Would you date someone who is into Reiki and Tarot Card reading?

[Alvi]

I've been talking to someone on-line for the last few days. He told he that he had visited a shaman few days ago, he is into reiki and tarot cards, he listens to a physic lady who does his psychic readings on-line. He enlightened me about the Chronicles of Akashi (never knew about that). He also does tarot card readings himself.  He seems like a nice guy and he asked me on a date. I am interested in spiritual stuff myself but not to the same extent. Would you date a person who is into all of that? Would you seek a long term relationship with him or her? Is it actually possible? Like I said, he seems like a nice person but it is too much for me to digest. By the way, he has a normal job and a house.

Edited November 11, 2021 by Alvi

[Wiseman2]

1 minute ago, Alvi said:

He seems like a nice guy and he asked me on a date. 

Meet for coffee. It should at least be interesting, even if there's clearly incompatibilities and a few deal breakers. If you think he's trying to recruit people for a cult or he's a fanatic or flake, a simple coffee won't do any harm.

[divegrl]

Yes!!!

I would at least go on one date with him for a tarot reading, lol!

[Alvi]

1 minute ago, divegrl said:

Yes!!!

I would at least go on one date with him for a tarot reading, lol!

That was what I was thinking too. lol. Who can resist a free Tarot card reading? lol

[Foxhall]

Yes why not?

I love the whole area of alternative health , and alternative therapies,

different approaches to mind and body health-love all that 

 

[vla1120]

1 hour ago, Alvi said:

By the way, he has a normal job and a house.

If the other spirituality stuff is just a hobby of his, there is no harm in that. Finding someone with a normal job and house of their own is half the battle these days. Take some time and get to know him. If the red flags are popping and alarms are going off in your head, you can end it after one coffee.

[Versacehottie]

1 hour ago, Alvi said:

he seems like a nice person but it is too much for me to digest.

I think if you are asking the question and saying the above ^^^^, it's/him is not for you. 

In a way, you have to think of what a guy is leading with, ie in this case, he's leading with this stuff so it's got to be super important to him and what he'd like to impress upon you---before you know him at a more basic level. One can only assume this is a huge part of his "basic" level.  Down to personal preferences but I think your gut is already turned off by this, is that right?

[smackie9]

Me? No way. It’s a lifestyle. Plus this is what he spends his money on. 

[Mrin]

Absolutely. I speak woo. Most of the women i've dated in the last 10 years have been woo-woo hippies of some sort. They can be a lot of fun and actually some of the stuff is pretty interesting. Check out Dr. Joe Dispenza for a good entry point into the world of woo for non-woo people.

[Alpacalia]

Is it a way of life or a hobby for him?

If it's the former, it might be akin to a non-vegan dating a vegan.

For instance if he's deeply into it, he might start imposing his beliefs on you.

But, maybe you'll find his thoughts on it enlightening.

Edited November 11, 2021 by Alpaca

[healing light]

Yes, I have come across a lot of these types of people because of my field (I'm in the alternative healthcare field). I was certified in Reiki 15 years ago out of curiosity (I don't really use it) and like to play around with tarot cards for fun, too. But it really depends on the person and how grounded they are.

My experience is that there are a wide range of personalities drawn to these subjects. Some people may be apt to experiment with substances or are into the toxic positivity culture, while others can be very heart-centered and wonderful conversationalists--so I would just evaluate them like you usually do on a date-by-date basis and see who they reveal themselves to be. If they are truly open minded, they won't mind that you believe in other things.

Edited November 11, 2021 by healing light

[Lisa]

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[Supernova11]

No, I wouldn’t personally go on a date with him as I don’t believe in any spiritually so that would go against my ethics. Question is, does it go against yours?

[basil67]

Given that you're interested in the topic, albeit to a lesser degree, I'd give him a date.  What have you got to lose other than a couple of hours or a few dates?  

 

[chillii]

2 hours ago, Versacehottie said:

I think if you are asking the question and saying the above ^^^^, it's/him is not for you. 

In a way, you have to think of what a guy is leading with, ie in this case, he's leading with this stuff so it's got to be super important to him and what he'd like to impress upon you---before you know him at a more basic level. One can only assume this is a huge part of his "basic" level.  Down to personal preferences but I think your gut is already turned off by this, is that right?

Yeah that's what l thought.

l mean and he's of the more as in living it type variety which will make him far more , l dunno if fanatical is the word but something like that. You don't want that unless it's something your that way about yourself , especially in that sort of thing.

My ex w has done tarot all her life , my daughter does tarot , my partner now uses cards and l've used cards all my adult life myself too . l mainly only use them in business though l don't like to involve or incorporate cards into my life itself though.

