Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aperson9944 Posted November 18, 2021 Author Share Posted November 18, 2021 Yes Link to post Share on other sites
Wiseman2 Posted November 18, 2021 Share Posted November 18, 2021 5 minutes ago, Aperson9944 said: Yes Ok,then it's the no-fly zone with her. Step way back unless you can handle just being study buddies. It's ok to have a crush, but if you want a GF you may want to get a good profile and pics on quality dating apps and start talking to and meeting women for a low-key coffee ☕. That way you can find someone single and mutually interested in dating. You'll need to make more effort, not just talking to girls conveniently located in your dorm. Link to post Share on other sites
Author Aperson9944 Posted November 18, 2021 Author Share Posted November 18, 2021 Thanks. I would rather delete this post. I regret writing it. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
introverted1 Posted November 18, 2021 Share Posted November 18, 2021 4 hours ago, Aperson9944 said: Thanks. I would rather delete this post. I regret writing it. You can't delete but you can ask for the thread to be closed. Click on the 3 dots and flag the post for a moderator. Link to post Share on other sites
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