MIAho Posted November 11, 2021 Posted November 11, 2021 About four years ago, I started working with another teacher at my school. We shared a classroom and taught the same students. We would spend hours together afterschool working on our lesson plans and talking about work. Eventually it got to the point where we would meet outside of work at a Starbucks and plan our lessons. At the same time I started working with this woman, I also started dating my girlfriend. As my relationship with my girlfriend started to get serious, so did the connection that I had with my colleague. Even though she knew that I had a girlfriend, it didn't seem to stop her from dropping hints that she was attracted to me. She admitted that she felt comfortable around me and even once invited me to her apartment, but I never went. When I had left the school we worked at, I still continued to meet her at Starbucks to lesson plan and work together on regular basis. One night, we met up with another teacher that we worked with and his girlfriend. After they left, we went to her car and she drove me home. As I was about to leave her car, she hugged and then just stared at me for a second and looked at me like she wanted to kiss me but she stopped herself and just gave me another hug. The following year, I started working at another school in the suburbs and she told me that she had been seeing someone. We made plans to go to Starbucks again but she annoyed me when she told me that she had forgot about it the day that we were supposed to go. Despite that she still made it and still hugged me. Eventually, I started to get overwhelmed at my new job and our text conversations started to get shorter. When COVID shut everything down, we went 8 months without texting each other and even at that, we never really brought up getting together and we lost touch with each other. Recently, I heard from another colleague that she was once again single but overly focused on work and encouraged me to reach out to her. I also recently broke up with my girlfriend and a big reason for that were the feelings I had for my former co-worker. I always felt that it sucked that we lost touch with each other. Even though its been almost a year since we last spoke, Should I contact her?
Wiseman2 Posted November 11, 2021 Posted November 11, 2021 30 minutes ago, MIAho said: Recently, I heard from another colleague that she was once again single but overly focused on work and encouraged me to reach out to her. Even though its been almost a year since we last spoke, Should I contact her? Start off simply. Connect on social media or on LinkedIn. Send a friend/contact/follow request. . Follow a bit them PM and see where things are. If she seems interested, then suggest coffee.
ASG Posted November 11, 2021 Posted November 11, 2021 This person was a friend. It doesn't matter that a year has gone by. Shoot her a text, ask how she's doing. If the conversation flows, suggest meeting up for coffee/whatever! 2 1
Author MIAho Posted November 12, 2021 Author Posted November 12, 2021 5 hours ago, Wiseman2 said: Start off simply. Connect on social media or on LinkedIn. Send a friend/contact/follow request. . Follow a bit them PM and see where things are. If she seems interested, then suggest coffee. Why should I reach out on social media if I have her phone number? Just asking 1
Wiseman2 Posted November 12, 2021 Posted November 12, 2021 7 hours ago, MIAho said: Why should I reach out on social media if I have her phone number? Just asking Ok do a cold call on the advice of your friend and see what happens. Especially when you haven't even spoken in a year. Then explain you just broke up with your GF. You could scope things out first, but it's up to you, of course.
smackie9 Posted November 12, 2021 Posted November 12, 2021 Sounds like a nice love story...of course reach out to her. I'm sure she would welcome a nice distraction 1
ASG Posted November 13, 2021 Posted November 13, 2021 On 11/12/2021 at 10:47 AM, Wiseman2 said: Ok do a cold call on the advice of your friend and see what happens. Especially when you haven't even spoken in a year. Then explain you just broke up with your GF. You could scope things out first, but it's up to you, of course. It doesn't have to be a call. SMS and Whatsapp are actual things that most people use. Sending a text IS scoping things out. Sending a msg via social media is definitely awkward and weird if that was not the way they used to communicate. I am about to call a friend I haven't spoken to in a year! It's his birthday soon! Does it matter that we haven't spoken? I can tell you, it does NOT! OP, definitely reach out via phone. Either a text or call (I'm a texter, so that would definitely be my choice, but it really depends on how you used to communicate before), but reach out, for sure! 1
LatinCoffee Posted November 19, 2021 Posted November 19, 2021 Text her and say Hi. Invite her back out for coffee.
Killian898 Posted November 19, 2021 Posted November 19, 2021 Yep, I’d definitely text her. Sounds like the spark might be there between you and also you’re both now single. Why not?
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