sepsa Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 Hello everyone, Just looking for some / any advice to either reassure me or perhaps make me reconsider? I MAY have finally met a girl who likes me every bit as much as I like her. Long story short, we met back in the Spring and went out a few times. However, I was burned pretty badly a few months earlier and I guess I wasn’t fully ready for anything. So we gradually lost contact (more my doing than hers). Then, one month ago, out of the blue, out of nowhere, she kept popping into my head and I kept thinking about her! So I decided to call her, left a voicemail, she replied, we started talking, went out that following Saturday, and have been going out every Saturday ever since. She’s responded with enthusiasm to me in every way. We have a great time everytime and seem to really connect. So…things have been going very well! We are exclusively, causally dating. Each time we’re out, and also when we talk on the phone, we’re both always planning our next date, sometimes she even suggests doing other things at a later date and time, indicating that she anticipates still seeing me “down the road”. So my question is: I don’t want to blow a good thing that could turn into a great thing! I’ve made the mistake in the past of making myself too available, maybe rushing things a bit. This is a rather unique situation. We’re still early in the “relationship” but it’s apparent that both sides feel quite strongly for the other…and it’s a good feeling. However, I think I should still, at this stage, plays things cool (but not too cool) and not make myself too available (e.g., call her too often). Does anyone agree / disagree? Any other pointers would be of great help and appreciation. Thanks!
elijahBailey Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 So my question is: I don’t want to blow a good thing that could turn into a great thing! I’ve made the mistake in the past of making myself too available, maybe rushing things a bit. This is a rather unique situation. We’re still early in the “relationship” but it’s apparent that both sides feel quite strongly for the other…and it’s a good feeling. Skip the games with this chick. She's not the type you need to play games with. She digs you. How to not blow a good thing like this? Well, how about you keep consciously thinkin' about it. know what I mean? Chill out. You're doin' fine.
slubberdegullion Posted October 20, 2005 Posted October 20, 2005 I’ve made the mistake in the past of making myself too available, maybe rushing things a bit. Learning from past mistakes is a sign of maturity. Congratulations. IMHO, it's not about making yourself scarce or too available. I see it as more like having interests and an active life outside the relationship. That's all to the good. When you're with her, be there 100%. But that doesn't mean you have to be with her 100% of the time, nor is it a reasonable expectation on either of your parts. So relax, take it cool and slowly, and build strong foundations.
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