Similar with ex , my daughter and now my partner they've all only used them for certain thing or areas, not to live by and not in any fanatical for want of a better word , way.  And tbh , anyone l've met over the yrs that do , or claim to , apart from genuine older people in some cultures, are usually just fulla shyt , and him actually opening with it all like that to you , straight away tells me he probably is too. And he's already filling your head with crap , that's not how it is with anyone real usually.

But eh , go along if you like , nothing to lose if you liked other things about him l suppose, but yeah the way your feeling is already giving you the answer.

 

 

 

 

Edited November 11, 2021 by chillii

[Lotsgoingon]

I have two close friends who are shamans or who do shamanic work. One is also a Reiki master.

I get why you might not want to meet the person. If I didn't have these particular friends--who explained so much of their thinking to me over time--I might have avoided people into Shaman work and Reiki work.

I'll just say this: both of my friends have intuition bordering on the psychic. But it's not just intuition: both are world-class listeners. I mean amazing listeners. They don't jump ahead in their minds to their response to what I'm saying. They listen to deeply take in what I'm saying and what I'm feeling.

I can call up either of these people, start talking about an errand I ran or something mundane and after a couple of minutes of listening, they know my mood to a freakishly exact level.  If I'm saying I feel great but my tone indicates otherwise, both of these friends can pick up on it. In fact, it was through working with my one friend, the Shaman who is also a Reiki master, that I learned a lot about body language and vocal tone. And body language and vocal tone are hugely relevant to dating--where we want to words to match the body language. 

Don't know if that means anything to you. 

[Angelle]

Yes, but not if they've gone full HayHouse guru-worship. [ ] 

I have a good friend who is trained in Reiki, and know men who read the tarot. They're good people. 

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[Trail Blazer]

I could never see myself being in a relationship with someone who is into all that stuff.  A date?  Maybe.  However, I'd be making it clear that I don't see a future together.

[Gaeta]

It's a definite no for me. 

The bio mother of my teen girl was in Reiki and it warped her mind so much she lost her little girl's custody AND  has no right to communicate with her. That tells you how much that stuff can enter your head and warp your thinking. 

[mark clemson]

As someone who has some alternate beliefs myself, I would try to remain open-minded, while being on the lookout for red flags. But really one should be on the lookout for those in any new relationship. I've known a couple of folks who were heavily into this sort of thing who were (IMO) also emotionally unstable. However, that's certainly a VERY small sample size + I've known folks NOT into such things who were emotionally unstable as well. So open mind.

IF it contradicts your values and/or belief system heavily, then it would probably be a mistake to move forward. I think you'd realize this already if it were the case.

Edited November 12, 2021 by mark clemson

[Maldives]

I think it's great you may learn a thing or two and be a lil more open to the esoteric nothing wrong with that at all 

[Girl Fade Away]

Christians believe God will heal them.  And there is another religion, Wiccan, whose followers place 'spells' on people.  It is not the stone or God that heals but their FAITH that the stone or God will heal.  Or that placing a spell on someone has significance.  Having that faith.  Faith is a very powerful thing. 

People have all kinds of religious and spiritual beliefs they follow.  Some are fanatical about it and others are more grounded. I do not think it is fair to judge a person based on how another person chooses to practice their beliefs.  

@Alvi  I would go if we were vibing well and felt a connection over messaging.  I have an extremely open mind and enjoy learning new things even if not my own cup of tea.  

It is only one meet.  One never knows.  He might not be fanatical but more grounded and if brings a positive influence to his life, then who is anyone to judge that?  If during your meet, you are not vibing well or you think his beliefs are over the top, then do not see again.  But one meet will not hurt.  It will be an interesting experience if nothing else. 

 

Edited November 12, 2021 by Girl Fade Away

[introverted1]

1 hour ago, Girl Fade Away said:

Christians believe God will heal them. 

True.  Religion is religion, whether God(s) or spirits or druids or crystals.

[Gaeta]

 

19 minutes ago, introverted1 said:

True.  Religion is religion, whether God(s) or spirits or druids or crystals.

The danger is the depth in which you are involved in these believes. Any religion, faith, believes, that put science aside is a huge big flashing NO for me. 

[Veronica73]

It depends on the person. For instance, I’m really interested in tarot, but not as a fortune-telling kind of thing, but as a different lens…or model…to look at things.

Also, I don’t think I’d have an issue being with a person who is Christian, even though I’m agnostic. But an evangelical Christian….hell no. I’ll nope right out of that.