Alpacalia Posted November 18, 2021 Posted November 18, 2021 6 minutes ago, GoodVibess said: because that is what turns me on and they are handsome in my eyes. men with no beard look like women Oh. Okay. Do you put that in your dating app preferences? 2
smackie9 Posted November 18, 2021 Posted November 18, 2021 Unfortunately you attract who you attract. Sounds like this guy is out of your league. You will probably have to amp up your looks to get into the game or at least your foot in the door. Guys are visual creatures. First thing they notice is the eyes. Fit and healthy are next. They also like confidence and femininity. 1
stillafool Posted November 18, 2021 Posted November 18, 2021 20 hours ago, Alvi said: Well, she is at the age where saying "hi" is equivalent of striking up a conversation. I'm sorry Goodvibes I didn't see where you put your age - how old are you?
czanclus Posted November 18, 2021 Posted November 18, 2021 23 hours ago, dramafreezone said: I never think of someone as "taken" anymore. Everyone is technically available in my mind, it's just a matter of what their options are and how you measure up against those options. If you measure up favorably, they're interested, if not they're not interested. Interesting point of view, and not that I entirely disagree either. You should go talk to women on the OW forum, give them encouragement that their MM isn't taken, he just has better options, hence not choosing them. Maybe if they were cuter, fitter, more charming, more giving, more open... measuring 'more favorably' overall, and for best results - across the board...
czanclus Posted November 18, 2021 Posted November 18, 2021 @GoodVibess, next time he looks at you for more than 2.5 seconds, if he looks at you, smile and walk over to him. Tell him genuinely that you are sorry that you couldn't make the presentation due to a family emergency. If he responds kindly, with a smile and tells you not to worry about it, ask him if you can make it up by getting him a cup of coffee. Your company optional. If he seems offput that you are standing in front of him, makes barely any eye contact and dismissively tells you 'it's all good', walk away and move on with life. Your tastes in 'bad boys' will likely change, but if they don't - own it all the same, and let no one shame you or try to 'set you straight' into what types of men you should settle for lest you end up a disconsolate spinster. Meanwhile, study really well on what kind of girls these men go for, and make sure you check as many boxes as you possibly can. If you cannot be bothered to mold yourself to their preferences, come to terms with the odds that be, and seek happiness elsewhere.
Author GoodVibess Posted November 20, 2021 Author Posted November 20, 2021 On 11/18/2021 at 9:52 AM, Alpaca said: Oh. Okay. Do you put that in your dating app preferences? yes i actually do, but it seems they never match me?
basil67 Posted November 20, 2021 Posted November 20, 2021 (edited) 14 minutes ago, GoodVibess said: yes i actually do, but it seems they never match me? Probably because beards are transient. He knows that if he wants to shave it off, then he'll have to deal with your displeasure. Edited November 20, 2021 by basil67
dramafreezone Posted November 20, 2021 Posted November 20, 2021 On 11/18/2021 at 8:25 AM, czanclus said: @GoodVibess, next time he looks at you for more than 2.5 seconds, if he looks at you, smile and walk over to him. Tell him genuinely that you are sorry that you couldn't make the presentation due to a family emergency. If he responds kindly, with a smile and tells you not to worry about it, ask him if you can make it up by getting him a cup of coffee. Your company optional. If he seems offput that you are standing in front of him, makes barely any eye contact and dismissively tells you 'it's all good', walk away and move on with life. Your tastes in 'bad boys' will likely change, but if they don't - own it all the same, and let no one shame you or try to 'set you straight' into what types of men you should settle for lest you end up a disconsolate spinster. Meanwhile, study really well on what kind of girls these men go for, and make sure you check as many boxes as you possibly can. If you cannot be bothered to mold yourself to their preferences, come to terms with the odds that be, and seek happiness elsewhere. You're right, she shouldn't be shamed by people for liking the types of guys she likes. I think I said what you said, make herself more competitive, that's really all she can do if she's not getting the attention she wants from these guys. 1
Wiseman2 Posted November 20, 2021 Posted November 20, 2021 7 hours ago, GoodVibess said: yes i actually do, but it seems they never match me? A lot of people feel the same way you do:
Alpacalia Posted November 20, 2021 Posted November 20, 2021 12 hours ago, GoodVibess said: yes i actually do, but it seems they never match me? I didn't realize there were filters for that sort of thing. So you can actually put in physical attributes like ---> tall men with beards only?
Author GoodVibess Posted November 21, 2021 Author Posted November 21, 2021 On 11/20/2021 at 9:19 AM, Alpaca said: I didn't realize there were filters for that sort of thing. So you can actually put in physical attributes like ---> tall men with beards only? not beards, but height and age yes.
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