HURTANDCONFUSED81 Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 I am 24 years old and this guy Ive been talking to is 27. He's actually a family friend of 7 years..we grew up together but we've never talked like this until now. He's in med school and has a very busy schedule. We only talk because he's out of state right now and we've been talking for about 3 months now. Everytime we talk, we discuss issues about what we want in a life partner, deep issues about love, relationships and so forth. Lately I realized that I really liked him...and how every conversation seems to always focus on me, where I am in life and what I want. He keeps talking about how he's very hopeful he'll meet the one..he is ready to settle down. My parents really like him..and he gets along with them great. They know about me and him talking..so its no big secret. This is good you would think- but the other night he said he didnt want a relationship because he wanted to focus on his career. I was so confused because why do we always talk about it? Im lost. He said he's been really hurt in the past ..and so have I. He encourages me to meet other people..but just the day before he said he was willing to not focus so much on his career. But I guses he has no choice but to do so. And I guess what Im asking is..do I give up ? I mean, I dont know what he wants. He sounds like he's interested..he calls to apologize and thanks me for my patience when he cant call back ASAP. I dont understand what he wants from me and what we have here. do I listen to him and meet other guys..or was that a test? He said he was psychoanalyzing me...its like he doenst trust me? What is it?! Please help!
laRubiaBonita Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 i would say he is not ready to settle down with you. so keeep on looking, although, you can still be his friend....maybe he will like you more when you are not avaliable.
JS17 Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 He tells you he's looking for the one and wants to know what you're looking for. You have the same views and you're looking for the same things out of life. He tells you to date around. He's pulling you in and pushing you away. He's messing with your head. He's playing games and can't be straightforward with you. Move on. Don't wait for him because he has not recovered from being hurt. He's running scared. He will continue to jerk you around until HE is comfortable. I say don't wait until it gets to that point, don't let him use you to recover.
kitkat826 Posted October 21, 2005 Posted October 21, 2005 I usually find that if a girl has to ask this, then he doesn't. And even if deep down he does but is too scared/confused/whatever on the outside to show it, then he's not ready nor worth the time it will take to make him ready. I would do my best to move on and forget about him.
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